Girls can do this. Girls can have fun doing stuff that seems silly to men. Girls can have fun like they never grew up because we are always in touch with our softer, more whimsical, and tender side.
We're not afraid to let our hair down and be spontaneous for a while, even if we look immature or childish or goofy or "out of touch"...ironically, it's the men who grew up already who are out of touch. They lost touch with their innocence, and that is never a good thing. Bye, innocence.
This is why w/w work. It's not about sex...it's about true love and having a good time together doing what brings you joy.
Sex, of course, is a personal matter, so if two people choose to have sex, that's not something that's open for discussion. That's a private matter between those two people. What we're talking about here is mutual love and respect and honor and honesty and...partnership in life. A relationship of true love and best friends and companions during this journey.
Men...just...don't...seem...to...get...that!
Women understand. Women understand because women are natural nurturers. Women have had the delicate touch for thousands of years while men were fighting wars.
If it's not about sex or money or working for money with a man, he ain't interested. If he can't powertrip his way through a relationship, he gets restless. His time is way too valuable to take you to the fair and actually spend his hard-earned money on something that would make your hardened heart melt like ice in his hands.
He doesn't seem to grasp the emotional aspect of it because he's too stuck on the physical aspect of it. His money and what you're going to do to earn him spending some of his money on you. You better be ready and willing to put out and tend to his physical needs when you get home if you want that plushie, girl!
Forget that it would mean a lot and the thought of him caring about your happiness is enough to make any girl swoon. Forget that it's about how he makes you feel and not actually how much he spends on you. Forget that it's the language of the heart, and showing that he cares is more important than saying he cares.
A man doesn't seem to fathom the idea of whimsical romance and how it's the little things that matter most...it's the thought that counts. It's the equity of his intention to partake in bringing you joy and sharing happiness with you because he can. Because God gave him the ability and the knowledge of how to make a woman happy...but...he...just...doesn't.
He must work first...that is always a man's priority, and making you feel like you're a walking pleasure dispensary for him during his time off from work.
You become nothing more than his "down time"...but no woman should ever settle for less than what she wants. A man will leave you alone for eight hours a day, five days a week for life, and expect you to want him -- without considering what you truly want. He assumes it's always him. Meanwhile, you're just over here wishing for a girl to take you to the fair and win you some plushies!
If he's got his work, his money, and his on-call pleasure holes, a man considers himself to have it good.
My husband would never play a game at a fair -- he would be emotionally cold and distant about it and act like that was a waste of money, nor would he win plushies for me...anywhere.
If he couldn't find a place over in the corner to lose his religion and grab my v-jay, he would not be in his happy place. He would just walk around with a grumpy look on his face making me feel alone and out of place. My husband is NOT a good carnie partner, needless to say.
Actually, he's not that great of a life partner. Rather boring like stagnant water. I feel horrible to feel this way, but it is how I feel after spending twenty-two years of my adult life with him.
He doesn't know how to naturally have a good time. It's like being married to a stick in the mud. I like to have tons of fun, but he is always so serious and hardly ever smiles or laughs. He's the toughest crowd, and honestly, as a free-spirited, fire personality, I have been dying a very slow death for the last two decades.
