If you shame people who stay in abusive or unhealthy relationships, I don’t like you. You calling them dumb isn’t going to make them wake up and realize they need to leave. People stay in unhealthy relationships for a number of reasons that they do not have to validate to anyone. And because no matter how much damage the person has done, there’s something there that they value. How much they value a relationship with a person causing them harm is reflective of how much they love themselves. Not all of us are lucky enough to enter a relationship completely whole, knowing what we deserve, knowing what’s acceptable and how to handle being abused and disrespected. Bottom line, there’s a lot of psychological shit that has to do with why people willingly stay in bad relationships and 9 times out of 10 you don’t know someone well enough to say they should know better than to stay. A lot of times people don’t even really know why they’re staying, they already feel embarrassed or stupid and other people saying it doesn’t make them want to leave, it makes them feel alienated and like they have to cling to their significant other even more.

emotional abuse is when someone does something to hurt you, and when you express your feelings, that you’re upset, they turn it around to be something you did to hurt them and they force you to apologize for it, and your feelings, like always, are rendered invalid and silenced, forever damaging the ability to trust others with your feelings because they always are used against you.

this is important because so many people don’t know this