my own self

Hard pill to swallow: not everyone is replaceable and it’s okay to miss or yearn for a type of relationship you had that you haven’t been able to find a substitute for. Different relationships trigger different parts of yourself and wanting those parts to be stimulated again, excited even, isn’t a crime or a symptom of unhealthy attachments. Considering there are few people on this Earth that we genuinely connect with on visceral levels, treating them post-relationship as if their impact on you was worthless and not one of a kind will only disappoint you. It doesn’t allow you to savor or treasure the connection in ways we probably should, nor does it promote healthy attachment or detachment going forward.

save your heart for some who really cares