this is going to sound like such a little sibling ass take but i genuinely believe that being a little bit annoying is actually a greater sign of maturity and self awareness than being universally likeable and on good terms with everyone

if some people find me annoying and can't stand me because of how i think and act then that means i'm a fully realized human being with my own personality and opinions and free will and not just a reflective surface for other people's desires, which is in fact a good thing despite what people who want you to just be a reflection of their own opinions and desires will tell you, and why being considered "cringe" or whatever doesn't bother me at all

also it's really funny when you're confident enough in yourself to know that people not liking you isn't always a sign that you're the problem. like there's something undeniably hilarious about being aware your mere existence has the power to piss someone off and ruin their day and i recommend embracing it.

Oh fucking thissss

to fallout 4's immense discredit in the matter, its decision to mandatorily define all female player characters as lawyers who married a soldier puts it behind literal fallout 1 on "does the female character feel like you're the punchline to a joke"

to elaborate on that a bit, it's actually toothgrittingly misogynistic that they contrived a scenario where there are two player characters and one of them was clearly conceptualised as The Wife of the Male Player Character, while the other was made as a character first. it's remarkable they managed to do that in a game with a character creator and no mechanical distinction between genders