I just wanted to say that sometimes the word you're looking for is just ✨lying✨. You're allowed to be upset that someone just plain old lied to you. You don't have to call it gaslighting or manipulation or whatever the fuck, just call it lying and that's enough. It was a ✨lie✨. Not everyone is an evil genius playing mind games, sometimes they're an asshole lying to you.

Alternatively, sometimes the word you want is ✨self centered✨ not narcissistic. Words have meanings.

my favorite love language is trying, actually

like when people try to learn your hobbies or try to play the same sports that you play in an effort to get closer to you, people who try to love you the way you love people, people who will go to places you want to visit just for your sake, people remembering, putting in an effort. just. trying

god yes