System reminder list, except for once it's not written by someone who's anti-endogenic.
You likely don't know everything about your system, and this means that sometimes you'll be wrong about something related to your system. This doesn't mean you're faking or making things up. It just means that you made a small mistake or lapse in judgement, which isn't a moral failing. Just because you realized something about your system may be different than you previously thought, it doesn't mean you deceived people (or yourself) about your plurality.
Not all switches are the same. Switches can take hours, seconds, or minutes to go through; they can come with no dissociation or dissociation so bad that from an outsider's perspective it looks like you shut down; switching can be done with only one headmate knowing what's happening; it can be done without anyone knowing what's happening; it can be difficult or easy to switch – point is, there's a large variety in switches as a whole, and it's likely that you'll experience a variety of switches too.
Any neurodivergencies you have are likely to affect your plurality. If you have disorders such as MaDD or schizophrenia, one or more alters may hold more symptoms than others so other sysmates don't have to deal with them. Memory-affecting disorders may worsen amnesia, or even be a cause of amnesiac barriers. Sysmates may specifically form because of certain disorders. There are many ways that other neurodivergencies can affect your plurality, so don't think of it as a sign of faking – it's really not.
After you first discover your system, you may experience a new burst in system members. This isn't an uncommon experience; there are many factors at play in this situation that could explain the sharp increase in sysmate count. Changes in mental/dissociative/spiritual barriers, stress and worry over being plural, just plain brain weirdness, and a lot of other reasons can result in more sysmates forming when you first learn about your system, which may cause worry as to whether your experiences are real. I promise, new sysmates do not indicate fakeness.
Introjects do not work on a "first come, first serve" basis. You may have multiple introjects of the same character/person, especially if you're a larger system or have a lot of attachment towards certain characters/people.
It's okay to not know who you are or who's fronting. These experiences aren't always fun, but they happen, and they'll pass in time. You may need to ground yourself or focus on your own identity during these times, and that's okay. Unsurety isn't a moral failure.
Relationships between system members can be complicated. Headmates can date, consider each other family, work for/serve someone, and have pretty much any other kind of relationship there is. Sometimes, relationships are complicated and weird, and it's best to just go with the flow.
Everyone's plural experiences are going to be at least a little different from each other. Don't define yourself by what is common or constantly compare yourself to other systems! No two systems are identical, and that means no two experiences are going to be identical. It can help to look to similar experiences for occasional guidance, but using what's common as a "guideline" for yourself may harm your system in the long run. (Or others! You shouldn't judge others for being "too stereotypical" or "too different." Plurality is a widely varied phenomenon and what that variety ends up looking like in certain cases may surprise you.)
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