Hereβs some positivity for systems who are struggling to cope after a headmate became dormant!
Experiencing the loss of a headmate to dormancy, even if it is only temporary, can often be scary, painful, or disorienting. If your system is having difficulties adjusting to life without a particular dormant headmate, we want to remind you that you arenβt alone, and this post is for you!
π§ Shoutout to systems who had a headmate with a crucial role recently become dormant!
π Shoutout to headmates who have lost an in-system spouse, partner, friend, family member, or other loved one to dormancy!
π Shoutout to systems who have had to scramble to learn something new in order to fill in for a dormant headmate!
π§ Shoutout to systems who are in a process of grieving or mourning due to one of their headmates going dormant!
π Shoutout to headmates who just miss their dormant system members terribly and long for them to one day return!
π Shoutout to systems who regularly have headmates enter and return from dormancy!
π§ Shoutout to headmates who are actually coping quite well with the loss of their dormant system members, but still remember and think of them with fondness!
π Shoutout to systems who sometimes worry that theyβll never see their dormant headmates again!
π Shoutout to those who sing, write, draw, or otherwise create art to help them process and cope with their headmateβs dormancy!
π§ Shoutout to headmates who have been dormant themselves and are now struggling to cope with another member of their system going dormant!
Dormancy is a natural part of the plural experience for many systems, although it certainly can be heartbreaking and bittersweet. If your system is struggling to cope after losing a headmate to dormancy, please know that we feel for you and our heart goes out to you. We know how upsetting and painful it can be to lose a beloved headmate to dormancy. Please take comfort in the fact that, while they may be gone now, they most certainly will not be gone forever.
We hope that your system can do its best to adjust to life without your dormant headmates while finding the time and space necessary to grieve the loss. Know that we care for you, and we are wishing you and your system the very best in this difficult time. Thank you so much for taking the time to read this, and take care!