It goes like this:

Women being trafficked and forced into prostitution is an atrocity and should be stopped - at this point everyone is still in agreement.

What happens to them is rape - everyone pretty much agrees with this still.

And then: If there are EXTREMELY OBVIOUS warning signs that the prostitute in question is likely a victim of trafficking*, every single john who had sex with her anyway should be prosecuted for rape.

So many people froth at the mouth at the mere suggestion. They get furious if you suggest that this should be the law. But I think nothing could be more reasonable. Trafficking and forced prostitution flourishes because "normal" johns do not care if the prostitute they are paying is there voluntarily. They do not have to care (unless, maybe, if she is underage). Nothing will happen to him.

I say: Make johns deathly afraid of a prostitute possibly being trafficked. I want it to ruin lives to rape a woman who is clearly being forced to prostitute herself.

But no, apparently that's a horrible and hateful stance to have.

I agree that all johns are rapists. This is a kind of argument I like to make with people for two reasons:

It is VERY common and according to German senior detective superintendent Helmut Sporer, who has been investigating the field for decades, applies to "hundreds of thousands" of women in Germany. The extremely obvious signs are more common than NOT.

The person you are talking to cannot argue that these men are ignorant. It's genuinely SO obvious that these women are being trafficked that you cannot argue these john aren't wilfully accepting it. German law is extremely permissive, but it is clear that the legal concept of "billigend in Kauf nehmen"* does applies here. (*this is important in German law for proving criminal intent: The perpetrator is aware a consequence is possible and accepts it indifferently even if the consequence is not their goal. If that is the case, German courts treat it as INTENTIONAL and not negligence.)

What the fuck

“She was very shaken, but with complete professionalism, she piloted the plane to the airfield and landed perfectly,” he said.

Your own analogy is crap - in it you’re the innocent and perfectly detached tattoo artist that had nothing to do with the art or the placement or the size or color of the piece, just head down needle out do the work, get paid for the job done, and anyone who isn’t happy afterwards is a karen who obviously doesn’t understand the industry works.

The problem is that tattoo artists fuck people over all the time on work you fully consented to and paid for. Your consent doesn’t make them not liable for their own mistakes. They pressure you into designs you don’t really love because it fits their style better, they do wonky lines and impossible anatomy, they spell things wrong, they shade poorly or blend colors weirdly, they scratch or cut you with the needles, they overcharge and then still act like you’re scum if you don’t leave a huge tip. They expect you to love it even if they do a shit job. There’s any number of things a tattoo artist can do to not just give you a terrible experience but to make you regret and resent something you were once excited and hopeful about.

The worst part is hearing them bitch and moan about how awful a client was and then go on to describe completely a person behaving perfectly reasonably.

And that attitude is pretty familiar:

If you change your mind after I’ve sold you something that’s your own fault!

If you regret it after I’ve done something permanent to you that’s not my responsibility!

If you’ve been groomed to believe you’ll die young and miserable without transition and then you’re still unhappy afterwards then you can fuck right off!

Where’s even a hint of the love and compassion and understanding they claim we need to all have for anyone questioning or confused about gender? Where’s the empathy? Trans people claim to be the most marginalized abused helpless population on the planet, and they can’t bring themselves to give a shit about the kids they leave behind in the wake of their overmedicalized ideology.

If this is truly your attitude then just call yourself the trans industrial complex. You don’t care about kids being happy or healthy, you don’t have a leg to stand on to even try and claim you do. You’re part of a system that tells kids that the only solution to feeling strange or uncomfortable in their bodies is medication and surgery, and then immediately and cruelly abandons them when it isn’t successful. That mocks them when it goes wrong. That turns on them the instant they start to have doubts.

You are the shitty tattoo artist actually, because after they get the surgeries you told them they cant live without, if they don’t absolutely love it then you’re content to wash your hands of the matter. You made your contribution and it’s out of your hands. Not your problem, not your responsibility, they brought this on themselves, they should have thought about it more beforehand, they were obviously never really trans.

we owe them 🫩🫩🫩🫩

thought i’d share SOME of the points:

• maintenance sex

• patriarchal sex and lack of orgasm

• constantly shaving their body hair

• disproportionate domestic/emotional/mental labour while claiming the relationship is “50/50”

• subsidising his lifestyle (i.e. splitting the groceries when he’s the one who eats way more, being the only reason his apartment is clean and there’s not pubes on the bathroom floor)

• dealing with his porn addiction (where he’s watching teens and rape and misogynistic acts)

• dealing with his secret porn addiction while he claims he doesn’t watch it

• high chance of him being a pedo, misogynist, abuser, narcissistic, manipulative, etc.

• male ego and general lack of personality and accountability

• constantly having your nervous system dysregulated

• lack of meaningful care and conversation in general, especially in comparison to an average female friendship

• women having to use intrusive birth control methods because the male would rather risk her health than wrap it up

• him bonding with other men over misogyny and not having pro-social behaviours where he pro-actively stands up for women, minorities, etc.

• having to accept him checking out other women in real life, on social media, etc. and being micro-cheated on constantly, while being told it’s not cheating and that you’re insecure and crazy and a controlling bitch actually

• spending hours and hundreds on beauty maintenance while he… looks like that

• being rushed while getting ready

• never being allowed to be ugly in her own space

• total loss of bodily autonomy (i.e. being groped while doing the dishes)

• doing his laundry and cooking for him

• sharing a bed with a man (especially one who snores and is unhygienic)

• skid marks and piss and hair left in YOUR bathroom

• dealing with someone else’s trauma, from a sex that is averse to therapy and developing emotional intelligence

• a male shit-talking their past female exes (what did he do to her?)

• most males being okay with casually lying to their partner

• most males only being as loyal as their options and cheating on her if another woman ever expressed interest in him

• playing the role of a mother and a wife to a manchild

• no empathy or meaningful additional support while on your period

• having to tip toe around mantrums

• constant yeast infections and UTIs

• constantly being belittled, gaslighted, psychologically micro-abused on a daily basis

• male insecurity and jealousy, especially if you’re accomplished and attractive

• manage all the logistics and mental load (grocery lists, doctors appointments, “oh, we should go on a date” and subsequently planning the date)

• having to overlook their problematic opinions on most things

• general lack of empathy

• most men aren’t cut out to be romantic partners or platonic friends so how could they possibly be cut out for fatherhood

• having to take interest in his hobbies (sport, video games, anime) while he don’t give a flying fuck about yours

• dealing with male body hair and fat men

• man sweat, armpit hair, asshole hair, balding

• constant objectification

• constantly being reminded that no matter how progressive he is, he is fundamentally a man

• heterosexual relationships being rooted entirely in chance (i.e. of him not being a pedo, misogynistic, abuser)

what strikes me is the fact that you could have the most “feminist” man on the planet yet most of the above still apply lmao

@lusi-1 right, so just to name a few things, i’m sure you’d bet your life on the fact that your hubby has never and will never watch porn while he’s in a relationship with you (100% of men fail right there), pays more for groceries since he presumably eats more, has a vasectomy so the burden of birth control isn’t on you, he does his own laundry and cooking 100% of the time, doesn’t snore in bed and isn’t unhygienic, you’ve somehow witnessed him time and time again stand up for women in front of men when you’re not there, he reads feminist literature…

tbh i can’t be bothered to continue this list because there’s simply no man on earth which passes all of the above, and het-partnered women are notorious for cope. i’ve been in relationships with males before where everything was abysmal yet i’d still feel the need to defend him, so i know how this game goes

if anything, a much more level-headed and believable approach to partnerships with men would be “yeah, he treats me well enough, even though i do disproportionately do the labour and sometimes he touches me when i’m doing the dishes, i hate how he snores, and i fully admit there’s a chance he watches porn/CSAM/rape behind my back”

anything else is just delusional, i’m sorry

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actually, i’m sorry, but i took the liberty to stalk your tumblr for about 5 minutes.

it seems you and your hubby met online, are in a long distance relationship, haven’t meaningfully lived together beyond brief vacations, are asking for financial assistance from strangers so he can marry you (aka use you to move to the west), so how you can confidently comment on many on the points above when you’re not even in a cohabiting relationship is beyond me

it also seems like you and him frequently communicate via your reblogs anyway, which kinda proves my point about het-partnered women are not to be trusted anyway

Old conservative ladies know that men are violent rapists, so they promote finding The Good One and being an obedient wife so you don't trigger a violent outburst and stay protected from other violent men.

Libfems know that and they propagate legal prostitution so that men rape only one cast of women, and not all women. Besides, if you just say yes to all sex, you are unrapeable amirite.

Trans "men" know that and they choose to pretend to be men and blend in so that they are not targets of their violence.

Mothers know that and they dont let their teenage daughters go to shady parties. Fathers know that and they teach their teenage daughters that boys only want one thing.

Pickmes know it and they hope that they can doormat their way into men's loyalty and draw their attention to le ugly feminists instead.

Normie het women know it and they message the guy's license plate to their friend chat and invent elaborate ways to signal SOS when they go out on a date.

Boymoms know it as they are often the ones to cover their sons' horrifying crimes, obviously.

You are directly harming your own cause.

Refusing to acknowledge the existence of the State of Israel doesn’t materially change the reality that Israel is a sovereign nation with over ten million citizens. When leftists in the west chant “from the river to the sea” and “we don’t want no two states”, regardless of the intention, what do you think Israelis hear? What do you think a people that has faced genocide in living memory, from which our population still has not recovered, gets from that? We don’t hear it and consider your points, we hear it and remember all of the times Israel has been attacked with genocidal intent, and only survived through our own defense.

And what does this ultimately result it? It results in Israelis who no longer believe in the peace process. It results in Israelis who feel a visceral sense of fear which leads to doubling down on national security. It leads to diaspora Jews feeling unsafe in their communities and immigrating to Israel.