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"I gave up pieces of myself to keep her happy—now I’m building something stronger from what she discarded, and she’ll have to watch from the outside."

If one day you never hear from me again, please remember this. I loved you with everything i had, i made you my priority in ways i never thought i could for someone. I had so many paths to take so, many people i could have chosen but out of all those options i still chose you. I stayed, and when i finally leave i hope my absence brings you the peace that my presence never could. My love was never perfect, but it was real, and even now as i let go a part of me will always hope you find the happiness i couldn't give you. If you ever think of me, i hope you remember the warmth, the laughter, the quiet moments where words weren't needed. I hope you know that even in the silence, i was loving you in ways i didn't always know how to express and if the world ever feels heavy, i hope you find someone who carries your heart the way i once tried to, with everything i had.

A man who feels the need to sacrifice himself for love Is a man who abandons himself in a relationship. He enters into a relationship with an incredible woman but gradually loses himself as he neglects his own needs. His needs, desires, and life aren’t his top priority—she is. They come second for a man who sacrifices himself for a woman. As a result, his attachment to her grows stronger, and over time, he becomes more insecure and anxious, ultimately pushing away the "most important thing in his life." When he was a little boy, he didn’t have the safe or consistent space to build a relationship with his own emotions, so he abandoned his needs to become whoever he had to be to receive love. His emotions were shut down, or love was taken away from him whenever he simply acted as himself or did something "wrong." He began to feel like, "It’s not okay to be who I am." As children, we will do and become anything to get love, because love equals survival.

You don't think I've got feelings? You don't think I'm sensitive? Let me tell you something, I've got more feelings in my left nut than you. Oh, I know what they say about me. I know what they say about guys like me. They say we're pigs, right? They say we're dogs. Oh, that's right—they say all men are pigs, all men are dogs, all men are scum. They talk endlessly about what monsters we are, but they don't understand that they're the ones who created the Frankensteins they hate. Laugh all you want, but I'm serious. Every womanizer, every player, every guy juggling three women at once is only doing it out of fear—fear of being crushed by a woman. Because one day, back in the day, they weren't a player. They liked one girl, just one. And they gave it up for her. That's right, they gave it up for her because they were romantics back then, and they gave it up to the girl they loved. And what happened? They got rocked. They got crushed, or they got destroyed. They got cheated on, laughed at, or something. And when they were done picking up the little pieces of what was once their heart, you know what they said? Every single one of them made a vow to never give it up again. But now we're talking about the real bastards here—the guys who break hearts professionally. Because, believe it or not, originally, those guys were the most beautiful and romantic of all. And you know what happened? They’re the ones who got hurt worst of all.