I feel like, sometimes, there is this attitude in the most common nsft trans male spaces on here that we’re only desirable, even to other trans men, as men with ‘extra holes’. a large portion of the nsft trans male stuff I see are only vaginal bottoming, comments about being the ideal sex parter bc we have three instead of two holes, ‘boypussy’ and ‘boycunt’— none of which are inherently bad! Celebrate your body, especially if it means saying fuck you to dysphoria! but when there is no attention paid to trans men who top, especially post some degree of bottom surgery, it begins to feel a little… pointed. But I might be just seeing patterns that aren’t there and in the wrong tags. Idk
basically, it feels like the only time trans men are seen as desirable in nsft spaces on tumblr are if they bottom vaginally, and those of us who don’t bottom, especially who have had srs, are seen as either nonexistent or gross. My opinion isn’t fully fledged here but the focus on ‘boycunt’ over straps or neo penises makes me as a trans top who doesn’t want any interaction with his vulva feel like an anomaly and inherently useless in the bedroom
