I need your opinion/help
What to do if my partner doesn’t let me touch his phone? I admit that I’m anxious and that it’s wrong (which I think I got gaslighted to believe?)
I want to learn how to respect his boundaries and at the same time regulate my anxiousness/emotions.
Yung main trigger nito I guess was because I experince how to be cheated before through chats, messages, soc med, etc. and I think I never healed from that. Sa kaka pilit ko din magkalkal before dito sa current partner ko, I saw that he did try to chat someone on FB.
He did say that he won’t do it again and I want to believe him. Kaso the way he hides his phone from me makes me want to check it even more.
He told me na sa kaka pilit kong makita yung phone niya, mas lalo siyang mag checheat/mas lalo niya akong aaningin which actually made me super uncomfortable.
Context lang sa bf ko, babad siya lagi sa phone niya because of work and I think nakasanayan na rin. He’s also the type na defensive and is passive-agressive sa fights.
I’m not one to give up easily in a relationship so breakup is not my first choice. I think we can still work it out. Nahihirapan lang ako kung paano kami mag cocompromise.
To be honest muts, even if he lets me check his phone, I’m still worried na he’s just going to delete chats.
I just want to have an honest, open, and monogamous relationship. The kind where both of us can feel safe.











