The Lady Mousepad

to white folks, this is a time for you to celebrate as well, but things are far from over. reach out to your poc and trans friends, particularly your black and trans friends, and check on them and make sure they feel safe. DO NOT STOP DONATING TO PAYPALS AND GOFUNDMES. CONTINUE SHARING RESOURCES AND INFORMATION. CONTINUE PARTICIPATING IN COMMUNITY AID. electing biden did not simultaneously wipe out the issues many marginalized communities are facing. YOUR PART IN THIS IS NOT OVER BECAUSE THIS FIGHT IS NOT OVER. continue spreading

to succinctly sum up the energy we need to cultivate going forward:

dammit, fundies, stop making cool monsters

What I simply meant was that they're bigoted; they hate something inherent about other groups of people, most especially things that cannot be changed, and being nice will not change the fact that they are hateful.

Those dates you go on with your partner? They’re in public. Unmasked. Your server smiles at you. Everyone feels safe.

You can hug your friends.

You can see a movie. The people in the movie are gay people of color and they kiss and live happily ever after.

This is:

Crossdressers aren't bad people and you can't ban crossdressing and drag without also hurting future transsexuals.

Crossdressing and drag allow people to explore their gender expression. And some small percentage of them, eventually, will transition. There are a lot of transsexuals who tried crossdressing or drag before they were sure they wanted to transition.

In fact in the old school crossdresser community transitioning is sometimes called "going full time". As in, "I'm Alice on weekends but some day I might go full time." From that perspective, transsexuality does not have to be a wholly distinct thing from crossdressing, but rather it can be a commitment to be always who you already were part-time.

Crossdressers, of course, have never been dependent on the Benjamin protocol and all its baggage, so their perspective is one in which there is no great need to divide the community into a puritanical binary of deserving transsexuals and fetishistic transvestites.

I like that about them.