First of all, itβs not as bad as you think it is. Itβs actually healthy.
When the people around you donβt understand you anymore, be alone. Listen to your own voice away from their noise. Remember who you were before they imposed their lifestyles, opinions, and thoughts on you. Remember who you were before you met them or integrated yourself with them. Recharge your mind and your heart away from their energies. This is the time to be selfish. This is the time to ask for space. This is the time to find yourself again before you lose yourself in the crowd. Donβt wait until you no longer recognize who you are.
When you feel disconnected from everyone around you, it means youβre growing, youβre evolving, youβre becoming a new and improved version of yourself, youβre changing and people donβt react well to change. They want you to stay the same. They want you to be predictable. They want you to be the person who always accommodates them.
When you feel disconnected from everyone around you, it means youβre finally seeing a new side of life. A side that calls your name. A new city that doesnβt suffocate you. A new home that doesnβt make you want to run away. A new lover who doesnβt take you for granted and actually chooses you. New people you donβt need to argue with to make a point because they see thing the way you see them. A new culture thatβs more aligned with your beliefs and values. Youβre starting to see a glimpse of a better life, a better place where you belong, a place where you feel more connected to society.
Because contrary to popular belief, disconnecting from everyone isnβt a sign of depression or loneliness. It isnβt a sign that something is wrong with you. It isnβt a sign of despair. Sometimes itβs a sign of hope and optimism. Youβre waking up. Youβre realizing your potential. Youβre not settling. Youβre starting to learn that you are the driver of your life and you can steer the wheel in any direction.
Youβre starting to wonder if maybe you havenβt been making the wrong decisions but making the right ones in the wrong place. Saying the right things to the wrong people. Doing the right things for people who donβt appreciate them. Trying to live a certain way in a place that doesnβt support the kind of life you want.
When you feel disconnected from everyone around you, disconnect as much as you can, for as long as you can because that means that when you come out of your isolation, youβll know who you are, youβll know what the next step is, you wonβt be manipulated by others, their words wonβt get to you, their opinions wonβt matter. You wonβt feel like youβre trying so hard to fit and failing anymore, youβll be confident in yourself. Youβll know where you belong. Youβll understand that you felt disconnected for a very valid reason and thatβs going to be how you save yourself from drowning and sail away to find a happy home.
