wild at heart

You don't owe it to anyone to put them above yourself unless they're your child, in which case you chose to bring them into the world and have full responsibility for their well-being. Otherwise? No. Not even the people you love and cherish the most.

You owe it to yourself to live the best life you can, to protect your own interests, and to take care of your own wellbeing. Yes, even when it contradicts what someone else wants from you. Yes, even if that person is your parent, partner, or best friend.

Also here's a secret - the people who are able to love and cherish you the most and see you for who you are rather than ascribing a role to you that's most beneficial for them, will actively encourage this. They will not want you to sacrifice yourself on their behalf.

Be wary of people who do.