steph

look at who you give your love to. if it is not a love you would wish for your future children let it go.

To love oneself is to overshadow uncertainty and fear. so celebrate your accomplishments and forget your shortcomings. focus on your strengths instead of what you lack. do not allow your self doubt to make you forget what you are capable of.

When I was a little girl I had this unrealistic expectation of love. I thought love came easy and that people were naturally good. It never occurred to me that you could love someone and that not be returned. As a child, I never imagined this for myself. Being in love with someone based on their terms. Analyzing conversations and searching for hidden agendas. I never imagined I would fall for someone who is incapable to loving me back.

Why do we channel so much focus on our appearances? We spend more time criticizing our bodies than building our character. Our world has taught us that beautiful equals successful. That in order to be favored, we must be pretty. We live our lives based on conditions. Maybe if I was skinny maybe if my hair was longer maybe if my skin was free of blemishes I would be happy. We should want to make our bodies strong. As well as our minds. And our friendships. Our worth doesn't have to be our reflection but rather a reflection of how we treat others.

It's a beautiful house. With stained glass windows. So much character. So much detail. It was handcrafted, every piece serving a purpose. It had some wear and tear. But it was magnificent. You stood there with your matches. Playing with fire. You doused it in gasoline. The slightest spark sent it up in flames. Burning from the ground up. And you stood by. You said you were sorry but you never once tried to help. You never offered water. You just watched it burn.

The person who was made for you will come easily. As easy as the first sip of coffee in the morning. The person you're looking for, won't make you feel like you're looking. Things will just click. One second things will be normal, then the next there will be a fire you can't contain. You will no longer feel the need to dissect their every word. You'll no longer be searching for a hidden motive because there won't be one. They will show you all of their cards, ready and eager to see yours too. It will be natural and things will just fit.

The sad reality is, Karma isn't that big of a bitch. We tell ourselves that to make us feel better but in my experience, it's never been true. Bad things don't always happen to bad people. Usually, they happen to good people. You could spend 30 years devoted to one person. And then they could walk in, tell you they're leaving and never return. You could treat a friend as if they were family and they can still stab you in the back and everywhere else. And after we are mistreated we expect terrible things to happen to those who have wronged us. But no, they still continue on. They still receive blessings, they're still happy. And for some reason, that leaves us bitter.