Princess Energy

Listen up fatherfuckers

I love y’all down but once I enabled the anon option I’ve since received an influx of asks and many are repetitive.

I don’t want to not answer them, however I do skip asks that are pretty basic to focus my energy on asks that are more relevant to those who are not necessarily new to their journey and are seeking reliable resources and not generic answers.

I want to reiterate that: my blog is not tailored for beginners who are seeking the 101’s. This blog is for the baby birds who are fed and got their feet wet and now it’s time to push their ass out the nest. My mission is to produce straightforward content that you can save to reference back to.

How Do I Begin My Healing Journey?

A: I cannot tell anyone how to begin their journey because the “healing journey” is a complex lifelong adventure tailored to your personal needs and trauma that needs to be unpacked. I began mine by seeking professional help because that’s what I needed for my journey: a support system. The first thing I did after I moved out my mommas house is obtain a therapist. You should secure a support system too because it can get ugly.

How Do I Become Feminine?

A: By utilizing the advice you reblog and like on Tumblr. Start there. Proceed to then embody the character traits of women you may view as feminine (Marilyn Monroe, Audrey Hepburn, Princess Diana etc.). Think feminine. Act feminine. Become feminine.

My BF Doesn’t Spend on Me, Let Alone Spoil Me

A: Your time should have a deposit. Your attention should come with a price. Your energy shall come with a fee. It’s against a feminine’s religion to give away puss for freeeeeee.

Lettuce pray my good sis is not popping box. Amen.

I Want A SuperSpender But I’m Nervous To Go Out Alone, Let Alone Approach Both Men & Women

A: *eyeroll* Before the gworls grab their pitch forks-actually fuck y’all. Listen up rookie: if you cannot approach a man/walk past and say something subtle & sexy to prompt him to approach you when you return from the bathroom, then go ahead and grab a magazine as you idle for a man to approach you.

I’ll ask you this: Do you want to lose out on a lifetime of opportunities because you were shy for a moment? Yes or no. That’s what I thought, gear up then.

You do realize you can have that magnetic energy of attracting men towards you while being able to confidently talk to one who has been sneaking glances at you all night…right?

It’s unproductive to rely on a man to approach you because the Tumblr girlies said so. The worst thing that can happen is you’ve obtain the practice you most likely probably needed.

Many, if not most of the highest earning men I’ve met are very reserved and outright shy. Especially men in tech or the medical field.

Ewww I’ll be nowhere if I waited for every high earning, high quality man to waltz towards me.

Pro Tip: You want this skill because if you are out with a friend and notice a guy eyeing you, he may simply be unwilling to interrupt since he’s a gentleman and is probably hoping you’ll come towards him.

As far as being nervous to go out alone…stay your ass home then. Use your best manifesting abilities, cross your fingers and hope to find that gem on the internet apps. It’s not impossible, it’s just not smart. You should have social skills along with social media skills.

Where Do I Meet Rich Men?

A: 🎶You can meet them on a hike, you can meet them on a bike. You can meet them at a shop, you can meet them taking shots. 🎶 - Dr. TooSpoiled

Stop asking me this stupid ass question. I’m not that healed and I will say something slick to my spirit guides every time like “@God see this silly shit”

Now answer me this: Are you qualified to keep one let alone meet one? Oop I’m sorry but someone had to say it.

If you have, you would know that they’re regular ass humans whom can be met everywhere.

How Do I Ask My BF/SD For $?

A: As far as your BF: if you’re asking me this that means you need to take the first step and that’s establish that you insist on being invested in. Word it just like that.

You’re getting older and recent experiences have motivated you to secure your legacy. This is a non negotiable for your relationship because it’s a non negotiable for yourself. This is not an ultimatum but a take it or leave it opportunity as you move on into the next chapter of your life.

You get what you want either way; Either he left and you’ve made room for the next man to spoiled you silly or he stepped up to the plate. Easy peasy. Stop making things harder so you can escape guilt.

As far as your SD: “I need X for Y. Are you comfortable contributing to this?” Simple.

No sad story. No detailed explanation. You’ve now left him with the option of: “No, I’m not babe” (IMMEDIATE BLOCK) or he needs to know your payment preference.

Pro Tip: Conclude asks with a yes or no question so you’re able to conclude their interest/loyalty towards you.

Alright, that’s all folks! Happy healing 🕯🧿

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Hey thank you so much! It’s very warming to hear this because it was a special question for me to ask. I encourage everyone to hold their “virginity” (even if you’ve had sex idc you can be a born again virgin whenever you want) as long as you feel like doing so.

Dating Up: Urtoospoiled Step by Step Master Post

This is another special question for me because I’m answering from the perspective of someone who has actually been a placeholder, a pick me (yes I know. Immense shame but triple the growth) and allowed myself to be played and taken advantage of.

The Urtoospoiled way of dating isn’t conventional and the goal is the gain and elevate. Why?

Because these Masculines are looking to see if you can add value to their image, legacy or hard on.

Straight like that.

It’s important to entertain masculines who can contribute to your level up because it’s absolutely mandatory for you to leave every experience with a gain, big or sometimes small in order to pivot to something big. (I’m calling them “experiences” and not “relationships” because Urtoospoiled strays away from encouraging anything serious. It’ll happen naturally)

This Step by Step Master Post involves rotational dating, hypergamous values and feminine seduction. Let’s begin:

Research & Prepare

Even if it’s starting off of Tumblr with dating advice you find from reliable sources, you must have an understanding of what dating up looks like in your life. Yes, this is the Urtoospoiled way but this is a guide that allows you to mold your personality and boundaries into the advice given.

This includes reading dating books from both a feminine and masculine perspective and learning about yourself as well. What do you want? What don’t you like? Try some shadow work prompts. Here are some books recommended so far.

Utilize all resources to gain as much knowledge as possible. This includes YouTube videos, podcasts, even movies. You’ll soon catch yourself daydreaming of brain storming your ideal dating experience.

Even if you don’t have an ideal dating experience yet, that’s ok. Start with doing the following:

A Moodboard of 6 photos: Pics can include date ideas, ideal masculine, affirmations, gifts received, etc.

5 traits a Masculine must have in order to receive your attention

4 first date questions and the answers you will NOT accept (ex: do you have kids? “Yes I have 5 and 4 baby mamas” have a splendid life)

3 boundaries of yours that you will never bend (ex: 1- I will not lose my virginity under any circumstances 2- I don’t give away my real number and instead a Google Voice 3- Before any date, I share my location with my roommate and update my last known location via text)

2 things you want to gain out of this experience

1 red flag that’ll make you cut a Masculine off immediately

Gain Value & Quality

This is putting the actions behind what you’ve prepared and researched for. Whether that’s giving your appearance a tweak and touch up, whether that’s bucking down and learning the languages you need to, whether that’s getting some income of your own and less handouts- it’s important to have something about you that catches and keeps a man of values eye.

This dating guide is for the ones that are past the “level 1” tests of “I need my phone bill paid” or “my rent is due boo”. We are leveling up here.

When you ask for things, it needs to be for big girl responsibilities. Car maintenance…not your car payment. Phone screen repair…not your phone bill.

Now many will not agree, but Urtoospoiled does not vouch for feminine figures to entertain others without establishing themselves first. Get your license, save up a few thousands to buy your first car instead of rushing to get one financed/leased. Reach your savings goal. Start going to therapy. It’s important to be stable so there’s no chance of anyone taking advantage of that.

Though most men want to be your Superman, they don’t want to feel like they’re cleaning up your mess and you should never give them such satisfaction to do so. It’s very psychological.

That’s not “Miss Independent I don’t need a man” that’s “I only entertain men who can make my priority theirs”.

Build yourself to be worth showing off and kept. Don’t rush the process, this personally took me close to two years to mold myself into the woman I considered of value and quality.

Things you should have in order:

Your finances

Your housing situation

Your mental health

Your expectations out of experiences you’ll soon encounter (I want material items, career connections, property, a job in tech I didn’t have to work hard for, etc.)

Your income (even though you’ll be paying for no dates, you never want to go out without extra emergency money for any reason)

Your self esteem

Get Your Feet Wet

You’re prepared enough, you’re happy, and you’re ready to date. This is where we introduce rotational dating:

You’re going to have a basketball team starting line up of suitors. These are a list of men ordered by top p(l)ayers to your benchwarmers.

Top P(l)ayer: He’s spending above and beyond in time, effort, attention and financially. He brings value to the experience and has proven reliability.

Standard: He’s spending enough in time, effort, attention and financially. A variety of reasons can keep him categorized as standard including his tight schedule, others give better benefits, or sometimes budget. A regular in rotation though since he has also proven reliability without a doubt.

Benchwarmer: Your standbys. They’re eager for your attention but you’re either too busy juggling others or too fed up with their inconsistency however the benefits flows…just not enough to meet the requirements to receive your attention. Keep them on ice.

Remember, keep these men in rotation.

Treat yourself to a day of shopping for your first date with the masculine your manifesting. Put yourself in that mode to fuel your desire of dating and dating intentionally. You’re not here to waste your time, but you’re certainly here to enjoy it.

Everyone has different opinions on dating apps but if you ever expect something serious on these apps…that’s on you. However, I’ve had great experiences especially on Hinge. I’ve been invited to parties, dined at some places I wouldn’t have otherwise. I say that to say…start off by downloading an app. On Hinge especially, don’t use your immediate location but either the downtown of the city you stay in (or somewhere else if you really live downtown), the next city over, or at least a few blocks off if you’re somewhere like NYC.

Though I’m an advocate for apps, I’m also a large critic of the word “freestyle” because imagine viewing going out as “freestyling”, if we are using it in the music context. This is a requirement. If anything, you should view social media as freestyling. That’s not your foundation, the streets are. Social media is either practice or a “purse pocket tool” that you pull out when you’re traveling, your line-up is out of town and you’re in the mood for someone to pay for your dates, etc.

You should be a familiar face in a few restaurants/bars. At least one bartender should know you by name. Start with one restaurant or bar then work your way towards adding more onto your list. But get off your ass and get off of it regularly.

As you’re getting your feet wet, for your safety and feminine benefit you should:

Have a safety plan. Someone should know where you are going. If anything, utilize Tumblr and find a safety buddy. I’ve done so before.

Have a date night wardrobe

Establish your favorite bar and/or restaurant

Detail exactly what you want to gain out of your dating experience right up until you’re with someone who you can see yourself saying “yes” if they proposed.

Start Dating

Now that you’ve taken the time out to prepare & research, you’ve gained value & quality yourself before looking for any in anyone else and you’ve detailed an idea of what you expect and what you want to gain- it’s now time to simply start.

Don’t be shy. This isn’t a game for the timid. You see a cute boy? Find a way to have to brush past him and say “excuse me handsome”. The greatest tip I can give you is take any opportunity to make a man blush even if it’s internally.

Be open minded yet listen to your intuition. I’ve met some of the most generous, greatest people who I would’ve never taken the chance on if I was closed minded. Allow yourself to drift outside of your comfort zone sometimes.

Dating is networking. Networking is key. You can meet your future spouse dealing with your current pastime. You can meet your future bridesmaid at a party some Software Engineer on Hinge invited you to.

You’re going to meet a lot of losers and have to cut off a lot of good men solely because they no longer qualify. Remember, you’re dating with intention and that’s to become a wife one day. Don’t ever be afraid to let someone go because their time is up with you (Think of dating just like Flavor of Love or any dating reality show but less gross)

urTOOspoiled Big Sis Series

The main thing I’ve noticed about men is that they ALWAYS date with intention and a play.

This is BOTH from good men and the hobosexuals. They know what they’re doing.

INTENTION: an aim or a plan

PLAY: a report on what is happening in a sports game; plan breakdown

Men NEVER “go with the flow”. They either have ill, self centered (using you as a placeholder/booty call) or mutually beneficial intentions (marriage, FWB etc.).

In addition, they NEVER aimlessly find their way towards their goal. They have a goal and they break down the actions behind the accomplishment.

Sometimes it’s your heart. Sometimes it’s your life insurance plan.

It’s time we, as women, buckle up and have our own agendas lined up.

LAW 4

Always Say Less Than Necessary

I love my ladies but we do indeed pillow talk too much to the men we are dating. We tell them our backstories. We tell them how our exes did us dirty and all they do is sit back and take notes for when it’s their turn to do the same.

ITS TIME WE LIE AND LEAVE OUT INFO.

In addition, stop letting men lead the convo because you’re too intimidated to hold the conversation. It’s your job to get him to spill as much info about himself for you to gather a conclusion about your intentions with him.

LAW 9

Win Through Actions, Never Through Argument

Get it through your thick skull that you’ll never win an argument with a man using your words. Definitely not if you raise your voice.

A lot of women message me stating how they keep “telling” their man how to treat them and I sigh & laugh because I remember when I was that ditzy.

Men are indeed like dogs. You’ll get almost nowhere yelling or repeating yourself to a dog whose insisting on not listening to you (i.e. pulling the leash while you call their name.).

You can let the dog pull you and continue to yell…but where does that get you expect IGNORED and IN DISTRESS?

Put your foot down…and out the door. Just for the love of God stop playing dumb for peen.

LAW 17

Keep Others In Suspended Terror: Cultivate An Air of Unpredictability

“Humans are creatures of habit with an insatiable need to see familiarity in other people’s actions. Your predictability gives them a sense of control. Turn the tables. Be deliberately unpredictable.”

It’s one thing to be mysterious but it’s another to add the razzle dazzle of randomness in the mix. You see, you can predict someone being mysterious- being somewhat reserved or private.

Be unpredictable and have a moment where you’re transparent. Everyone shouldn’t have the same (good) impression of you. Some may view you as serious and laid back while others couldn’t imagine you being nothing other than bubbly. Shake shit up.

Closing Thoughts:

Men have created a culture of sharing the secrets of using women to their advantage. They’re not clueless nor uneducated on how to treat you correctly therefore it’s unproductive to attempt to teach them.

They are simply using the strategy their barber, daddy, coach, teammates and Pastor passed along to them since you (most likely) weren’t taught any better. They have a community-a village that molds them, something women do not have in general.

Elf Cosmetics ‘Power Grip’ Makeup Primer.

I love this makeup primer and think that it’s a dupe for my favourite Milk ‘Hydro Grip’ Primer, they’re very very similar in formula, they work for an insane amount of time and keep my makeup on perfectly, they’re non-drying and very comfortable for all day wear, and this primer has never made me break out or irritated my skin in any way. The formula and the consistency of this primer are key to how smoothly it applies and how nicely it makes my foundation look once I’ve applied it, it’s a great product and a little bit goes a long way, I apply it smoothly and all over my face, I make sure that it gets into the areas that move when I smile or when I speak, and I let it set and completely dry down before I go in with a wet sponge and apply my colour corrector.

L.A. Girl ‘HD Pro.’ Colour Corrector.

Colour corrector is the next step after primer for me and I always apply it in the areas that I’d like to conceal before I apply any concealer. I usually use my colour corrector to hide the dark circles under my eyes, to brighten the area around my mouth, and to neutralise some of my undertones. I use this colour corrector because it’s cheap and easy to find, it’s easy to use and it works well, it applies smoothly and can easily be blended out with a wet beauty blender and very little time, and it looks good under my makeup and doesn’t rise to the top and totally ruin or discolour the pigmentation of my foundation. I would highly recommend this colour corrector because it’s simple, it works well, it’s in the neighbourhood of $5, and the shade range and quality of the colours that are offered are convenient and easy to find in most beauty stores.

Maybelline ‘Fit Me!’ Matte + Poreless Foundation.

I absolutely love this foundation and it’s one of my favourite budget foundations, I use it whenever I want to do a simple look or whenever I want to step out and do errands on my own or whatever and I love it. I apply it with a brush and then blend it in with a beauty blender, I use it minimally because it’s a full coverage foundation and I don’t need too much to make it work for me, it applies smoothly and dries matte, it doesn’t start to oxidise and look terrible after a few hours like some other foundations do, and it’s comfortable and never feels caked on. I’m a big fan of being able to put on my foundation and call it a day without having to retouch it or dab at it throughout the day and I’d consider this foundation to be one of my holy grails because of its consistency, formula, and longevity.

ELF Cosmetics ‘16HR’ Camo Concealer.

I always list my favourite concealer when I do my budget makeup lists and this is one of my forever favourites. It applies just like my Too Faced concealer, it applies smoothly, there’s a huge shade range and I’m able to buy the correct colour for my concealer and buy a shade a few shades darker for cream contouring, and the concealer doesn’t oxidise or start to look bad. I love this concealer because it’s full coverage, the applicator is perfect for applying it and it goes on silkily and smoothly, it doesn’t take a lot to blend it out or make it look nice, and it isn’t drying. There is a really great Hydrating Camo Concealer also by ELF that I love and I sometimes use that, I don’t think that the formulas really differ and the application is very similar for me. The main attraction of this concealer is the full coverage and the colour range, both are fabulous and so convenient and it’s easy to go out, find a vendor that sells ELF, and choose the right shade of concealer.

Morphe ‘Bake & Set’ Setting Powder.

I love this setting powder because it’s extremely finely milled and it’s a near dupe for my Laura Mercier powder, it comes in a variety of shades, it looks great when it applies, it’s very affordable, and it doesn’t give me that flashback that my Airspun powder used to give me. It’s a great powder, I use it to bake my face and set my concealer, I use it to sculpt out my cheekbones and set my jawline, and it doesn’t budge. Another one of the things that I love about this setting powder is that it’s a true transparent, it doesn’t make my makeup look grey, it doesn’t pill or get oily, it doesn’t sink into my pores, and it’s a genuinely nice product. I apply it with a brush and concentrate it on the areas that I know need more help, I pat it into my t-zone, I apply a tiny bit of concealer to my eyes and set it with powder, and I apply it all over my face with a fluffy brush to make my makeup last for a solid 24 hours instead of sliding off the moment it starts to get humid or hot outside.

Physician’s Formula ‘Murumuru’ Butter Blush.

This is one of my favourite drugstore blushes and one of my favourite blushes in general, I’m a big blush girl and I love the look of flushed cheeks, I use it in the shade ‘Natural Glow’ and it’s very close to Nars’ Orgasm Blush, my holy grail and all time favourite blush. I just use a dense but fluffy blush brush to apply my blush, I mostly focus it on my cheeks and I blend it out as quickly as possible to get the look that I want, and I apply it slowly at first to get the look that I want. I’ve tried a lot of budget blushes and done the most when it comes to looking for good blushes, I love to look flushed and slightly breathless so having a good pink blush is kind of essential, I do usually like to have a little bit of shimmer in my blushes just because I love blushes that have a built in highlighter so I try to swatch them before buying them just to see if they have what I like and they give me that flushed glow.

L’Oréal ‘Bambi Eye’ Waterproof Mascara.

This is one of my favourite budget mascaras and one of the mascaras I’ve been reaching for most lately. I have long straight lashes that don’t hold a curl naturally and a few coats of this mascara and some time in my heated lash curler works wonders for me. This is one of the only budget mascaras I’ve bought recently that doesn’t burn my eyes, doesn’t flake, doesn’t make my lashes look spidery, doesn’t spread all over my eyelids, and lasts all day and I wear it because it works so well. It’s a budget mascara but it works nearly as well as my favourite mascara from Benefit and it gives me very similar results, the mascara wand itself is very high quality and it distributes the product perfectly, and the formula of the mascara is very smooth and nice. I just bought another tube and it’s definitely something I’ll be taking with me when I travel, I can swim with this mascara on and come out of the water with my lashes still holding the curl and I absolutely love that I’m able to do that.

ELF Cosmetics ‘Instant Brow Lift’ Brow Pencil.

This is my go to budget brow pencil and one of my favourite ways to line my eyes lately. I just use it to fill my brows in and I always use the darkest colour, I use the pencil and shape the ends of my brows and give them that defined look that I love, and then I bring the pencil down and use it to line my eyes. I usually use this pencil when I want to keep a natural look so I do my winged eyeliner in the way that I’d normally do it but I smoke it out with a brush and blend it in so that it isn’t super obvious, it lasts on my eyelids for hours and it looks completely natural, and it widens my eyes. I love that I don’t have to fill in my brows or fix my eyeliner throughout the day, I love that it’s easy to manually sharpen the pencil but it’s also easy to use the pencil when it’s blunt as well, and I love that the colours of pencil that are offered suit a variety of hair colours. This is one of my favourite brow pencils in general and it makes doing my eyes and brows so fun.

NYX ‘Slim’ Lip Pencil in Nude Pink (858) and NYX ‘This is Milky Gloss’ in Cherry Skimmed.

This is the combo I’ve been using for my lips lately, it’s just a simple nude pink lip combo but it lasts for hours and the gloss is non sticky. I bought the lip liner on my own but I received the lip gloss as a gift, I honestly didn’t think that the gloss was going to work for me but it’s amazing and it applies unbelievably smoothly. The key to making the gloss work is having hydrated and exfoliated lips, I’m of the opinion that the formula of the lip gloss is one of the best formulas currently on the market for budget glosses, the colour and shine of the lip gloss are perfect, and the applicator is very high quality. As for the lip pencil, it’s a classic, I love NYX lip pencils because they’re affordable, there’s a huge shade range, they’re easy to wear and they’re easy to apply, they’re long lasting, and they’re very affordable.

Milani ‘Make it Last’ Makeup Setting Spray.

This is just my favourite budget setting spray, it’s like super glue for my makeup, it’s lightweight and lasts through the day and into the night, it doesn’t break me out and it isn’t harsh on my skin, and it makes my makeup weatherproof, sexproof, heatproof, and everything proof. It’s one for the ages, it applies smoothly and sprays perfectly, it isn’t too sticky and it doesn’t end up leaving me with a tacky finish as it dries, it looks good and makes my skin look natural, it’s a true matte setting spray so it is slightly drying but it doesn’t damage my skin or anything, and it’s one of the best setting sprays I’ve used for heavy wear and long wear. I go out to a lot of concerts, I frequently go out to night clubs to go dancing, and I’m a very active woman and this spray has never let me down, it seals in my makeup and does the job for like $10 and it’s been one of my best budget buys over the years, it’s a budget holy grail, a near dupe for my Charlotte Tilbury Airbush setting spray, and it works like a treat every single time I use it and in rainy/hot weather as well.

Camisoles. Especially in pinks and light colors like nude and white. Skirts (especially tennis and flowy ones), casual dresses (wrap ones are good for any figure), cardigans, at least one nice pair of heels. I’m not sure where you live, but if it’s somewhere it gets cold, you need at least one good quality coat. Some cute every day shoes are a must. Whether it’s flats or some nice sandals (in case heels every day aren’t your thing). Also, at least one good quality handbag.

Power & Manipulation

48 Laws of Power by Robert Green

The Prince by Machiavelli

Games People Play: The Basic Handbook of Transactional Analysis by Eric Berne

The Dictator's Handbook: Why Bad Behavior is Almost Always Good Politics by Bruce Bueno de Mesquita

Power: Why Some People Have It - And Others Don't by Jeffrey Pfeffer

The Wisdom of Psychopaths: What Saints, Spies, and Serial Killers Can Teach Us About Success by Kevin Dutton

Charisma & Social Skills

How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson

How to Talk to Anyone: 92 Little Tricks for Big Success in Relationships by Leil Lowndes

The Charisma Myth: How Anyone Can Master the Art and Science of Personal Magnetism by Olivia Fox Cabane

Captivate: The Science of Succeeding with People by Vanessa Van Edwards

Never Eat Alone, And the Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time by Keith Ferrazzi

The Like Switch: An Ex-FBI Agent's Guide to Influencing, Attracting, and Winning People Over by Jack Schafer

Persuasion

The Art of Seduction by Robert Green

Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion by Robert Cialdini

Win Bigly: Persuasion in a World Where Facts Don't Matter by Scott Adams

Pre-Suasion: Channeling Attention for Change by Robert Cialdini

Win Your Case: How to Present, Persuade, and Prevail, Every Place, Every Time by Gerry Spence

Nudge: Improving Decisions About Health, Wealth, and Happiness by Richard Thaler

Methods of Persuasion: How to Use Psychology to Influence Human Behavior by Nick Kolenda

You Can Read Anyone: Never Be Fooled, Lied to, or Taken Advantage of Again by David Lieberman

Influencer: The New Science of Leading Change by Kerry Patterson

Psychology

Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman

The Art of Choosing by Sheena Iyengar

Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel Pink

Predictably Irrational: The Hidden Forces That Shape Our Decisions by Dan Ariely

Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman

The Laws of Human Nature by Robert Green

Philosophy and Mindset

Meditations by Marcus Aurelius

Letters from a Stoic by Seneca

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl

Mastery by Robert Green

The Law of Success by Napoleon Hill

Antifragile: Things That Gain from Disorder by Nassim Taleb

The Daily Stoic by Ryan Holiday

Ikigai: The Japanese Secret to a Long and Happy Life by Hector Garcia

Public Speaking, Rhetoric, and Debating

Rhetoric by Aristotle

How to Argue & Win Every Time by Gerry Spence

The Quick and Easy Way to Effective Speaking by Dale Carnegie

The Art of Public Speaking by Dale Carnegie

Talk Like TED: The 9 Public Speaking Secrets of the World's Top Minds by Carmine Gallo

Verbal Judo: The Gentle Art of Persuasion by George Thompson, PhD

Thank You for Arguing by Jay Heinrichs

p.s. a lot of these can be found on z-library.

USD total: $82.00

Shirt | Pants | Shoes | Wallet | Bag | Nails

Makeup Recommendation: Light and Fresh

This isnt something full glam would go well with. I recommend using light coverage foundation, concealer, fill your brows, line & color your lips with a nude or add gloss & throw on some mascara and blush.

Jewelry Recommendation:

I'd avoid rings and instead pair this with a small necklace and a pair of earrings! Studs would be fine but if you'd really like to add some more sparkle, maybe some small drop earrings !

While this isn't your average "casual" it's most definitely a look that will give off the "put together" energy. It's also very obviously plain and "average business woman" esque. But this is done on purpose.

My favorite part about this is that it leaves many questions to those who look at you.

- where is she going?

- what does she do?

- where did she get _?

You can double this up for interviews as it's still a very classy look. While this isn't my "personal style" (I'm very alternative haha) it definitely is great staple pieces to have and I'd still wear it.

My Blackhead Beating Cleanser and Brush.

I hate getting blackheads or having obvious pores and so I found a solution that works for me. I use this cute but very powerful lip scrubber that I put on my finger and I use a 3.5% Glycolic Acid cleansing gel that I got from L’Oréal and I have no issues at all. I focus on the areas around my nose and cheeks that tend to have the most difficulties and become oily fastest. I just go in and make sure that my pores have been cleared out and scrubbed to the point where my skin feels like it’s clean. I’ve found that I no longer have obvious pores and my skin has been slowly improving to the point where it looks really nice when I have no makeup on.

My Pleasing Feet Mask.

I usually wear heels and sandals so a huge part of my look is having perfectly pampered feet. I usually go for hot stone foot massages and exfoliating when I’m at my nail salon but, for the time in-between my nail salon visits, I go for using the Baby Foot Feet Masks. I usually try to do a jelly soak, brush exfoliation, a pedi egg, and deep moisturising between my podiatrist and pedicure appointments but because having beautiful feet is a non-negotiable and I’m constantly using my feet to dance and to walk, using Baby Foot masks keeps my feet nice and smooth and it helps prevents them from looking like they’ve been stomping about and tearing it up on the dance floor, it’s one of my secret weapons.

My Lash Length Serum.

My entire existence is spent growing out my eyelashes because I can’t have lash extensions due to the shape of my eyes and I’ve found that Grande Lash is one of the best lash growth serums I’ve ever used. I use this serum faithfully and I’ll be able to stop using my false lashes soon because my lashes have become so nice and so voluminous that they’re good enough on their own. I use Grande Lash on both my bottom and my top lashes and they’re long, they’re thick, they’re so lush, they’ve darkened up, and they look like I have on a pair of permanent extensions. I also am a huge fan of the fact that Grande Lash is $65 and can be picked up at any Sephora or Ulta instead of needing a prescription like Latisse or some of the other expensive serums that are currently on the market, Grande has given me great results and it’s not a product that I could do without.

My Skin Firming Mask.

I love masks from Dr. Jart, I feel like they’re some of the best skincare products I could possibly purchase and so I make a point to purchase different face masks frequently to keep up with my skincare routine. I go in to get hydrofacials on the weekly to clear out my pores and brighten my skin but Dr. Jart’s Cryo Rubber Face Mask with Firming Collagen is really a game changer and it makes my skin look and feel like glass. I’m a huge fan of having chilled skin and so part of my clear skin routine calls for icing my face so before I do this mask, I get an ice cube and I truly make sure that my face has been chilled before I apply the serum and the rubber mask, I feel like it makes the product sink in and it makes my skin feel like it’s been hewn from diamond.

My Destressing Drink.

At first I thought that drinking magnesium was going to be a total scam but I had this blood test and I had to start taking supplements so I decided to try to start to add magnesium to my diet. Alongside Methyl-Folate and GABA, I started washing my supplements down with Magnesi-Om by Moon Juice and I’ve found that my mood has been hugely lifted and the debilitating anxiety that I used to have has been put into check due to my anti-anxiety medication, my magnesium, and my consumption of supplements and meditation. I’ve not been at peace like this off the dance floor since I can remember and I’ve found that my need for melatonin to be able to sleep has pretty much disappeared, I’m not a huge believer in supplements on their own but an upheaval of my lifestyle combined with the frequent use of all of the supplements I’m using alongside my anti-anxiety medication has definitely helped me a lot.

My hyperpigmentation preventative skin serum.

I’ve been putting off getting laser hair removal for the last few months but I have an appointment set, so until I start getting my hair permanently removed, I’m using my epilator. I’m obsessed with epilating and I use the PFB Vanish ULTRA serum to prevent any marks on my legs, underarms, and bikini area and I love it. I tend to have pretty sensitive skin and taking care of it is huge for me because I need to have clear skin. Using this serum right after I epilate prevents me from getting any bumps, ingrown hairs, discoloured spots on my skin, and it prevents me from getting strawberry spots. I was sold on it after I was told about it by a friend of mine who has had laser hair removal and I’ve found that the results that I’ve had so far have been amazing.

1. Lead a healthy lifestyle. This one is the most important to me because drinking enough water, eating right, exercising, and getting a healthy amount of sleep can change your appearance more than people think. When people encourage this, they're not saying it just to say it, but because it's true. Greasy and fatty foods can contribute to breakouts. If you're not drinking enough water, your skin can look so dull. When you're not getting enough sleep, it shows in your face and under your eyes. Some people will encourage cosmetic work before anything else but I've found that sometimes the things we don't like about ourselves can actually be changed or improved upon with just some effort.

2. These next couple of things are going to be little changes that can actually do a whole lot. Keeping neat eyebrows can make your face look so different. Whether it's something you want learn to do yourself or you want to go and get them waxed, they can really bump up your looks. There have been days where I thought I needed or wanted to put on makeup but then I went and got my eyebrows done, and it was like no. Actually this looks great already. It's a little change that goes a long way and can actually have people studying you and wondering what you did differently.

3. Find a hairstyle that compliments you. Truthfully, not everyone looks great with super long straight hair. Not everyone looks great with wild curls. Not everyone looks great with a bombshell blowout. One of my favorite "debates" is actually side part vs the middle part. I'm partial to a middle part and I'll always think it looks best. In my experience and from that I've seen, most people just look better with a middle part, but that's entirely up to you to figure out. You have to decide what suits your face and features better. Sometimes our favorite hairstyle are not doing us justice. A hairstyle can really make someone look like an entirely different person.

4. Wear makeup that suits you! I personally had to find out the hard way that the super harsh contouring and baking look doesn't make me look better. I've seen other women where I would say the same thing. Sometimes a smoky eye isn't smoky at all but actually makes you look like a raccoon. Find makeup and a routine that compliments your features and actually makes you look better, not just different. Before any 🐝🐝🐝s come for meee, Beyoncé rarely has an off day, and her makeup looks great in both examples, but I do think I'm right to say that in general, her fans think that Check On It was one of her best makeup looks. She's literally glowing and it makes her look so fresh and vibrant.

5. Skin!!! Drinking water and eating right will improve your skin, this is true, but some people have conditions that require more than that. Whether it's a situation where you need to go to a dermatologist to figure out what needs to be done, or you simply need something to make your skin less textured, doing things to improve your skin can make a world of difference. Even if you technically have nothing wrong with your skin but you just want it to look less dull or dry, invest in products that can help you achieve the glow or hydration you want.

6. Wear flattering clothes!!! I feel like this is one that is so overlooked. No, I don't mean buying cute clothes because people love to do that but I mean actually dressing in a way that isn't just different or trendy or cute but that's actually flattering to your figure. Some people look great in low rise jeans and some don't. The same goes for high waisted bottoms. Some pieces simply don't look the best together or won't make you look as great as another combination could. The Ariana example I'm using is exactly what I'm talking about because both outfits are not all that different. She's wearing tall pumps, skinny jeans, and a shirt in both. However in the right picture, she's wearing a top that really compliments her figure, and her posture doesn't hurt either.

7. Speaking of... Posture. Improving your posture and standing up straight can make you look so much better. When your head is held high and your shoulders are back, people take notice. You're not so easily overlooked, and you look more attractive and energetic.

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Hi hun,

Nothing brings me more joy than seeing young, hypergamous women! For all you ladies 16-23 years old already starting your hypergamous journey, I applaud you.

At this age, my advice is: - Work on your body, and maintain it; between the ages of 18-22, your body will change rapidly. A lot of women let go early on, when this is the time you should be fine tuning your body! Eat well, and stay fit.

- Ignore boys, be careful with men. 

“Boys” = most guys in your age group that are not establish/aren’t heirs. Even if they are heirs, most of them are arrogant and f*** boys. Don’t waste your time or energy on these boys. 

Men also may prey on you because you are young (they will think you are naive and easy to manipulate). Do not compromise with these men. Either you get what you want or they can leave.

- Network. Make friends, and keep in contact. Especially if you’re in college now.

- Work on your future career/passions. Go to school, start a business, become a model-- do whatever you desire. 

- Heal childhood trauma; if you have any mental illnesses or overcame traumatic events, please be sure to heal.  Now is the time. 

- Learn another language. It only gets more difficult with age.

- Claim virginity to delay sexual pressure; part of seduction is delaying gratification. If you are younger, you can easily do this by claiming virginity and men will eat it up. Don’t feel ashamed, USE IT. Even if you’re not a virgin, use it, they won’t know! Also, please protect your body. Do not give it out to low value men or men who do not adore you fully. Know your worth.

- Don’t listen to your friends. They should not know about your journey; let them follow dusties, but you should NEVER do the same. You are a hypergamous woman. You do not date random men or hook up with dusties. 

USING SOCIAL MEDIA TO SOCIAL CLIMB

- Build a persona; don’t post pictures too often, no more than once a week. Ideally only once a month. Only allow people to have a glimpse into your life, and leave them craving more. Curiosity makes people crave you more.

- Make sure your pictures are all high quality; invest in a decent camera/phone. Utilize tags, and keep your profile public.

- Utilize stories to portray the life you want others to perceive you have. You might be broke sis, but they don’t need to know that. If you want to portray the life of a model, observe what other models post to get inspiration. If you want to portray the life of a business woman or a philanthropist, observe those women.

- Follow people who share mutual followers as you/live in the same area. Like/comment when you can to build rapport. 

- Build a following; everyone is marketable. Find your market. The larger your following, the more you’ll notice people just reach out to you randomly.

- Advocate for a cause; if you are passionate about a cause, DM people who also are interested in the cause to see you can connect. I have done this many times when fundraising, and this has allowed me to network across the globe from the comfort of my phone!

Your pics and profile should scream “I’m already spoiled”. I use pics of myself in high end restaurants and dressed up. I never explicitly state that I’m looking for an SD on the vanilla dating apps because your profile will get flagged.

This is a tip from my oldest sister and I am her disciple.

My esteemed eldest sister works for a major Middle Eastern Air Carrier in recruitment and social media, she puts a huge emphasis on her appearance and what she wears, part of the recruitment process for her ME3 airline’s cabin crew is appearance based and they have strict rules and regulations for their grooming regimen. There are so many videos based on the ME3 and how to become cabin crew but I’m lucky enough to have my sister who shares all of her secrets with me and who is always willing enough to give me all her sisterly advice.

She believes in business formal clothes, she has an entire armoire filled with all of her cute little blazers and dresses, she’s got her stockings in little organisers, she has all of her heels and her shoe polishes, and she has her work purses. She believes in formal wear, business dresses, and she’s a classic, she always looks nice, she always smells nice, and I’ve never seen her unprepared for any situation that she’s ever gotten into. Part of her whole schtick is always being put together and hiring other people who are put together and I admire her for being able to make sure that she’s always up to par and I’m jealous of how she’s always been so put together.

When I graduated from college, the first thing she told me to invest in was a moderately expensive set of business clothes, I only needed the one and I needed to have it nicely tailored, I needed to buy from a quality store so that it would last, and that would be what I’d wear to job interviews, meetings with possible patrons and sponsors, important networking events, and other events in my life that called for business formal dress. She’s all about being taken seriously as a woman in business and being able to break the glass ceiling, knowing how to style oneself for formal situations and meetings, and I trust her implicitly when it comes to these things, I invested in a rather expensive business set, I wear it all the time, I wear it whenever I want to be taken seriously, and I’ve never had an instance where it hasn’t worked for me. This tip has and will never miss.

How to begin your capsule.



Pants, Skirts, or Dresses?

Which one suits you most? I am strictly a dress woman, I’m too short for pants, skirts and blouses tend to make me look frumpy and I never do well with contrasting colours, and I prefer the simplicity of darker colours and dresses. I think that they’re easier to launder and keep crisp, they’re easier to tailor for my body type, they flatter me, and, in a survey I did of the men I know and my colleagues, 100% of them told me that they preferred to see me in dresses. I prefer dresses because I love the simplicity of only having to buy one piece and wear one piece, I love that I don’t have to do a huge amount of work to iron, and I love how feminine I’m able to come off as. I wore a very similar set to my Oxford interview and I modelled the dress I have now off of the dress I wore then, that was my success dress for years and, when it finally came apart at the seams, I sewed it into a bear because I couldn’t bear to part with my lucky charm. Whatever suits you and your style works best, if you prefer pants, buy them and have them tailored to perfection, if you love skirts and blouses, same spiel, and if you prefer wearing dresses, you know exactly what you should do.

Hosiery or Hot Legs?

Hosiery are an important part of every business outfit, if you want to be classy and look put together and refined, then you fucking wear your stockings. There’s no argument, hosiery comes in every colour, all sorts of deniers, and nearly every sheen imaginable and hosiery isn’t for old women anymore. You wear your stockings and your shapewear to look perfect, I used to make fun of my sister for having all of her Skims and her stockings but now I understand and I see her and I marvel at just how good she looks. You don’t need to do a full set of heavy duty Skims and then stockings with a garter belt and all of that, I choose to do so but you don’t need to. You need to have lingerie that fits you properly, you cannot be spilling out of the sides of your bras or be overly compressed, your underwear needs to fit properly and not dig into your skin, if you’re going to wear shapewear then it needs to be a proper level of compression, and your stockings cannot have runs. It sounds rough when you read it but it’s easy work once you get into it and begin figuring it all out.

Closed Toe Pumps.

You need to have at least one pair of closed toe pumps, it’s not professional to wear open toed heels or high heeled sandals to business formal settings and closed toe pumps are the standard. I personally always choose a nice smooth or patent leather pump with a 3.0 inch heel minimum, I make sure that the vamp of the heel is nicely cut and that the heel itself is strong, I make sure that the walkability level of the heels is high, and I tend to gravitate towards stiletto heels with an almond toe. In my sister’s opinion, red bottoms are not appropriate for business formal settings, you don’t want to have a garish colour distracting from a serious look and Louboutins are perfect for nights out but not for important meetings and networking events, they’re also uncomfortable as all hell but I digress. I personally love Banana Republic’s budget option, the Madison 12-Hour Pump, they’re incredibly comfortable and very appropriate for work, the heel comes in a variety of shades, and it’s a suitable heel for all women going into the corporate world or in need of a business outfit.

Accessories and All.

My favourite category! Your belts, purses, and everyday jewellery fall into this category. You always want to go with more laid back, you never want to be that woman wearing too much but you also don’t want to have too little going on for you. Simple stud earrings, a neat watch, a classic bracelet, maybe a necklace, you never want to over do it with accessories. Your purse doesn’t have to be designer, it just has to be presentable and put together, I have a super nice day tote bag from Everlane that I love to bring to work and no one says anything because it’s nicely put together and it looks to be designer when it’s not. I bought a cute little ‘obi’ belt that I wear with my dress and I love it, I love the little details and accessories are what pulls an outfit together. You never want to go overboard and sometimes subtlety is the best option. You don’t need logos or real diamonds, you don’t need to have expensive purses and you don’t need to go overboard. My sister wears a watch, a simple tennis bracelet, diamond studs, and carries a plain black leather handbag with all of her things in it. She doesn’t go for much but she still looks good and I try to do the same.

My Favourite Stores.

M. M. LaFleur.

One of my favourites, much pricier but extremely high quality, I love their dresses and own a large collection of pieces, and I’m always complimented when I wear M.M. LaFleur pieces. MMLF is an investment brand but I’m of the opinion that an initial investment that can be utilised time and time again is never a bad idea, I love the cut of the clothes and the timeless style and I always find myself buying more and loving what I have.

Of Mercer.

A newer brand to me, I ordered a lovely dress from Of Mercer and I was hooked, I ordered the ‘Leonard’ dress for the lovely asymmetrical neckline that vaguely reminded me of Roland Mouret’s designs and I don’t regret it a single bit. I also found that a few of the designs from Of Mercer are pretty close to the designs from Black Halo but much more affordable. I’d highly recommend Of Mercer for quality alone and I can say that I’ve really loved what I’ve ordered from OM so far.

Banana Republic.

Banana Republic is an old friend of mine, I’m a huge fan of Banana’s wrap dresses, I love the quality and the cut of their trench dresses, and I love the pumps and various bits and pieces that I’ve bought from Banana over the years. Banana is more affordable than a lot of places but the quality is usually quite high and the value is unmatched. I have an emerald green wrap dress from Banana that I refuse to ever get rid of and I love the feeling of the fabric, my one qualm with Banana is that some things are hit or miss but any company owned in full by GAP tends to have issues.

J. Crew.

I love J. Crew, I buy most of my pants and a large chunk of my regular wardrobe from the petites section of J. Crew. J. Crew is decently pricey but the clothes hold up, they look good, they have a range of colours and sizes, and J. Crew is a known brand, I’ve never had an issue with J. Crew and worrying about how I’ll look in the office or appropriateness and I’ve never been in a cinch because of J. Crew. The blazers and jackets I’ve bought have been superb, the dresses I’ve bought have for perfectly, and the accessories I’ve bought have always lasted ages and held up nicely to all sorts of wear and tear. J. Crew has always been a classic.

Everlane.

A newer and more modern classic, Everlane is great for more leisurely work wear, work sneakers, and more fun and comfortable clothing. I wouldn’t suggest Everlane if you want a super flirty and feminine look but I’d encourage you to run to Everlane if you’re more of a button down, pressed jeans, tote bag, and sneakers type of girl. I call Everlane a store for my tech girls and I shopped almost exclusively from Everlane when I was seeing Silicon Valley Stephan. Everlane is good for most situations that you don’t have to dress up in, it’s a more business casual and downright casual store for women who enjoy being out together but still looking and feeling classy, just in a different less feminine way.

Black Halo.

A classic. I love Black Halo, I own no less than nine dresses from Black Halo, and I’m constantly looking to get into more trouble whenever I begin to peruse the website. The Jackie O dress is a favourite of mine and I wear it often, Black Halo has been worn by all manner of socialites, and the dresses are high quality and don’t need much tailoring to look amazing. I also am a huge fan of the asymmetrical look and the fact that Black Halo and Roland Mouret sometimes go hand in hand, the only thing that I don’t like about Black Halo is that the designs can seem to try too hard, sometimes you just need simplicity and a little bit of charisma to pull a look off. Black Halo is lovely but it tends to be pricier.

ZARA.

I love ZARA and, if you can figure out how to work the ZARA website, I’m sure that you will to. Zara is one of my absolute favourites for business outfits and work clothes and I love the accessories that ZARA sells, I love the little purses and the heels that I’ve bought from ZARA, I love the dresses, and I love the skirts. I don’t have an issue with ZARA but the quality always has the potential to be iffy, I’ve been lucky enough to be able to always go into a store and purchase what I’d like and feel the fabric ahead of time but online shopping at ZARA is a whole different thing. If you want an edgier and younger vibe that sometimes leans sexier, go for ZARA but try to find a store or really spend your time making sure that what you’re ordering online has decent reviews and pictures outside of ZARA’s website. Look for try ons and ZARA hauls to fully form an opinion before you buy anything online.

Express.

Most of my holy grail day to day items have come from Express. I can’t explain why I enjoy Express so much but I do and it shows in my closet. From tank tops to jeans to skirts to sweaters to jackets, I fucking love Express. I’ve never had any sort of an issue with the quality of the items I’ve bought from Express and I love the new compression line, I love the vintage vibes from some of the things that I’ve recently bought, I love how easy it is to look like I’m a casual corporate girl, and I love how some of my outfits are perfect for a variety of scenarios. The business formal aspect of Express is next to none and there are so many ways to mix and match their pieces. I’ve never had to have anything that I’ve ever bought from Express tailored to fit me better, I can buy off the rack and never have an issue, and I love the range, the range and selection of styles are a huge part of what brought me to Express and I love how it’s only gotten better throughout the years.

could you please repost your cousin

signe's list of basic necessities for

succeeding and settling in society?

thank you kindly.

Hi again!

So, if you don't already know, my cousin Sig has a list of products and styles that she's gathered by going around LA to places like the Beverly Hills Country Club, Soho House, the Los Angeles Country Club, the Brentwood Country Club, the Jonathan Club, the Valley Hunt Club, and a variety of other extremely exclusive private social clubs and golf clubs in Los Angeles. She also uses the information and trends she picked up on during her sorority days and she uses those faithfully. She was in the sorority at USC that Elle Woods' sorority, Delta Nu, was based on and she claims that she's gathered a huge amount of info and life experience from doing good as a DG at USC.

Nails!

Sig highly recommends always having mid length acrylic finger nails painted with gel polish in a neutral, pale pink, or soft white colour, whichever suits your skin colour more. She thinks that the higher class the environment you're in is, the more toned back you need to be until you know people and they're happy to say that they know you. She's quick to always recommend tapered square and round acrylic shapes with glossy and plain gel polish. She doesn't believe in having any designs or bright/dark polish until you're settled in and you know what's acceptable and what's not. She's huge a fan of what she called "country club gel nails" and she adds to her list of country club colours by asking the ladies at the clubs she frequents who she knows have married men worth millions. She's got a list of OPI colours that she loves and if women who married men worth $300 million are happy with these colours, you'll be too, Sig claims that the first steps are gentleness and simplicity before you know what you're going out for.

From left to right and all the way down to the bottom:

☆ Humidi-Tea ☆ ☆ Bubble Bath ☆

☆ Put it in Neutral ☆ ☆ Mimosas for Mr. and Mrs. ☆

☆ Passion ☆ ☆ Stop it, I'm Blushing! ☆

☆ Be there in a Prosecco ☆ ☆ Tiramisu for Two! ☆

☆ Lisbon wants Moor ☆ ☆ Chiffon my Mind ☆

☆ Funny Bunny ☆ ☆ Alpine Snow ☆

Hair!

Sig swears up and down that long hair is the way to go and I do agree with her on this point because of my own experiences. You don't really see very many women with short hair but you see a lot of women with long hair, lobs, and shoulder length hair but you don't ever really see many women with short hair or pixie cuts. Sig's theory about this is based on the fact that the more affluent a woman is, the more likely it is that she's from a background with religious ties or she's a WASP, a Valley Girl, a Sorority Girl, or she just prefers the look of long hair. My theory is that people tend to follow trends and if a majority of the women who have status and affluence at clubs, NPC groups, golf clubs, and other exclusive places have long hair, other women will follow their lead and take up the trend. Neither of us have ever seen any natural black hairstyles (I can say that I've NEVER seen it) and I was told by a black woman I met Tuesday night that it's because she doesn't want her hair to be bothered and so she wears protective styles like box braids on the longer side, wigs/weaves, long micro braids, and micro links on relaxed hair. I also saw a few ponytails.

Skin!

I can't say that I've met a woman who hasn't been quick to tell me that her secret to flawless uniform skin is a spray tan. I've been told up and down the coast of California that spray tans are key and I've been bothered by Sig to start spray tanning to make my body more uniform and make me look like I have a glow, orange isn't the answer but a nice bronzed gold colour is. Sig like to tell me that the women in LA don't just glow with health, they glow with the results from their $200 weekly spray tans and their body glow oils. Sig told me years ago and still tells me to this very day that sitting out in the sun and going to sun beds are from the days of old, using self tanning products and body glow oils or going to get spray tans are part of the new wave. Sig prefers a bronzed look because she believes that a nice golden glow flatters everyone and doesn't make your skin look leathery and she thinks that, regardless of race, every woman should spray down for an even colour.

From left to right and all the way down to the bottom:

☆ Bondi Sands ☆ ☆ Bali Body ☆ ☆ St. Tropez ☆

☆ Jergens ☆ ☆ NARS ☆ ☆ Bali Body☆

☆ Sol de Janeiro ☆ ☆ Sol Body by Colourpop ☆

☆ Anthelios by La Roche-Posay ☆ ☆ Neutrogena ☆

☆ Kiehl's Super Fluid☆ ☆ Shiseido Sun Protector ☆

Makeup!

No one wears heavy dark makeup during daylight hours, you don't see it inside clubs or out on the gold green when the sun is up, you don't see it in the dining areas, and you don't see women wearing any sort of dark or smoky or bedroom makeup during the day. Sig never wears her dark smoky eye, I avoid my smoky winged liner during daylight hours, most of the affluent women don't tend to wear anything too dark so Sig recommends sticking to nude shimmery shadows, neutral matte shadows, gentle winged eyeliner, nude lipstick, shimmery lip gloss, long lashes, and staying away from trendy makeup styles. Cut creases and lots of highlighter won't work, you should go for a natural but still beautiful daytime look, bridal makeup is the best bet for what to do when it comes to choosing your look of the day. Darker makeup works at night for dinners but it should still have those bridal vibes, nothing overly heavy or extra should be happening with your look.

Sports!

This is a bit of a tricky one. Sig swears by a more casual look and she fond of wearing capris (!!!), plain white tops, and sneakers and she's never had any trouble. The West Coast is completely different than the Midwest, the East Coast, and the South. One thing always remains the same: what you wear whilst you're golfing and playing tennis and what you wear whilst you're in the club or in the clubhouse will always be drastically different. You never ever ever mix up your outfits, you avoid wearing or being seen in your activity clothing unless you're doing activities. If you're not already established, no one needs to see you make a style faux pas, you don't wear any sort of clothing that's specifically meant for exercise to get drinks or to sit to eat. Sig and I both agree with the fact that you MUST change, freshen up, and look your best before you transition from green to gimlet. Sig pulls most of her sporting styles from Maria Sharapova and Caroline Wozniacki and she uses her own closet when it comes to casual daytime styles.

Style!

You should either wear more casual but still classy outfits or you should go fully casual. There's a soft in between but you don't want to be overdressed. Sig believes in wearing neutrals in the daylight hours and she endlessly talks about a blogger who she follows for inspiration when she needs it and who I used photos from as the basis for the style board I've attached. You always want to look laid back but still slightly formal during sailing hours, if you're using the club to study or to have lunch, if you're meeting up with friends, or if you're just sitting around to have a nice day, you want to look nice. You don't want to wear anything too dressy but you also don't want to look bad, wearing casual pants with nice tops, nice skirts and blouses, nice dresses, and sprinkling in a few nice accessories is the way to go for a club look.

☆the Inspo is from Fashion Blogger, Steffy's Style☆

Swim!

Sig was extremely quick to say that she doesn't know who needs to be told this but if you're living on the West Coast then you need to know how to swim. It's not an option, most clubs and places where affluent people are have an element of water and you cannot depend on a life vest and the shallow end, you need to know how to swim. If you're going to a beach club or you're invited to a pool party, you cannot safely be around people who are drinking and water, if you're unable to swim and you fall into the water, you're in danger. Drowning in real life doesn't happen like like it does in the movies, your body becomes so focused on conserving air that you can't always cry out for help and you don't always thrash around and make noise, sometimes you silently slip under the water. On that note, you DO need a cute swimsuit! You can't be in an environment where you're surrounded by people with wealth and status wearing your seventh grade speedo, you need to have a classy swimsuit! It's silly to go somewhere nice without being ready!

☆Net-a-Porter is where Sig buys all her swimsuits☆

Per usual,

It's next to impossible to get Sig to divulge her really important secrets, she likes to keep some things to herself and she likes all of her best tips and tricks to be secret. I will say that her secrets that don't have to do with appearance and blending into a new and very affluent setting have to do with personality and her interests and what she's involved herself in. She's started the circuit and took her notes, she spent a lot of time gathering even more experience, and she did everything she thought she needed to do to get the guarantee that she needed to have for a lifetime of security, stability, health, and plenty of prosperity.