I'm Sorry...

Okay this post made me really mad actually and I usually don’t go on a rant. But I need to get this off my chest, I struggle with this subject A LOT. I get the point of this post and I agree. It’s not an apology and yes we need to do better. “Im sorry I suck” isn’t an apology and definitely not an excuse. But instead of attacking those with mental health and saying they are manipulative, maybe an alternative solution could be stated. Like correcting the person and guide them to rephrase the apology into “I am sorry I did that.” Most of those with mental illness are not using it to manipulate. It is literally the thought process that goes through our heads and it becomes vocalized in such way. We are not trying to deceive. It’s a defense mechanism that we’ve learned to used because we have such a HUGE fear of losing the relationship. Instead of telling someone with mental health issues to “do better,” maybe help guide them. Correct them and resolve the conflict. Dismissal and invalidation of a persons emotions will just make it worse and may possibly lead to suicide. Help if you see the signs. It’s not easy to deal with and my husband can testify to that. But you also have to remember, that person is at war with themselves and that’s difficult for them too. Living is difficult and some days you feel like you’re losing. Nothing gets better with ignorance. (I’m going based off of my personal experience)

He didn’t run.

Sounds about right.