Lesser-known signs that you may be Arospec
This applies to all Arospec identities like Demiromantic, Cupioromantic, Lithromantic, etc... I tried to include as many as possible
You might want a romantic relationship but know you couldn’t be truly happy in one
You strongly identify with terms like Spinster, Bachelor or characters who notably do not have love interests. The idea of living as a spinster/bachelor and not having romantic connections appeals to you
You still want to be desired but in a distinctly non-romantic way, such as in an unrequited or platonic scenario
You find yourself primarily attracted to those you cannot have, like fictional characters
You have had crushes, but they fade away as soon as it is reciprocated or even just with time. All romantic feelings leave you and you suddenly find yourself totally uninterested and uncomfortable
You have tried romance before, especially multiple times, but it never seems to be for you, even for multiple different reasons
Romantic tropes that turn everyone else on upset or confuse you, such as protectiveness, possessiveness and yandere dynamics
You just plain don't see the appeal of romance
Aspects of romance in general freak you out, such as kissing
You walk out or feel extreme discomfort during romantic scenes in movies
You don’t understand how anyone has the time to date, or other do things like thinking that your peers are all too young to think about dating, when really, it’s just you
You have been interested in others choosing your romantic partner for you, such as in matchmaking or arranged marriage, because you have a hard time choosing someone that you are attracted to yourself. It seems easier to have a trusted companion choose your partner because you don’t feel that way towards anyone in particular on your own
You have romantic feelings but are completely fine with not acting on them
You find it extremely easy to get over crushes. When someone you had a crush on rejects you, you’re like “oh okay” and just start not feeling that way towards them, like you just turned your attraction towards them off
You’d be “fine” with romance and go along with it, but do not have any desire to do it yourself
You want relationship perks without the attraction
You like romance in theory, but not in practice
You constantly doubt yourself in relationships in a way that is not directly or obviously linked to insecurity or something else
You don’t know why people spend so much money on weddings, despite knowing that they’re in love
You’re incredibly cynical about romance for no apparent reason (that is not immediately trauma-related or anything)
Romantic stories and gossip are unappealing, boring or upsetting
