I feel not quite as cranky now, so I apologize if I came off too harsh. My intention was mainly this point here:
If you decide to run these people out, there will be no Artemis Fowl fandom left on tumblr
I believe the discourse surrounding A/H has occurred several times throughout the fandomâs 20+ year history. It happened on the forum boards, itâs happened here, and obviously it will continue to happen as new people join. But it needs to stay as actual discourse, and not pointing fingers while saying âthis thing is problematic and if you like it, you MUST acknowledge that it is wrongâ.
When I see the discourse start with âhey this ship/thing is messed up and NO ONE acknowledges itâ, the implication is the people who like the ship are inherently messed up themselves and donât understand that theyâre âwrongâ.
The moment you start the conversation with âthis thing ISâŚâ rather than âthis makes ME feelâŚâ then you (the collective you) have taken a stance. And that stance is âmy opinion on this is the right oneâ. The next logical step is to vilify and demonize those who disagree with you if you canât change their minds
Now obviously IRL relationships like Artemis/Holly can be very problematic. It can be counted as grooming (I did not address the fact that had Holly been human, she would have been closer to 20-21, still a 8-9 year age gap, but not 60-something years like OP stated), and there would need to be significant time away from each other in order to appropriately foster those feelings as adults.
But as I pointed out, this is fiction. This hurts no one to age up a character to make a ship appropriate. Or hell, age down a character to make a ship appropriate. No one in Hartemis actually ships child!Artemis and adult!Holly.
My main concern, because I have seen this occur elsewhere, is that this attitude, this âx/y ship is horrible/messed upâ that implies similarly horrible things about those who engage with it, will lead to callouts, to bullying, and more. And once those start, they are very hard to stop.
Many of the people I saw active on fowldom and the Artemis Fowl tags over the years were Hartemis shippers. They were the biggest producers of art and fics for the past 10 years since Iâve been on tumblr. You know who I donât see as often, despite their content not always being about the ship itself? Those same users.
The only thing I can assume based on posts like these that have popped up more regularly in the past year and a half? Those users felt unwelcome. Even if their content wasnât A/H, they still worried that they would get harassed. So they quietly left or at least limited the content they posted. And now, weâre left with people going âhey, whereâs all the AF fans?â because the content has dropped considerably.
Discourse is fine. But you cannot address someoneâs opinion about a fictional ship by stating your opinion is fact. You cannot start discourse by saying that the thing is evil or horrible or messed up.
Youâre not looking for discourse then. Youâre looking for those who think like you do.
And thatâs fine too, to an extent.
PROVIDED YOU DONâT TAG THE THING YOUâRE HATING ON BECAUSE YOU KNOW THAT THOSE IN SUPPORT OF IT WILL SEE IT.
There are OTHER WAYS to get peopleâs attention. Maybe start your own tag that the others can block if they donât want to see hate. Because Iâm sure they donât, same as you donât want to see the hartemis tag.
For that matter, it is never up to the person who is making things that you feel uncomfortable with to block you. It is YOUR responsibility to curate your feed. Either block the tags or block the people who use them. Those features are there for a reason. This is that reason.
Okay, Iâm done for now. I still feel sick, I need sleep, and Iâm just really fucking tired, so my thoughts might be a bit rambling at this point. The topic of anti-ship is a sore spot for me as someone who has seen people leave fandoms because they didnât feel safe.
So forgive me for being protective of my first fandom.
This was my home as an awkward, lonely highschool student, and this was a safe space for hundreds and hundreds of others. I donât want that to change.