Creature of Chaos

Just a reminder for those that need to hear it:

you must accept that people will have kinks that disgust you and you must come to this same understanding.

most of all, you must come to the understanding that the attraction a person experiences is not proof of some "original sin" that lies inside of them and makes them an irredeemable human. not only because accusations like this have been used as thinly-veiled excuses to lynch brown people/queer people/name a minority group here since literal antiquity, but because you as a leftist should not look at someone who likes lolisho or r*pe kink and suddenly decide that certain people DO NOT deserve human rights

Stretch. Whether you’re in bondage or you’re flailing about, your body is going to have a work out. Warm it up if you can! Stretch your arms, back, legs, neck, and shoulders at least. It sucks when you have to safeword because you pulled something

Talk about ALL the aftercare things. You’re not always going to be having intense “sessions”, but that doesn’t mean you won’t need aftercare! It’s good to have a transition. But you cant JUST talk about the good stuff, there’s more to it. Be sure to talk about the things you like (cuddling, playing with hair, praise for your performance, etc), the things you don’t like (being wrapped up in blankets, laying on your back, etc), and how you might respond to the end of play (tears, anxiety, difficulty speaking, etc)! If your partner sees you’re suddenly non-verbal, you don’t want them to panic just because you’re coming down from the high!

Expect something to go wonky. Your life is not a well-scripted porn. Someone’s body is going to make a funny sound at an intense time and you’re going to get distracted laughing at it. You’re going to try a position that really doesn’t work for you. You’re going to get scratched by their glasses when you’re trying to be romantic. That’s OKAY. It won’t be perfect, but hopefully it will be fun and exciting and satisfying.

Talk about your current hard limits. Playing is sometimes a great way to push your boundaries in ways you like! Hopefully you have an idea of where your soft limits are. But hard limits will bring the fun to an abrupt end if attempted. Talk about what you absolutely don’t want. Remember that soft limits can be hard limits on different days! If you’re normally nervous about having your feet played with, but today you absolutely don’t want them touched, say so!

Hydrate. This is silly, I know, but your body needs more love if you’re going to put it through anything more than day to day life. You may not be a pro at drinking enough water most days, but you sure as hell better try before messing about with someone else! Think of it like you’re going to run a marathon: don’t eat anything heavy an hour before to avoid getting sick, hydrate so you’re ready to sweat and/or produce other bodily fluids, know when you need to slow down.