Hiatus

Okay sooooo...we’ve basically been on an informal hiatus and I think I’m gonna make it official now

I might delete all the asks we have when I start it up again,, I don’t want to, and I’ll possibly share them somewhere so that I can maybe get to them some day, just the amount of asks we have right now is overwhelming to the point that I sit down to work on completing some and immediately give up.

I think i might have a limit on the ask box, like I’ll only open asks when it’s empty and take like 10-15 or so requests at a time so I don’t get too overwhelmed to work. I know that’s a kinda shitty system :/

Anyways, I think that’s what’ll work best for me, but for now, I’m taking a break while I finish up college applications, but I’ll try to clean this up and get it running again in a month or two tops. I miss being active, and I’m sorry to all of you that I’ve let down.

I haven’t answered an ask on this account in ages and I was going to maybe let this account die because I don’t have the energy to run it, but this is important (not to make you feel guilty, I don’t mind answering this at all so don’t worry!)

From the way this ask is phrased, I assume you’re not comfortable telling them straight up what you just said to me. (Like just admitting to being s*icidal and needing the cat)

Can you at least vaguely mention that the cat is important to your mental health? It might be difficult, but maybe you could manage saying that you’ve been overwhelmed and that the cat is the only thing that makes you happy (or one of the only things that makes you happy, if you’re more comfortable saying that). You could also try offering to take all or most of the responsibility for moving and/or taking care of the cat once you move. 

If you can’t do anything to change their mind, try and see if you can get a friend to take care of the cat for you. That way, you could ask them to send you pictures/videos of the cat, and you could see them if you visit your friend! I’d also suggest taking lots of pictures and videos of them yourself.

I’m sorry that you’re in this situation, and I’m really sorry that I can’t think of more helpful advice to give you :(

Maybe some of my followers can reblog this if they have better advice? And I’ll try to think of more solutions, too, and add onto this post if I do.

in this life, as people, we need to have each others backs.

i think that while its good to project onto characters, if the kin is encouraging that kinda thing, u shouldnt do it. it is selfless to do that kind of thing but your friends care about you as much as u do them and would want you to be as happy as u want them to be. you probably hear this a lot, but you cant put the oxygen mask on someone else until you put it on yourself

hope this helps a little. best of luck w/ figuring it out & healing,

hi anon! sorry for the late response!

i think youre definitely right about the soul searching part. do what feels right, and if you change your mind about it in the future, theres no pressure! kin is a spiritual experience and you can always change ur mind about it in the future if you feel like u didnt get somethin right about it, if that makes sense! n____n

hey anon! this is a really late response, im sorry!

i dont want to sound harsh– believe me, i know missing people is hard, especially your children. but getting a pet is a BIG decision! you can no longer care for them how you did in the past, and you have to find new ways to take care of them that fit the body youre in currently in order to keep the kitten healthy & safe. if you have the time, money & knowledge to take care of a kitten, as well as decide to get the kitten out of love & not reliving raising kits reasons, thn by all means, do so! but if youre doing it all because of a kinshift, id say… dont. maybe try to wait till youre out of that shift in order to make a good, less biased decision (for both you AND the kitten) 

on the other note.., convincing parents to get pets can be really hard. if theyre saying no because its just not something you can afford or take care of properly, then its probably best to listen to them, if only for the wellbeing of the cat. you can also wait till you move out & believe you can take proper care of an animal to get one! 

hello nonnie! as a Fellow Angelkin, i actually really understand how you feel. no matter how many memories you have, if you feel like youre angelkin, like really Feel it, mr crabs, you probably are! and the good thing about kin is that theres really no pressure– if you figure out youre not what u thought later on, you can always keep figuring it out! i know a Lot of angels have memories. there are also some who don’t have very many memories, if you know where to look for us! you might recover more memories in the future, or you might not. it doesnt make you any less of an angel– what youre meant to remember, you will, n thats whats important. also, most of the community tends to be really accepting of other angels no matter how many memories they have! i bid u good luck on ur road to figuring it out, and if you ever need someone to talk to about it, id be happy to give u my angel blog! O :-)

Hey there!

Remember that you’ve lived a different life now. You are your ID, but raised by different people, in different circumstances, and having experienced all sorts of different events that changed you!  Of course there will be differences, but that doesn’t mean you aren’t your ID!

I hope what I said helped, or even made sense, I’m kinda sick and I’ve been having some trouble typing sentences that are understandable

Admittedly, I did have to google “thylacine” when I got this ask, but wow, that’s an awesome looking kintype!

That said, some parts of the kinmunity are rather exclusive, and I’m sorry about that. Part of the reason may be that the community is changing with time, as all things do, and some people aren’t sure how to feel about people with kintypes that they aren’t used to. But that’s not an excuse for people to be assholes, obviously.

It might help to try and find people who share the kintype, because of course they’ll be accepting. You might be able to share experiences and generally feel more accepted! You can also find people with similar kintypes, maybe start a groupchat? (As long as everyone respects each other, kin group chats are fucking l i t)

Even if you don’t think you’ll find any others, just keep putting out posts and kincalls. I’m not saying you’ll definiately find someone, or that you’ll necessarily immediately find people with similar kins that you can make friends with, but kin friends can be really cool. And hey, you wouldn’t believe some of the obscure kintypes that I’ve found that others have in common, after being positive I was the only one.

Sorry if this is too rambly/wordy or if anything I said just makes no sense (I’m running on like 4 hours of sleep), but I hope it helps!<33