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People are sooo nosy, it's human nature to know what everyone is doing at all times. but you don't know what the person you're telling something to is going to do with that information, which is why it's better to stay private.

WHEN to stay private:

- plans you have in regards to your future

- how far along you are in an assignment or how well you did on something

- any ideas you have regarding business or creative assignments

WHY stay private:

- people might steal your ideas or use your words against you

- make you feel bad about your ideas or thoughts

- does not give anyone who is not close to you any unnecessary insight into your life

- protects your peace

HOW to stay private:

- think before you speak and think about who you're speaking to

- stray away from any topics regarding yourself unless necessary, people love talking about themselves

Lately, I’ve been meditating in order to soothe my anxiety.

In one of the meditations, there were words somewhere along these lines: “Try not to take things personally.”

And it was like my eyes had opened.

I’ve been pondering this thought for quite a while. If my family tells me hurtful words and doesn’t believe in the possibility of success for me, it’s not about me but about reflections of their fears and unrealised dreams. It’s about them never doing things they, perhaps, always wanted to do.

All their advice and the words “It’s the right thing to do” are mostly about what they think would be right for them, not for me. How they think it would be good for them, not for me.

If someone insults you, it’s not about you but about the reflection of the inner world of another person. If someone screams at you or behaves aggressively or rudely towards you, it’s about the other person, their behavior in public places, and their attitude towards other people, not about you. It’s about the level of another person’s emotional maturity and self-regulation, about a lack of upbringing, respect for other people’s personal space, and so on.

I think that people unconsciously put every person they interact with into a certain category and then behave according to how they think they should treat each category. Family / friends / close friends / good acquaintances / just acquaintances / colleagues / strangers / people we are not interested in / assholes.

And from time to time, the categories get updated, and people get rerecorded from one category to another: when we got to know a person better, something happened in our lives, we parted ways, or our views on life changed.

Of course, when people serve you shit on a plate and want you to eat it, it’s very unpleasant. But it gets a bit better when I think that the vast majority of their actions have nothing to do with me at all but reflect their inner world and their beliefs about the external world.

THE TORTURED POETS DEPARTMENT - TAYLOR SWIFT

all's fair in love and poetry...

confidence! you’re the sh!t, period .. look in that mirror, say those affirmations and be THAT GIRL

happiness! let the world be mad on their own, don’t let anyone steal your joy. so many people are miserable, grumpy and rude for no reason, don’t be one of those people. if they can’t match your cheerful energy then they don’t need to be around you.

self love! no more letting opinions of others get us down or make us doubt ourselves. no more needing validation from anyone other than ourselves. anything negative said to you is pure jealousy. we’re going to love ourselves so much that no words or actions of others will affect us.

self care/maintenance ! we are taking better care of our hair, skin, nails and bodies. start a hair routine/schedule that consists of wash, deep condition, hair mask, trimming ends etc and how often you should do it depending on your type of hair. no more being lazy, take your makeup off before bed and do your skin routine in the morning and at night. let’s start a workout routine for a couple times a week; walking, gym, at home workouts, dancing, pilates, yoga etc. let’s pamper ourselves and get a mani/pedi regularly, at the nail salon or at home.

being productive! let’s wake up at a decent time each day and fill it with excitement and things worth while. let’s start the day with journaling and meditation, tidy our space, get work done, run our errands, make time to do something fun or something we enjoy, do or pick up a hobby, make sure we have a yummy meal everyday, take a relaxing bubble bath at night, read or catch up on some comfort things and then get to bed at a decent time.

knowing our worth! no more letting boys treat us any kind of way. we are goddesses, we are princesses and we should be treated as such. any one who treats us with disrespect or treats us less than we show them the door! no more third and fourth chances (i wouldn’t give a second but that’s up to you). have pride! set boundaries! no more putting up with bullshit! because guess what, what one person won’t do, someone else will! there’s someone out there that will treat you how you deserve to be treated so don’t put up with bums, we deserve top tier treatment.

romanticizing your life! let’s make every little thing in our lives magical and whimsical. let’s wear our prettiest clothes no matter where we go, let’s wear our cutest pajamas each night, use our best mugs for our coffee, light those candles, have dinner dates with ourselves, buy ourselves flowers, take ourselves on dates, eat breakfast outside, have picnics more often, explore museums and libraries, dress like Elle Woods for school, make sure all of our stationary is super cute, play music while cleaning up, get dolled up even to go grocery shopping. let’s always feel pretty and find the beauty in each day

finding your style, your aesthetic! find what’s comfortable for you, what type of clothes you feel confident and beautiful in. try out different styles and aesthetics until you nail it! create your dream wardrobe one piece at at time. what’s your color palette? how do you want to express yourself through fashion? clothes are so fun to wear and it brings out your creative side. need help or tips on how to find your aesthetic? let me know and i’ll direct you to my ‘how to find your aesthetic’ post

2024 · what’s out [ugh, as if!]

procrastinating! no more putting things off for a later time. the best time is now. whatever’s on your mind, your bucket list, your vision board, put in the work to get it done. don’t let fear or laziness stop you from living life and achieving things.

letting fear hold you back! if you want to go for that job, go for it! if you want to be friends with someone but scared to approach them, do it anyway! they probably want to be friends too and their too shy to say anything. if you like someone tell them! the worst that could happen is them not liking you back and that’s okay, you’ll live! if you want to change your style, aesthetic or hair, do it! life is too short to let fear get in the way. it’s normal to be scared but taking that chance is worth it! even if things don’t go completes as planned atleast you can say you tried and you won’t have to wonder ‘what if’

responding to negativity/allowing people to drain your energy! girl do not give them the satisfaction, IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE. haters and mean people want that reaction out of you, they crave it, so guess what, don’t give it to them. block them and move on with your day. hang up the phone if someone raises their voice at you. it will eat them alive knowing that what they said didn’t make you break a sweat! continue on with your positive, peaceful day. don’t match anyone’s negative energy, maintain your positive energy. remember : only YOU have control over your emotions.

getting in relationships just because you’re bored or lonely! learn to love your own company. learn how to be comfortable doing things on your own. it’s okay to go eat out alone, it’s okay to travel alone, it’s okay to go see a movie alone (stay safe and aware of your surroundings ofcourse), it’s okay to stay home on weekends and just relax. you are the best company you’ll ever have. spend time with yourself

being obsessed with numbers! 1) if you’re trying to start a blog, have a platform, you can’t obsess over your follow count! that will drive you insane and it will discourage you. just do what you love, manifest, make posts, hashtag, promote yourself on your other platforms and then let things be. 2) if you’re trying to lose weight or gain weight, do it the healthy way and plan a time to weigh yourself – for example : twice a month .. (don’t obsess over the number on the scale) just eat right, workout and you will get the results you want

COPYING! for the love of God let’s be original. no more stealing other people’s tweets, ideas, content etc. lets be creative and come up with our own thoughts and ways of doing things.