the bride & her bridesmaids. "raising a daughter is like watering your neighbour's garden" is a phrase often used to describe a south asian womxn's place in her family dynamic. we've been conditioned to believe we are guests in our own home. that one day we're gonna leave anyway & head off to our "real" home. where our husband lives. as beautiful as our weddings are, there are too many backwards traditions that still take place today which we need to confront. the shame of being a daughter begins in the womb. when they announce: "it's a girl". an estimated 50 million girls are MISSING due to generations of female foeticide, infanticide and abandonment simply because of the fear of their family honour being "disrespected" before their daughter weds and the debt of dowry (YES, those gifts yall be exchanging is still considered DOWRY). at a young age we are taught to aspire for marriage. from how we look to how we act to what cooking credentials we got is all preparation to be #TheGoodIndianBride. the fact that your wedding day is the only accomplishment that would be acknowledged by your fam is FUCKED UP. of course, many people feel that they have healthy relationships with their family and that's beautiful. but also acknowledge the fcukery that still exists in our culture. fuck the patriarchy. fuck dowry. fuck these wacka$$ rituals/traditions that nobody needs to follow. let's be honest, they're costing our sisters' lives here. start celebrating LOVE yall. let's start teaching young womxn SELF-LOVE. let's start healing one another & challenge these unnecessary traditions that are hurting the future of our children. thank you @msmutta for taking a stand on this & creating awareness with #TheGoodIndianBride exhibition. you are the voice for the voiceless. i am proud to be apart of creating HERstory ❤














