We have no certainty, no reassurance, no way of knowing where life is going to take us, and where it will take our loved ones. I've lost a real first love, one whom I invested 3 years in, loved with a full heart, with whom I've experienced sorrow and joy, turmoil and peace, family and friends. I've lost a best friend, whom no one could have torn from my arms without some sort of sharp object and a significant amount of force. And I've lost a father- no matter what age, what background, to what danger β should one ever lose a father. In three years, three giant pieces of my heart have been wrenched from me, some gradually, and some all at once. There isn't a single thing in the world that makes loss easier β not logic, not preparedness, and certainly not time.
If each piece is a little (or a big slice) of your heart, a photo book of memories, and knowledge and lessons, why doesn't losing various pieces make you fall apart? If smells, images, and sounds trigger memories, will the memories of those people inevitably fade, without their presence as a trigger? Not only that, but your emotions about them presently have to have some effect on the way you relive the memory (when you do remember it). I feel my memories fading (there's only so much room my head for just the every day things) and I fear that one day I won't remember you. I've forgotten so much already.