I want to start this off with this: i’m not trying to sound bitchy, i just don’t know how to sound happier rn lol its my seasonal depression. I’m very sorry if it comes off that way bc its not my intention 💖

Hi long time no post but if this is referring to what lucas said about kun, i dont think thats fatphobia. fatphobia is saying you hate fat people, just like homophobia is saying you hate gay people. What lucas said was most definitely uncalled for yes, but it wasn’t fatphobia. Lucas very well could be fatphobic, i have no idea, but calling someone fat is not an act of fatphobia.

Fatphobia is a dr refusing to run tests on an individual bc the individual is fat and the dr believes that that is the only possible explanation to symptoms. Fatphobia is refusing to be around someone solely bc they are fat. Calling someone fat or saying they are on the heavier side is not fatphobia.

I would constitute what lucas said as bullying, for sure. And lucas very well could be fatphobic, but what he said to kun alone is not enough (in my mind) to be considered fatphobic.

Also, cultural context is extremely important here. Whether we like it or not, it is entirely possible that a lot of idols have biases and prejudices against fat people because that is how korea, china, and japan are. Hell, thats how the world is.

This is extremely important, and its something i’ve had on my mind for a while. Do not base your worth on whether or not your bias finds your body type attractive. Do not base your worth in being your bias’s ideal type. Do not get hung up on these people’s exact feelings towards fat people. At the end of the day, it does not matter. It sucks, yes. But it doesn’t matter. What matters is that you respect yourself independent of what other people’s attitudes towards you or your body are.

I didn’t see the video, just screenshots, and its completely possible that you are referring to something else. If thats the case, please let me know. I’m also not trying to be bitchy (lately i’ve been sounding bitchy a lot and its bc of seasonal depression i dont know how to sound happy rn lol) i just dont like the term fatphobic to be thrown around, bc meanings get twisted and misconstrued. Also i think i had such a strong reaction to this message because i’m afraid that people are going to get really depressed about this and feel really bad about themselves over what, at the end of the day, is what a stranger in another country said about his bandmate’s body.

I think it has to do with the media we consume. Like we can look at “regular” people and thing theyre beautiful, no matter their size. But on the inside we’re holding ourselves to society’s standard of beauty, which is what we see in movies and on TV. We hold ourselves to a different standard than we hold other people.

You’ll never believe other people when they tell you you’re pretty until you believe it yourself. Its a lot like love, in a way. You wont believe that someone loves you until you decide for yourself that you are someone who is worth loving. You sound like you have a self worth issue, as you consider yourself lower than other people, even if they look like you. You have to teach yourself that you are no less than others. You’re worth it, but you have to believe that in your heart. If you don’t believe something you tell yourself, why would you believe someone else when they say the same thing? You have to take the first step and teach yourself to believe these things independent of what other’s think. Someone can tell you that youre beautiful until theyre blue in the face, but you’re never going to believe them until you believe in your heart that you are capable of being beautiful.

Tbh i think we all feel awful because we’ve been locked inside with nothing to do other than scroll through instagram and compare ourselves to other people 😂😅

I hope you feel better too, lovely 🥺💖🥰

Anonymous said:

It’s okay! Do what you gotta do, don’t pressure yourself ☺️

*TW: discussions of weightloss/drastic weightloss*

I think its important for us to make the distinction to ourselves that adele losing weight is not the problem. The problem is how people reacted to it. (I’m not saying that you specifically believe her weight loss was the issue, as a whole i’ve just noticed people lump it all together like that)

Society likes to tell us that weightloss is a success story. That if youre fat you should spend your whole life trying to get skinny. That you don’t mean anything or you’re not worthy until you lose weight. Its not true. You (and adele) are so much more than a before and after picture. One is not suddenly better for losing weight. They just lost weight, and thats hard and im so proud of anyone that can do it, but at the end of the day its just weight. I’m not saying that one shouldnt be proud of themselves. What im saying is that its not about weight. Weight isnt important. Health is important.

As for the “she looks so much better now comments”, i know exactly what you mean. When people say that, they are implying that one cant be fat and look good. You have to lose weight first. And i hate that mentality

Its also important for us to get rid of the idea in our mind that skinny=healthy or skinny=happy, because it doesn’t. Even i sometimes find myself thinking those thoughts, and theyre almost impossible to get rid of because i have been taught that my whole life, but its not true. Happiness and health depend on so much more than weight.

We don’t know what people are actually going through behind closed doors. For example, one of the girls i went to high school with (beautiful, smart, sweet girl) randomly dropped a lot of weight. She was not overweight before hand. She was actually probably more average than anything. No one had ever really said anything about her weight before. But after she lost all that weight people said that she “looked so good now” or that she was so thin now, as if it was a good thing. Wanna know why she dropped all of that weight? She was really sick. It wasnt intentional at all. Does she look good after all of that weightloss? Yes. But did she look good before? Also yes.

People 100% hate fat people. Like theres no doubt in my mind. But most of them cover it up with “being concerned about health” which is a load of garbage. Does being overweight commonly cause health issues down the road? Yes, studies have proven that. But so does drinking. And smoking. And drug use. But you don’t see comments from people who are “concerned about health” underneath pictures of all of that. They don’t care about health. They care about shaming people into matching societies standard of beauty.

Are fat people just as capable of being beautiful as the next person? Yes. Are fat people capable of being healthy too? Yes. But it should not matter. You do not have to be beautiful or healthy in order to be deserving of respect and kindness. You are a human being. And that is enough. Humans deserve respect, full stop. Appearance has nothing to do with it. Always keep that in mind.

Truthfully, I’m not doing so well right now. I’m not feeling the greatest about my body and how it looks right now and I just cant bring myself to write right now. In the past I would have simply just kept this to myself, but I think we can all probably relate so I wanted to talk about it

I know its dumb, but I’ve been comparing myself to the previous partners that these celebrities have dated and I’ve realized that none of them look like me. Like i knew that none of them had ever dated someone plus size but it feels a lot different when you actually look at all of them and see that they all have the same things in common; tall, beautiful, and thin. I don’t look like them. No one in Hollywood or in the media looks like me. And if they do its rebel wilson or melissa mccarthy or someone similar (I think they’re beautiful, but they’re not being marketed that way. they’re being marketed as the funny sarcastic people in hollywood) 

I know that this is stupid. Like i’m well aware that I shouldnt be basing my worth off of people in the media. But it sucks when you have no one that looks like you to look up to, yknow? Like thin people have Scarlett Johanson or Elizabeth Olsen etc etc and while they may not look like them, at least they have similar body types you get me? Like there are no plus size women/people in hollywood who are seen as beautiful or sexy and it sucks.

I just wanted you guys to know that if you ever feel this way, you’re not alone. And I promise that youre beautiful and sexy regardless of what you see in hollywood, but i also do understand how much it still sucks and hurts to not see anyone like you.

I know this blog isn’t really meant for stuff like this, but i feel like it kinda fits considering this is a fat/plus size/chubby/whatever friendly blog.

This was inspired by the dramatic weight loss Adele had after divorcing her husband. 

I’m doing okay love bug <3 

Johnny: Tbh part of me feels like he woiuldn’t even notice lol. he seems like the type to go all in on food (me too tbh) and i think he would focus on eating quite a bit. HOWEVER, if it wasn’t a meal and it was just snacking or something like that I 100% feel like he would tease you about it. It would be kind of teenage boy immature teasing but in a very charming way. Like the kind of teasing that would make you roll your eyes and hit him on the arm but you would blush and smile regardless lol 

Taeyong: I’m kind of torn because on one hand i feel like he wouldn’t notice at all, like no matter what. i feel like when he’s dating someone he’s very much in lovesick puppy mode and i feel like he would be so focused on you that he wouldn’t pay that close of attention to something like that. if he does notice it (or if you reach down your shirt and casually get the food out) he would try to pretend to not notice it. I think he would feel kind of pervy if he was caught looking at your chest and he would feel bad about it just because he’s so shy