Solitary Creature

A common thing I hear when I confide in people about my recurrent pregnancy loss struggles is, “I’ll pray that you can have a baby soon.” I know it comes from a place of love, but it makes me feel even worse sometimes.

Before I continue, let me be very clear: I’m not trying to police peoples’ reactions. I don’t expect someone who’s never experienced this to understand what it’s like. I’m not mad or offended when people say that.

I just think people don’t realize that it’s an oversimplification of the problem.

The problem is not that I’m sad because I don’t have a baby. The problem is that, for a very brief time, I did have babies. Then I lost them. And now I’m grieving them.