“This charge I entrust to you, Timothy, my child, in accordance with the prophecies previously made about you, that by them you may wage the good warfare, holding faith and a good conscience. By rejecting this, some have made shipwreck of their faith, among whom are Hymenaeus and Alexander, whom I have handed over to Satan that they may learn not to blaspheme.”
When is it time to say goodbye? As believers we often times face the question of separation. When is it right, given a situation, to bid adieu to individuals and relationships that are “unhealthy”? This question is one that I think is central to the very nature of what it means to be a post reformation protestant Christian. After all, Martin Luther (The German Reformer) himself must have wrestled with the very same question.
The most pressing issue in this conversation is perception. Undoubtedly, any individual who has been involved in Christian community has seen separation carried out in horrid fashion. Most, I would venture, have seen it done poorly and most likely for the wrong reasons. As a result, many no doubt choose to stay in an unhealthy church environment. And this staying must be, in so many ways, seen as a reaction to past experiences of separation having been lived out and justified by a gospeley-tinged selfishness. We have all seen the “believer” forsake the assembly due to some ridiculous “God told me” idea. Whether said reason presents itself as worship style, clothing preference, or doing what is best for, “my own personal spiritual growth.” We have all seen people leave for the wrong reasons.
But if those reasons are wrong, what reasons are right? Is there ever a justified reason to separate from a body of locale believers? Furthermore, is there ever a situation in which separation should be compelled upon the individual as a result of local church authority? Our goal therefore is to look at these two perspectives below.
First, one should assess the question of personal separation. Is there ever a justified reason to separate oneself from the local church? Paul states in the above passage to Timothy something of a warning. He says, “This charge I entrust to you, Timothy, my child, in accordance with the prophecies previously made about you, that by them you may wage the good warfare, holding faith and a good conscience.” The goal it seems for Timothy is to wage, “good warfare” and to hold fast to, “faith and a good conscience.” The question then in the context of this passage must be seen as the individual’s conviction to persevere in these things. When keeping faith and a good conscience becomes impossible in the local body, what is to be done? What motivations are biblically sound and which are selfish and foolish?
Previously, Paul wrote to Timothy that there was a great need to, “Keep a close watch on yourself and on the teaching.” One can assume at this point that if, “the teaching,” is false than there must be action taken in the course of guarding, “yourself,” from apostasy. It is obvious in this passage that Timothy was in a position to safeguard the church. However, what is one to do if the ones entrusted to be “Timothy” are, in fact, behaving more like a “Hymenaeus” or an “Alexander”?
The answer to this question is one that must revolve around the notion of apostasy. In the modern context, what constitutes apostasy? What in actuality should be seen as grievous to the point of saying goodbye? The point here rests on the notion of false teaching.
Yet, what is one to do if the false teaching is coming from the one place it should not be, the pulpit? How are we as believers supposed to separate when the pastoral structure is the source of the apostasy? What are we to do when spiritual abuse is spewed from the very place that grace and love should flow as a representation of the Gospel?
Unfortunately, the answer to these questions are ones that often are forged not in the conscience, or in the motivation to wage a good fight, but rather the answers often times are ones that have been concluded after waging warfare in an unacceptable manner. So then, what constitutes the good fight? What persuades the believer, who may hold fast to the notion that separation is a non-glorifying action to see separation as a viable option?
Sinclair B. Ferguson has much to say on this in an article he recently wrote entitled Guidelines For Separation. In this article there are several points that are key when one is considering what constitutes actions motivated by a desire to wage good warfare in the name of the Gospel. This article sheds a great wealth of light on this topic and should be read further. If you would like to read it, the article can be found on the web at: http://www.ligonier.org/learn/articles/guidelines-separation/. I would suggest after reading this blog that you read that article, it is insightful to say the least.
First, one should note that Ferguson points out something concerning the nature of the local church. He states of the church that, “we are not to be unequally yoked with unbelievers. We must never compromise our distinctiveness for the sake of mutual activity.”[1] In other words, we are not to lose our distinctiveness by looking more like the culture outside of the church than in. This by no means is to motivate us to a bunker mentality. A mentality in which we hunker down in our churches, fingers crossed, hoping that the whole rapture thing comes through exactly how Kirk Cameron said it would. However, it should show us something concerning the modern church.
Has relevance taken the place of confidence? Is the church that you attend more concerned about being attractional to sinners, than they are concerned to find confidence in the Gospel and its power to save? If that is the case than your ears should jerk you toward the door. It is of grave danger if a church begins to seek relevancy over apostolicity, easy hearing instead of Gospel truth. This may be the first sign that separation is called for as a remedy to the sickness we see before us. Especially if the hierarchy of the local church has no desire to even discuss the situation.
John Piper made a pressing observation about this very point in concern to the leadership of the modern Church. He states something pressing in relationship to the professionalization that one can see in the modern pulpit. One reads in his book Brothers We Are Not Professionals the following passage:
“This (professionalization) is not the overstated professionalism of the three-piece suit and the stuffy upper floors but that understated professionalism of torn blue jeans and the savvy inner ring. This professionalism is not learned in pursing an MBA but in being in the know about the ever-changing entertainment and media world. This is the professionalization of ambience, and tone, and idiom, and timing, and banter. It is more intuitive and less taught. More style and less technique. More feel and less force.”[2]
And this point is one that should not be overlooked. Historically speaking; is there even precedent for such actions in the history of the Church? Possibly the Romanization of the early Church? How’d that work out for all parties involved? If my memory serves me correct, I don’t think it worked well at all. As the Church became more Roman it also became less Christian.
In short Piper is pointing out a discrepancy in the modern embodiment that we see in the contemporary Church. The cliché pastor who is “hip” beyond his years is just that; a cliché. The sad fact is however, they rarely recognize this and in their desire to be professional children they end up dragging the reality of Christ through the mud. When will it stop?
The reality of this situation is one that rests on the local church and its ability to envisage salt and light to the world around it. William Cowper once wrote compelling words concerning this. After attempting suicide he wrote the following words in his hymn Decide This Doubt For Me:
“The saints are comforted I know,
And love thy house of pray’r
I therefore go where others go,
But find no comfort there.”
The point here is one of teaching in the church and its affects in the lives of the saints. Cowper willingly admitted that, “the saints are comforted” in the local church yet when there, he was unable to find comfort. It is obvious that the church was salt and light. For when Cowper was in the presence of the saints he could see what he wanted so desperately. Furthermore, many speculate that he did find it. The simple fear regarding this however is how can the “saints” be salt and light if they are too concerned with finding a leader that looks like the rest of the world outside the church walls. I hope you are seeing the hypocrisy here.
Ferguson goes on to point out another concern that should be reason for separation. He states plainly that one should see separation as a means of leaving behind those who, “pollute or threaten to destroy”[3] the church. This we should see as key in the context of the above passage. When are leaders seen as the agents of this pollution? After all, not all tattered jeans and Ichthus (Jesus fish) tattoos equate to apostasy, however the percentage rapidly rises as the age of the individual in question rises as well. Furthermore, when are we no longer called to tolerate such precariousness? What are we to do concerning this reality?
Here, I think, we arrive at the question of church discipline and it purpose. Ferguson states it by saying, “Clearly, these two elements (Word and sacraments) have a third element church discipline.”[4] We will discuss Word and Sacrament below however; we must see that discipline, as it flows from the two concepts above, undergirds the very principle of local church discipline. Each respectively, feeds and maintains the one.
If leaders such as described above persist in the church, there is little recourse for church discipline being carried out in relationship to their apostasy (Or to any individual in the church for that matter). Again, I quote John Piper when he stated that the modern professionalism of the pulpit is motivated by a desire to embody, “More feel and less force.”[5] If the forge in which the modern church has been shaped is built on feel more than the force of the Gospel, there is intuitively a counter reaction to church discipline. Church discipline does not feel good, as a result it should be assumed that pastors who have built their ministries off of how it “feels” are pastors who will implement church discipline very little if at all. Most of all they will not respond well to discipline being called for in reference to themselves, for they do not see its value in their ministry.
So what is one to do in such situations? The first response should be to evaluate the Word. Is the Word taking presentence in the life of the congregation? On initial investigation the response of the individual may be a resounding, “yes!” however one must not stop here, for we are weak and in our sinful nature we may find the Gospel, assessed by our own convictions to fall short. According to Ferguson in concern to this point Calvin held the following perspective concerning the Word:
“Of course, for Calvin, the ministry of the Word stretched all the way from the daily sermons from the pulpit, to the lecture room, to the Sunday afternoon meetings of the consistory, and to the Friday congregations—the gatherings for the pastors’ edification and (if need be) mutual criticism.”[6]
In other words, the Gospel edification of the Word extends far beyond the pulpit.
Does the Gospel shape the very life of the your church? Furthermore, What is being done to carry the ministry of the Gospel beyond the pulpit, beyond a Sunday “experience”? This is not asking the questions of whether your pastor is a man who seeks to carry out the professional duties of a “pastor” but rather, is he seeking to live the Gospel on a regular basis throughout the week? Does he not only insist that his congregation live the Gospel to others, but he also lives it himself?
The question may be simple. What does that look like? We find an important qualifier in 1st Timothy concerning this. It is there that we find the following in 1 Timothy 3:1-5:
“The saying is trustworthy: If anyone aspires to the office of overseer, he desires a noble task. Therefore an overseer must be above reproach, the husband of one wife, sober-minded, self-controlled, respectable, hospitable, able to teach, not a drunkard, not violent by gentle, not quarrelsome, not a lover of money. He must manage his own household well, with all dignity keeping his children submissive, for if someone does not know how to manage his own household, how will he care for God’s church?”[7]
Nowhere in the text of 1Timothy does it say that the man must have the qualification of a fortune 500 CEO. My great fear is however that in searching for CEO type pastors we are inevitably setting our churches up for failure. Furthermore, we may be setting these men up for a life that does not end well.
The concern is this; if the word and the sacraments are not elevated to the pedestal that they should be placed upon, run! Run as far and as fast as one could possibly run from such a church. Is this a wholesale declaration? By no means is that my intention. However, from personal perspective seeking to change such a church culture is a difficult thing, and most often does not end well. Again churches that seem to embody such a ministry style as described above, by their own nature, do not take Church discipline seriously. As a result, we by no means, should think that they would respond well to any such attempts of accountability. That is the case unless of course, it is they who presume to hold others “accountable” for their troublesome questions.
There must be seen a subtle difference between what is often embodied in churches and what is called for in the Scripture. I recently read of an individual caught in an unhealthy church situation. This person found it difficult to leave said church due to the sense of grace that was found there. How can one hold that God’s grace is being fleshed out in a church, when there exists’ a blatant disregard for Church discipline? The answer is one that is found in emotion, feel, and Peter Pan screaming, “Think happy thoughts!!!”
Some of you may want to turn away at this point; grace cannot be lived out in a church that has no desire to embody the Word at all cost. If one feels good whilst living in such a situation, there may be a deep need for some serious self-assessment in light of Gods word. What do your other relationships look like? Are you prone to codependency? If the answer is yes, a redefinition of grace may need to be placed at the top of the priority list. I’m not saying that one cannot feel called to stay in a church that is struggling. I’m not saying that God’s grace is not available to such a church. However, I am saying this; a church that seeks to mutually edify the saints through healthy Gospel living is one in which the true definition of grace is seen. In other words, what happens when people start getting real and stop being polite? Church discipline is just as much part of God’s grace to His people as worship, fellowship, or the feel goods. The fear is that many stay in unhealthy situations only because it feels good.
The simple fact is that for every pastoral problem there is also a parishioner problem. In short, for both, the problem is simple… Sin. Very few of us realize the extent to which the fall has infected every aspect of church membership and biblical leadership. Where pastors are guilty so also are parishioners. For every individual who has left over worship, or personal growth (whatever that means), or contemporary or traditional “feel”, there is also an individual who is sitting right now in a church holding firm, seeking to represent the Gospel in the face of faltering leadership. Because the reasons for leaving have been so muddied by shallow reasoning, there remain devout saints fighting for the wrong reasons. Vote with your feet and leave.
Ferguson, Sinclair B. “Guidlines For Seperation.” Table Talk , June 2014: 16-19.
Piper, John. Brothers, We are Not Professionals. Nashville, TN: B&H Publishing Group, 2013.
[1] Ferguson, Sinclair B. “Guidlines For Seperation.” Table Talk , June 2014: 16-19.
[2] Piper, John. Brothers, We are Not Professionals. Nashville, TN: B&H Publishing Group, 2013 (Kindle Loc. 63 of 4445
[3] Ferguson, Sinclair B. “Guidlines For Seperation.” Table Talk , June 2014:18.
[5] Piper, John. Brothers, We are Not Professionals. Nashville, TN: B&H Publishing Group, 2013 (Kindle Loc. 63 of 4445)
[6] Ferguson, Sinclair B. “Guidlines For Seperation.” Table Talk , June 2014: 16-19.