get off tiktok now. get off instagram, twitter, anything that's powered by algorithms designed to make you mad, to engage with more and more outrageous things.

you're quite literally wasting your time arguing with bots and people who take pleasure in ruining your mood. you're letting those big corporations win by engaging in their time wasting trap.

it won't do any good to you, and i get it, it can feel like you need to keep an eye out for what's happening in the world. but you literally don't have to, you don't need to be another audience member for this shitshow.

please, please, stop giving them your time and energy. what you're getting there is a curated piece of everything that's wrong with those basement dwellers that are waiting for you to engage with their neverending nightmare of useless discourse. don't let them steal your time, your energy, your attention.

your time will be better spent almost anywhere else. read the book that you've always wanted to, visit a park or call a friend, play a game or even binge watch some silly show that will take your mind off of the things that are bothering you. read some stuff on wikipedia, solve a sudoku or do a crossword puzzle.

a baby boy named cohen wiley was just murdered by police several days ago. racism & police brutality are still alive and well regardless of how many people try to deny it

"So yeah, for well over a decade, the discourse  around low birth rates and demographic crisis has  treated as a major issue in the media. But in  the Korean press, this population crisis usually framed through issues like extreme competition  among young people, economic insecurity,  shigh private education costs, and long working hours. They are all right, but in other words, the domino narrative is that young people cannot  afford to have children even if they want to, because they cannot find stable jobs or earn  enough money, but in fact, that is a very male-centered perspective. And under patriarchy,  men are still expected to be breadwinners who earn enough to have a household and provide financial  stability.

So this narrative is really expressing male anxiety, that it has become harder for them  to fulfill that role and build a family. For women though, the more fundamental issue is often not  just money, it is the fear that marriage and childbirth will derail their lives and destroy the  work and stability they have built for themselves. But that side of the story is often overlooked in  both media coverage and political discussion. In fact, as more women have entered higher education  and the workforce, there has also been a growing  resentment toward women's economic independence  with some people suggesting that women's social advancement has made it harder for men to find jobs and become household heads.  

And when the media covers women who do not  give birth, it almost always portrays them as women who just desperately want children, but are  unable to have them for various reasons. And the idea that some women simply do not want children  in the first place is rarely acknowledged. And that is one reason the 4B movement is almost never  taken up as a serious agenda in mainstream media, especially in the major outlet. And a woman  who does not want marriage, childbirth, or even a male partner is treated in a Korean society almost like an alien or a herotic. And the media seems to think that even giving  such women visibility might influence other women who are still seen as so-called desirable  or normal by Korean society.

So the favored choice is to deny them a platform altogether.  And this is not dramatically different even in media that are considered progressive, and  that's another interesting part. Some people even argue that because Korea as a whole remains  so conservative, what passes as progressive here is still far less progressive than what that  word would imply in many Western contexts. So even progressive media and progressive political  parties do not take a particularly critical stance towards patriarchy itself.

So issues like the 4B  movement are simply never adopted as part of the agenda. And one last thing I want to say is there is a thing that the real power of the media lies not only in what it covers, but in what it chooses  not to cover, I think that explains very well how political that silence can be. And to me, this  deliberate and thorough indifference toward 4B women is one of the clearest expressions  of the mood of mainstream Korean society."

I'm asking you to close down the pornography outlets wherever you can and to stop the distribution wherever you can, in whatever way you can.

I am asking you to stop passing: stop having feminism be part of a secret life. I am asking you not to apologize to anyone for standing up for women.

I am asking you to organize political support for women who kill men who have been hurting them. They have been isolated and alone.

This is a political issue. They're being punished, because at some moment in their lives, they resisted a domination that they were expected to accept. They stand there in jail for us, for every one of us who got away without having to pull the trigger, for every one of us who lived to tell about getting away without having the trigger pulled on us.

I am asking you to stop men who beat women. Get them jailed or get them killed, but stop them. Men who rape make a choice to rape. And men who beat women make a choice to beat women. And we women now have choices that we have to make to fight back.

I am asking you to look at every single political possibility for fighting back-instead of saying, "I asked him, I told him, but he just wouldn't stop." We need to find ways to do it together. But we need to do it.”

okay so why is the bible true

'because the bible says it's true'

'trans women are women'

hm. okay why are trans women women?

knee to the groin

nails to the eyes

a can of mace in your pocket (never in your bag, it's harder to just grab and use in an emergency situation)

if he's lying down, stomp on his ankle with full force

personal alarm device is a great addition, a sudden loud noise is confusing and distracting, while also alerting people around who might pay attention

same thing with a taser, the sound alone is intimidating as hell

don't carry a knife or other tools like this if you're not absolutely, completely 100% confident in your fighting skills with it - it's easy to take away, you can even accidentally drop it, and it could be used against you

comfortable shoes can go a long way - personal confrontation is a last resort situation. run for your life if you can

never tuck your thumb inside your fist - lay it over your fingers instead. you don't want to break it

if you have to, you can harden your fist by putting a matchbox inside - keys and other hard object are highly discourages. matchbox is easy to carry and can give your punch a stronger blow

your elbow hook is absolutely capable of breaking a nose

do literally anything it takes to get out of this situation. use what you can to your advantage. keys on a chain as a whip, pens, nails, teeth - anything. don't be afraid of taking action

Mothers are more likely to be killed by their sons than a stranger

@nicenormalwitch, I mean this really seriously

This is not true, Being a single woman is WAY less dangerous than being a married one.

Men will literally use your mental health issues against you in order to date you. when you are in a vulnerable mental state, letting MEN get inti a situation where they can use that against you is NOT a safe environment.

Especially because your husband assaulted you and abused you for years, strangers didn't.

YOU. ARE. BETTER. ALONE

By the 1980s, Dan had become an incredibly wealthy, prominent medical malpractice attorney in La Jolla, California, and the family enjoyed an elite lifestyle.

However, the marriage fractured in 1983 when Dan hired 21-year-old Linda Kolkena as his legal assistant, sparked a blatant affair, and eventually moved out of the family home.

What followed was one of the most toxic, protracted divorces in California history, during which Dan used his extensive knowledge of the legal system to systematically strip Betty of her custody rights, her allowance, and her dignity.

He utilized legal maneuvers that Betty called “white-collar domestic violence,” such as fining her thousands of dollars out of her support payments every time she lost her temper or left angry messages on his answering machine. Driven to near-madness by the gaslighting and isolation, Betty retaliated by driving her car straight through the front door of Dan’s new mansion, spray-painting the interior of his house, and leaving hundreds of obscene, profanity-laced messages on his voicemail.

Dan responded by having Betty briefly committed to a mental hospital and obtaining a restraining order. In April 1989, Dan married Linda, hiring undercover security guards for the wedding because Linda genuinely feared Betty would kill them.

The study found that LGB women were more likely to be victimized by abuse than men, which most people took to mean that lesbians were more likely to abuse each other, but if you read the study you’ll find that the majority of the perpetrators of abuse of these LGB women were men, not fellow women.

And here’s a helpful article that breaks down the rumors/misinformation that have spread as a result of people purposefully misinterpreting this original study and other similar studies: DEBUNKING THE LESBIAN DOMESTIC VIOLENCE DATA. Useful to help understand the statistics and scientific language of the studies and provides a lot of sources and further reading.