Gwyn and her sexuality (tw// sexual assault)
So guys, in the last few days I have seen many opinions about Gwyn and her trauma that made me think that I lot of you have a very twisted idea about SA survivors. Some people acts like her past makes it impossible to her overcome what happened and at least try to heal. It hurts seeing posts like that, making her entire character, her arc, her relationships about that!
Gwyn’s character development obviously is about healing, about make her see she is worthy and that she is not broken! I don’t know if SJM is going to make her a LI (I hope she does) or if her destiny is to end up alone the series, but either way she doesn’t deserve the kind of treatment that some in this fandom are reproducing. Just like Elain is NOT defined by her uterus, Gwyneth is NOT defined by her past. Please, stop using this kind of arguments to pit women agains each other, ok?!
Just remember: Gwyn is a Valkyrie, a Priestess, a sister, a friend, a female, an amazing mix 3/4 fae and 1/4 water nymph. She likes to read, to learn, to laugh with her friends. She gives gifts because seeing people she loves happy makes her happy. She is a singer and she glows when she does it. She has the most beautiful teal eyes and a constellation of freckles on her nose. She beated Ramiel. She is a survivor! We learned all of it in one book so please DON’T define her as “the sexual assault victim incapable of healing and having a healthy sex life.” Please don’t! It’s incredibly unfair. It’s all up to her, to her path.
Maybe she can never go there again, and it’s alright! But maybe she can, so don’t shut this door on her.
Just like everyday she’s is making progress and coming out her library, just like she opened up herself to Nesta and Emerie and began to trust them, just like she let herself be trained by Cassian and Azriel, with the right partner and the right storyline, respecting what she’s been through and her time, she can learn to trust her body and her heart to another person too.
I needed to get it off my chest! Please, think about what are you posting before you post it! Might hurt other people on a personal level. If you stopped to read this, thank you!
Ps: please don’t come for me saying “yes but even if she can go there, she and Az would never fit because he is a kinky bastard and she would never fit” The post isn’t even about ships, it’s about a character development. But IF someone brings it up:
Kinky sex is about trust and if both partners are confortable and into it. If they are, who are we to judge?
Relationships isn’t just about sex.
Re-read this entire text.
But this is a subject to deepen in another post, and I’ll write about it later. Maybe.
