overheard my parents talking abt the earlier thing, with how people dress and when to call it out
i think they wanna know why it offends me that my dad says women and girls who dress a certain way dress like hookers so here's why
the main reasons i heard them bring up, well my dad bring up as my mom was defending me and just saying not to bring it up anymore,
the main reason was because, and from how i interpreted it, it's because he feels a lot of people, man or woman or anyone in between, dress "scantily" (idk how i feel about that word) because they want sexual attention, or to commoditize their body for attention. and he does not think that's right.
My mom argued the same that i would, that he's pushing his beliefs onto others.
but they both agree they'd need to sit me down if i ever wanted to dress in tube tops and short shorts, and yk what, fair. i would be wondering if my kid wanted sexual attention too, and i wouldn't put a harsh ban on it, but it's worth discussing i feel.
but why i find it offensive for my dad to so brazenly and harshly judge women for simply wearing what they wish is because, yes he is enforcing his own beliefs, but also because he has no real idea.
he doesn't know if, like me, some of them finally love their bodies and wanna show it off for themselves. because they feel pretty. and so what if someone wants sexual attention? it's their choice, and as long as it is their own (which you can never know one way or the other when driving by them on the street) i see nothing wrong with that.
The thing is, when he calls a woman or man a hooker for dressing with less clothes, and showing off their body, he assumes that they dont really want that, and that for some reason, they're sex motivated. And if they are, i really fail to see the issue there. But he does not see an issue in telling me my classmates, minors, look like people who sell their bodies, also placing morals on sex work, which i do support.
All these people are doing is wearing what they wish. Maybe they don't want this, maybe they feel like they have to dress in less clothes. Or maybe they love it, and it makes them feel powerful.
He's placing morals on how covered a person's body is, without knowing anything about them except the very, very surface of what makes that person truly human.
That is why I get offended, that is why it agitates me, and that is why I think it is wrong.
