also i keep hearing about how toby fox "hates asgore" and how hes direspected by the narrative and his trauma doesnt get attention and lemme just say.
yeah thats the fucking point
Asgore is the patriarch of the underground, a big (literally) white man who's in so much pain, literally a king. He's the kind of person that stories always focus on and care about to the exclusion of everyone else. How many stories have you seen that treat the King, the Husband, thr Father as the most important person in a story? It's soooo deliberate that we're presented with this tragic man who's burdened with power, and the narrative (and Toriel) have no respect for him. It is an exicit, stated plot point that him wallowing in his misery has done nothing but prolong the suffering of every monster in the Underground. Everyone in game talk about how great and nice he is but all he's done as king since Asriel and Chara died is sit in his empty house waiting for kids to kill.
Undertale is so great because it questions who's important and worth saving. Its a game where you talk to random encounters and help them with their problems. The point is to reject normative notions of whose perspective matters and say that you need to take responsibility for the power you have over others.
ITS THE POINT!!!! ASGORE BEING UNIMPORTANT AND IMASCULATED AND HIS NOBLE MANPAIN BEING SHOT DOWN IS THE POINT!