Inhale & Exhale

INTJ; (listen) a mix for the brilliant minds with the ability to accomplish great things; for those with an insatiable thirst for knowledge and an unparalleled confidence within; for the rational, the insightful, the independent. the intj. 

“my goal is simple; it is a complete understanding of the universe - why it is as it is and why it exists at all”

i. science and faith // the script, ii. poet // bastille, iii. human // gabrielle aplin, iv. bittersweet symphony // the verve, v. unwritten (acoustic)  // boyce avenue, vi. fair game // sia vii. across the universe // fiona apple, viii. dust to dust // the civil wars

I know you didn’t mean this in a mean way, but I have to tell you that I really hate this idea. 

I want you to realize that this is a really offensive idea that’s been propagated by a misogynistic society: women are pretty, but women are dumb. 

WRONG!

There are so many things wrong with this statement that I don’t even know where to begin with it. 

First, beauty has nothing to do with what’s on the outside. Maybe what’s “conventionally attractive” has some external standard, but that’s not beauty. Beauty comes from who a person is and what’s inside them. There are thousands of conventionally pretty people who have nothing beautiful on the inside–only cruelty and hatred. I see that as ugly. And there are thousands of people who don’t meet a ridiculous, impossible, european standard of beauty who are the most beautiful people I have ever met, because they have love and joy on the inside. 

So, I probably do meet some of that stupid beauty standard because I happened to have been born with a certain set of random chromosomes. 

That is not what makes me beautiful. 

I am beautiful because I have the capacity for love. Because I have joy. Because I find a way to reach out to others. Because I have passion in what I do. Because I pursue the things that make me happy. Because I have made peace with my body. Because I’m learning to pick love and joy over negativity and hatred. 

If I lacked any of that and was left only with that set of random chromosomes–I might meet a standard–but I would not be beautiful. 

Secondly, you need to know that there are dozens of types of intelligence: verbal intelligence, kinesthetic intelligence, social intelligence, etc. I happen to have some of those types of intelligence, but many of them I lack. 

I believe that my types of intelligence will serve me well in a career in medicine. 

But that does not make me smarter than someone who builds rockets for a living or someone who plays basketball for a living or someone who drives a cab for a living or someone who sells cars for a living or anyone else. 

We all simply have different skills and different types of intelligence. 

I lack the spacial intelligence needed to drive a cab, I lack the kinesthetic intelligence needed to play any sort of sport involving a ball, I lack the social intelligence to sell anyone anything and I like the quantitative intelligence to do the calculations needed to build rockets. That doesn’t make me stupid. It just makes me different than people who can. 

You will NEVER be able to predict what kind of intelligence someone has just by looking at them on the outside. 

And if you do, if you believe someone is “too fat” to dance, or “too short” to play basketball, or “too pretty” to do medicine–you’re going to be wrong… every damn time. 

So, stop. Please. Stop. Right now. Stop buying into the ridiculous ideas that you’ve been taught. Stop believing that what’s on the outside can define what’s within and that beauty is about that outside instead of the inside.