dare i say they're asexual?

it’s okay if you’re just straight and cis. you don’t NEED to be anything else.

i’m not saying that to reassure straight or cis people that they’re still good people or whatever, because i consider those kinds of sentiments to be so unnecessary that i question anyone who thinks they’re important enough to preach out loud, you can go outside and no one will beat you up for being those things. you’ll be fine. you are never in danger for being those things like gay and trans people are.

asexuality is not a spectrum. you either feel sexual attraction, or you don’t. wanting/not wanting to engage in sexual activity, feeling/not feeling sexual attraction towards people is all normal. only being in love with one person or a few people in your life doesn’t make you demi or grey ace. it’s literally just normal to feel that way. it can be difficult to find someone you really connect with, but that doesn’t mean you should turn that one specific instance of attraction into a sexuality.

the ace community has given no insight as to how much sexual attraction one can feel before they aren’t considered asexual anymore. for example, grey asexuality is something they have come up with, and it’s defined as only feeling sexual attraction sometimes (or under specific circumstances, i believe). that is honestly just a NORMAL way to feel, because you aren’t going to want to have sex with every person you meet. but they still do feel sexual attraction, so how are they ace? or on the ‘ace spectrum’?

a bit of a personal anecdote to kinda back this up? i was discussing ace identities with a former friend about 3 years ago during high school. i identified as ace back then; i no longer do. she commented that “demisexual is a good thing to be right? everyone should be that.” and that really resonated with me because i realised that the tumblr asexual community had led me to think if i didn’t feel sexual attraction to everyone right away, i must be ace. but it’s just normal to be demisexual/demiromantic (and i use these terms under the belief that they do not really exist). just because i didn’t want to have sex with a stranger doesn’t mean i’m ace. 

the reason straight male athletes will behave homoerotically with each other is because being gay is a joke to them

the reason straight girls will call each other girlfriends and kiss each other for the amusement of men is because being gay is a joke to them

yes. I don’t think they exist.

people are claiming there’s a lot of evidence out there to prove the existence of “straight” people but if I’m being totally honest with you it’s a crackpot theory. and trust me, I know about crackpot theories. I’m the KING of crackpot theories, and I was coronated, and you can trust me on that.

so this is a thing people have been saying for a really long time, that realistically, these “straight” people would have been around since basically the beginning of time—we’re talking since the FIRST coherent human being, as we know them today. that within this kind of first iteration of human existence, we could have seen a really strong percentage of people who came out genetically “straight”

but we’re basing this off of theory, completely. these people who are, and this is controversial but whatever, who I am saying are essentially conspiracy theorists are claiming that it’s been proven based on analysis of this ancient DNA found in the early humans who were preserved in ice. but that’s just not true.

scientifically, there is precedent to say—definitively—that there was never any such thing as straight people. what you’re seeing when you look at this ancient genetic code is actually the degradation of DNA—we’re looking at these specimens preserved only by time and luck. so this genetic sequence has actually kind of gone through a sort of decomposition, even though it’s fairly preserved.

what these people are claiming is proof of “straight” people is actually just damaged, broken DNA. if these specimens had existed in that exact condition in life, they would not have survived. so what I’m saying definitively is that there is no such thing as “straight” people, outside of massively damaged and degraded genetic sequences that are too ancient to reconstruct.

version 2: 2017

He’s a cishet demisexual. Probably the flavor of ace the closest to straight. He would still consider himself as straight if he haven’t heard of demisexuality. And before he turned 27, had his first girlfriend, his first sexual experience, and was almost forced to publicly claim to his family he liked sex a lot, everyone thought he was gay.

He suffers homophobic slurs from his father. Her mother endured neverending reproaches from her sister for “having made him this way” during years. He has been put aside from his cousins. The boys at school were less likely to befriend him after they have heard the “rumor”.

Because when you’re not straight, even if you are convinced you are, straight people feel it. His father, men around him, noticed he never looked at women the way they do. And because of the pressure put on men about sex,  and because of heteronormativity, if you’re not straight, you’re considered gay. Period.

Of course the experiences are so different. Of course you don’t feel the same when you receive homophobic slurs depending on you’re actually gay or not. Of course he never feared for his life or his boyfriend’s, because he never had one. Of course he never felt anxious about coming out or not. He never lost friends for being cishet demi. 

But cishet aces don’t benefit from homophobia. When you are saying cishet aces are “basically straight”, straight people may say they are “basically non-existent” or “basically gay.”

Straight people think cishet aces are so weird they don’t want to be associated to them.