Now I lurk (once again), and I scan through my dashboard and the otherkin tags just to see what's going on while liking things here and there. It's starting to get a bit boring now: the posts are starting to look alike and people get riled up over the same stuff. The same questions are being asked, the same issues are being raised…tumblr is not the only place online that I venture, don't worry.
My previous (original) post was no dramatization or anything. I have indeed reached a resting place in my grand search for self. Of course, that is only the first step.
Realizing that is no epiphany, but being in that spot where you know what it is and how it works but don't know what it's for really brings it home.
I simply do not know what to do now.
Of course, in real life I still have my comp sci bachelors to achieve with a side of audio production. That's no mystery. But my "inner self" (if you will) is quite disjointed from this. What would employ the usage of my whole self?
I'm not trying to make more money/popularity with this or anything: I just don't want part of me to become abandoned, abused, or used only selfishly. I've mentally gone through a lot and have developed a lot, and I personally believe that my journey was not for naught.
There's nothing to prove that, though. But it was my choice to live as if I have a purpose.
I have noticed a bit of a problem though. I don't speak to anyone. And no one speaks to me. If I'm to do anything, it would never get around. I don't need connections, so I don't strive for them. Yet I don't want "me" to be wasted, so I still wanted them (to a degree).
That's why I have this unrealistic wish of people finding me without me having to do much. (Not that hard to explain, what do you know?)
That makes me a really difficult "gem" to find. I'm buried in the ground with no way to detect me, and even when found this "ore" would have to be properly extracted to reap its value (that is, assuming I have value). In some ways I like positioning myself this way. In many other ways, I see this as me being my own obstacle.
But I don't know what else to do.
What to say, who to say it to, how to react, when to react, when/what to ignore…blah blah blah pretty much a collage of social anxiety concerns. That or me being way to cautious (if that isn't the same thing).
So I sit, watch, and wait. And to no surprise, not much happens. I guess I can focus on my surface life for a bit. I've started planning for building a high-spec computer. I'm putting together a roadmap for the remainder of my needed education. Since I've been helping with a lot of renovation work lately, the opportunity to build my own desk has presented itself and I'm planning to take advantage of that.
But none of those things fill that "hole" though. Mundane things are no fun to think about. I'm fairly competent at it though, but taking analytical approaches to psychology and spirituality and such is so much more interesting to me. It's just not day-to-day practical, if you know what I mean.
I linger around therian/otherkin because this community (typically) promotes this deeper level of thought, and I like seeing people develop at this level and discuss at this level. Also, I can relate. I can't think of other community types that would yield the same sorts of introspective discussions (besides LGBT communities, whose topics incidentally winds up in otherkin territory quite often). It's probably because I don't get out much. And I'm willing to admit that I'm not too enthused about trying to find other such groups.
So there we go. Just a progress report, I guess. This has been nibbling at me for a while, and just recently it has started to bite. This entry is my addressing this "out loud". There are more steps to be taken, and I do have to find them.