Just Jennifer

This week is Trans Awareness Week which closes with Trans Day of Remembrance, and while I’d love to open this with a message of positivity and progress, the reality is that especially for trans folks in America the level of fear and uncertainty is higher than it has been in a long time. Awareness is important, and I hope you’ll all consider sharing out a post about this week and your support for the trans community. There’s still plenty to be gained from visibility and education. But as much as awareness is important, so is action.

If you are able, I ask you to consider giving to help trans folks in need. There are many trans folks trying to get new passports and other documents before any changes are made, and plenty of financial need for essential medical care - hormones, surgery, hair removal, etc. - that is often not covered, or not fully covered, by insurance. You could also support one (or more) of the following organizations that work to advance and protect the trans community:

Trans Lifeline

Sylvia Rivera Law Project

Transgender Legal Defense & Education Fund

National Center for Transgender Equality

Transgender Law Center

Gender Spectrum

1. Set aside some time to think through why you feel you’re not good enough, or don’t deserve to be loved. Then actively counter each of those reasons. This is a really crucial step for you to take.

2. Make a list of at least 10 of your positive traits and strengths. Each day, add at least 2 more items to your list.

3. Commit to only saying positive and affirming things about yourself – that is, your face, your body, your personality, your abilities, and so on.

4. Each day, tell your body how much you appreciate it.

5. Hold your head high, smile, look people in the eye, and always speak slowly, and with confidence.

6. Have the courage to list and face some of the worst mistakes you’ve made, or some of the challenges you’ve found hard to overcome. Then, gently admit to yourself that you are not perfect. In fact, none of us is perfect, and we all start from different places in life. What has been hard for you may have been easy for someone else. Choose to not be so hard on yourself – forgive yourself for EVERYTHING and then just let it go!

7. Go through your closet and experiment with your clothes until you find something that you feel really good in. Choose to wear that – and to buy other outfits that make you feel good about yourself and your appearance. Get rid of clothes that lower your self-confidence or self-esteem.

8. Learn to listen to your body and mind, and treat what they are saying with kindness and respect. If you are tired, rest. If you are feeling worn down or emotionally drained, then withdraw and do something that will help to build you up.

9. Do something nice for yourself each day. Buy yourself some flowers, some new clothes, some music … or go for a jog, get your hair or nails done …. Whatever makes you feel pampered and special and loved.

Well Dressed Crossdressers and Transgendered Women:

The things that I am not. 

I’m not a transsexual

I’m not a shemale 

I’m not a tranny 

I’m not a femboy 

I’m not a transvestite 

I’m not a fetish 

I’m not a trap

I’m not a crossdresser

I’m not a sissy

I’m not a drag queen

Well Dressed Crossdressers and Transgendered Women:

Well Dressed Crossdressers and Transgendered Women: