will you still love me when i look like myself?

Trans women have an unfair biological advantage at being the coolest people on earth

drives me nuts when ppl act like its somehow feminist to be a huge asshole to people because 'men are allowed to behave that way,' or whatever. ok. well i dont think men should be treating people like that either. and if they talk to me like you are talking to me, i will judge and avoid them as well.

I'm really glad you added this especially since it has moved beyond my immediate friend sphere -- SO many ppl do not understand how unconscious social bias works. And do not think that they could possibly have any. It's actually something you have to actively work to keep in mind ALL of the time. Its not like, one and done. Every time you're reacting to someone, its important to reflect on what that reaction is and why, and what factors are contributing to it. Its important to note who gets socially punished for what behaviors and who doesn't!

now that i know its possible ray can get stabbed and pulled up by his hair i don't think im ever going to sleep again

ive said it many times over before but its fucking crazy how absolutely completely fucked you are if you live in the US and you are unable to drive a car

fly encased in amber -> preserving the fly -> preservation -> documentation -> documentary -> fly -> swarm -> swarm documentary

having a personality kinda feels weird after only being what you think will make people like you for your entire life

theres definitely an idea in the trans community that trans men are uniquely privileged in both their ability to access transition and to pass as cis men with "less" treatments (hormones, surgery, voice training, ect) than trans women, and thats not true. in fact a lot of trans men end up never transitioning for one reason or another. id like to take a moment to acknowledge and remember all the trans men who never transitioned due to transphobia, transandrophobia, misogyny, financial underprivilege, or otherwise never having or seeing it as an option in the first place. including my biological mother apparently

when i was a kid i used to like to play this game where i would lay face down in the pool and hold my breath for as long as possible while pretending to have drowned. and now here i am.

my older sister introduced me to this game and this is why i think mikey way and i would get along well

the children on twitter are calling 2000s Gerard a twink and I got so scared I had to go home (here)

Hello Mrs. Dick and/or Balls

Telling passing trans men to their faces that they look like they would hate crime you is so weird because like… obviously they don’t or you wouldn’t say that to him? I would never go up to a homophobic cis guy and tell him he looks like he would beat the shit out of me if I kissed his daughter. The joke that trans men who pass are threatening is so insidious because if you actually thought he was a threat you wouldn’t be able to talk to him like that, so it’s really just a not-so-subtle way of saying “the way you look makes me uncomfortable, you don’t belong here”

i have for a while been using stepping on somebody's toes as a metaphor for misgendering. and i genuinely think that it's kind of a good one.

if you give a grovelling begging apology after accidentally stepping on somebody's toes one time you're going to make the whole thing awkward, but not giving a quick "sorry" before moving on is still kind of rude.