i don’t believe in dash call out culture - i believe in either; talking and handling issues like adults if they can be worked through, i believe in calling out your friends for shitty behavior one on one OR unfollowing/blocking and moving on with your life, which is a practice i have done on other blogs i have since created and briefly resided on since the drama and night in question. when the rumor mill started to churn that mox was bowie - i along with ari - sought out others to help; others who had involvement with bowie just to see if anything lined up since we were hard pressed to believe it without proof. we did not know who bowie was at the time, though had heard the name circulating in the mcu before. by this time a call out had been posed which i was against from the moment the idea was even pressed. i offered a different solution, i wanted a couple people from our group of friends to address the issue with mox one on one. i did not feel like it was my place to discuss this with mox at the time as i did not feel like mox and i were necessarily close. nor did i have enough information in my lap PROVING to me that mox was bowie. i did NOT intend this chat to be a group activity as i didn’t want mox to feel like she was being ganged up on/attacked. what i wanted and had intended was for those people that were closest to address it with mox in private. this was in no way what happened. the originator of the group invited the entire group of friends into this chat, i was at work and wasn’t talking in the group with mox. but i did call out the person off to the side in another chat that this wasn’t what i had suggested that we do; because exactly what i thought would happen, happened. by the end of this chat the call out was pressed again which the group made it clear we were against. a friendship was tarnished due to my suggestion back lashing - i suggested we just block each other and move on. but that’s not where it stopped because by then, the call out was continuing to be pressed and under the cover of darkness the call out in question began to be created under my nose and in a side chat that i was not privy to. however, i will not lie and say that i did not know about it at all. i found out about it just as the information was being put into a tumblr post; i would love to tell you what was said that caught my attention and set off the “what the fuck” meter, but i’d be lying if i said i remembered, but what was said at the time was enough to draw my attention back to the voice chat i had long checked out of. at this point, i reiterated my dislike for any sort of call out - i, along with ari, pushed for the callout to not happen at this point. at this point i felt like my words fell upon deaf ears. others involved were completely disregarded and their input disrespected as to how they felt towards it (as two people were asleep at this time and would soon be dragged into drama that they had no intention of being in). for this mox, i owe you an apology - whole heartedly - because i did not try hard enough to put a stop to it. you deserve every right to be able to thrive on tumblr as you wish and be stress free. i am sorry for everything that you have gone through since the night that call out was posted and i do hold myself accountable for not putting my foot down and putting a stop to it. you did not deserve to be treated that way in any way, shape, or form - not to mention for a whole ten fucking months. you deserved better. 

i would like to end this by saying that i denounce the entirety of that call out post. i never wanted to be involved with it but found myself dragged into it with manipulative words and bullying.