will you still love me when i look like myself?

^^how some people think it works?????

if trans male privilege existed:

-all reproductive services (abortion, hysterectomy, gynecology, ect) would be more easily accessible to trans men than cis women, instead of the opposite being true

-testosterone would be easier to access for trans men. we would not need letters of support every time we get a new doctor no matter how long we've fucking been on t

-gender affirming surgeries for masculinzation (top surgery, bottom surgery, body sculpting/fms, ect) would be more accessible to trans men, would all be covered by insurance, and wouldnt need several letters of support

-waitlists for gender affirming procedures wouldnt be nearly as long for trans men as it is now

-name and gender changes for trans men would be universally available and accessible

-trans men would not be at higher risk of medical discrimination than cis women

-trans men wouldnt have sexual assault rates of almost/over 50%

-missing/murdered trans men wouldnt be misgendered/deadnamed and filed under femicide

-historical trans men wouldnt be considered gnc women, and more gnc women would be considered trans men than the inverse

-trans men wouldnt have their specific statistics under blanketly "transgender people" and would have more individual statistics talking about their struggles

-trans men wouldnt be isolated from the lgbtq communities that they were in previously after they come out as trans, especially if theyre also straight

-trans men wouldnt be violently threatened with sexual assault (despite being one of the most at-risk groups for sexual violence) and other forms of abuse for talking about being abused by other trans people

-trans men wouldnt be expected/coerced/forced into deferring to every other gender group when it comes to our own oppression/struggles/material needs

-transphobia against trans men specifically (both people who are "exclusively" transphobic/misogynistic/transandrophobic to trans men or equal opportunity transphobes) wouldnt be as normalized as it is

it’s okay that i don’t have a sewing machine

i love backstitching by hand for hours

this has got to be great for my back

millions of my ancestors did this and they lived almost as long as i want to

"The hat is customizable," he said, struggling with the velcro patch on the front. "If I need it, I have an ICE one too. I pick based off the business i walk into."

"Customizable is an important hat descriptor," I said. "what can I get you?"

"You wouldn't believe how offended people get these days," he said. "And I'm supposed to do something about it if you're offended? You chose to be offended!"

"We all have hundreds of thousands of decisions everyday," I said. I thickened my accent. "That's what my stepdad always said. But I can make one easier - we have a delicious Ethiopian roast available."

"Like if I told you you have a bull ring," he said, "because bulls have rings in their noses. Is that offensive?"

I laughed. "I've heard that before."

"It's a joke, but people get offended. Maybe you're offended."

I looked at him. I smiled. "You aren't trying to offend me though, right?"

Of course he was. I was being friendly and the friendlier I was, the faster he switched topics. He was saying anything inflammatory he could think of to see if I'd take the bait. After about 20 minutes of my redirecting and deescalating, he settled into a more normal interaction. He took up too much of my time showing me a product I'd feigned mild interest in to get him to stop talking about getting accused of inappropriate behavior at work. When we finally disengaged, he spent 10 minutes trying to catch my eye again. When he failed, he left.

There's this new breed of customer who insists on trying to incite political conversation through their clothing and, when that doesnt work, their snide little comments. If I owned my own business, maybe I would have given the guy the fight he wanted. But I work for a corporation and I love paying my bills so I deescalated.