Reflections on 2020
I've been thinking about writing this for a few days now and there's been a lot on my mind. I've been reflecting on the past year, looking back at all the challenges Iāve overcome, the journey of self-discovery and changing my life for the better.
This time last year, I was severely depressed, and my anxiety was shooting through the roof. I felt like a failure for being unable to get a job, having to come back to live with my parents and things generally not working out for me. However, things started to shift after a few deep conversations with my best friend when I recognised that I had to change my mindset. Shortly after, I stopped taking the antidepressants and established a daily practice of meditation, self-care and breathing exercises. I slowly learnt to love myself for who I am, be proud of what Iāve achieved in life so far and stop beating myself up for things out of my control. When the pandemic started, I promised myself that I will use the time to work on myself, read the books focused on self-development and put these principles into practice. This experience has been truly life-changing.
I was able to beat my depression and anxiety by identifying the triggers and eliminating them, even if it meant dropping out of my masters degree for the time being. At first, I felt like I have failed not only myself but also my family who believed in me. But then, I was introduced to the concept of circumstances being neither good nor bad ā simply accepting things as they are. And I started to live by it. Thanks to the pandemic, I recognised that now is not the right time for me to continue my studies and that I need to take a break and Ā choose a different path (which Iām actively working on at the moment).
Another topic, I wanted to touch is appreciation. There was a time in summer when I was thinking about this concept for weeks. Why donāt we show appreciation to people who care about us, or perhaps to people that set us on the path to who we are today? I am so guilty of not showing appreciation myself, I often keep it hidden in my thoughts. I was thinking of a particular person from years ago - my art tutor who taught me all the basics. She taught me how to draw, paint and experiment with different materials. With her help, I drew an identical self-portrait at the age of 13 and had it displayed in a gallery (which was one my big dreams back then). I chose to dedicate my life to art thanks to her encouragement and knowledge she shared with me and I took my passion to university level. But does she know how far Iāve come thanks to her? No⦠because Iāve never told her how much influence her teaching had on me.
Around the same time as having these thoughts, I unconsciously became a receiver of this kind of appreciation. I was working on one of my projects and shared a few pics on Facebook. A day later I received a digital drawing of myself from my uni classmate Gabi (who I absolutely adore and admire as an artist and tattooist). We exchanged a few texts but what she said, resonated in me for weeks. āI love what you do, you always bring me inspirationā. She didnāt know about my mental health battle I was going through at the time, but that text gave a sense of purpose again. For the first time in a long time, I felt that my art isnāt just useless headpieces and boring sketchbooks, but Iām actually making an impact. So please if you think of someone who you truly appreciate, tell them because you never know how much it may mean to them.
Overall, Iām so grateful for how this year turned out, itās been one of the best years I had in a long time. Even though, I didnāt get to do any creative photoshoots with my dream team this year due covid, Iāve been quietly working on my art and preparing for shoots and workshops next year. Iām also grateful for experiencing the journey of depression, anxiety and its recovery because it taught me important life lessons and helped me to find the inner peace and balance. Iām very thankful for having such caring friends, family and a loving boyfriend who has been there for me through the good and bad and makes my life so much better in every way. I feel blessed that Iāve got to celebrate New Year, knowing that I didnāt lose any of my loved ones and that everyone is in good health.
2021 will be filled with new challenges, new goals, progress and few setbacks but having the experiences and knowledge Iāve gained this year, I feel more ready than ever.












