in the moonlight

So yes, my time at So So Scandalous is coming to end.

I’m not going to lie, there are practices in this group that I am not a fan of; but I have fisted my whole hand in my mouth for far too long to be silent about it any longer. I know I am burning bridges. I know I am losing professional relationships that used to be held near and dear to my heart. However, at the end of the day, I have to do what is right by me and what I hold to be true in my life and my mantras.

I cannot participate in an environment that alienates more than half of their core members because they do not participate in a certain group of friendships and toxicity. I can’t be in a place that does not listen to their members unless they are in that certain group. 

I cannot participate in an environment that does not provide true to their words, that only listens to their members when it is convenient for them to, and provides nepotism and favoritism to a central core group of people.

I cannot participate in an environment that--to be frank--gives out word for word generated responses to their members in the event of crisis, knowing the vibe of neglect that it gives out.  It’s hard running a group this large, I get that, I used to help out. But there comes to a point where all of these generic passive responses are just that--they’re passive. They do nothing. They show nothing. I can’t be in a group that just sits on sidelines and watches until it’s convenient for team leaders to speak out because it benefits them more than the majority of the members.

I cannot participate in an environment that has a justice system that is heavily weighted towards one side of the system; when a person who does no wrong, maybe posts a little bit out of character once a day, ends up getting a strike while another person who blatantly is offensive and has inappropriate behavior towards a triggering subject is given a warning and a slap on the wrist.

I cannot participate in an environment where people manipulate people, twisting words and phrases to get what they want, and spread toxicity and malicious hate, all for the sake of their own agenda. I can’t be in a place where there’s blatant bullying, lying, deceit, and cruelty. For far too long I have listened to close friends come to be upset because a certain group has burned bridges and alienated them from friends that they used to be close to--all for the sake of belonging.

I cannot participate in an environment that honestly does not care about their individual members unless they are with a certain group.

So, to the people that I’ve made connections here. I’m sorry for this abrupt leaving. I’m sorry for the hurt that this might cause any of you; but I won’t be doing right by me and my morals if I didn’t speak up and I have far too long done myself wrong.

Some of you who want to get in touch, do some digging and research and you’ll be able to find me easily.

A nanny? Really? I don’t know how I feel about that. But yeah, we can discuss it another time.

He might be a little pissed but he’ll get over it, especially since we’ll be back with them soon when we see Mel.

We do what we usually do and talk it out. We’re a team, remember?

That will be true, and it’ll be more fun for him to see the kids when we’re more free with time. I just don’t want to make anyone disappointed, you know? Family’s important to the both of us and I want to be able to accommodate that.

He does! I’m sure he could make something comic-inspired to make sure you look your best at Comic Con. When is it? I love those types of cons so much, people really go all out. Aww that’s adorable, Grant the house-husband, I’m sure he made himself at home (no pun intended) with ease. How are the kids taking Bella’s leave? I’m so sorry about it, Dani, I can’t imagine losing my little Joe, you’re so strong. Husband is doing good, we’re all enjoying the off season at the lake house in Canada, I think the dogs are enjoying the lake more than we are, they spend every waking moment in the water.

We should be in New York pretty soon, but Mel knows better than I do. That’s good! Now your hiatus gets to officially start. I’m just enjoying the LA sunshine until we head to New York.

Tell you what, how about we end up grabbing dinner or something before you officially move to New York for the summer? It’s the least I can do for not being able to see the lot of you while I was filming the movie.

I don’t know if it’s better for us to bring them this time when we’ll be busy with the Upfronts. Maybe we should leave them with someone here in LA and then they could come for the second trip. But yeah, it’ll be fun to see some familiar faces.

Honestly, I think it’s a great idea for them to have some stability after traveling for so much; but I also think it might be a great idea to get a nanny to help us out on weekdays now when we’re working. I don’t want to be a burden to the crew anymore, having to watch them on the sidelines. That can be tabled for another day.

But I’m sure we’re going to see a ton of people we don’t get to see very often. I really want to see Victor again, watch his show and spend at least a meal with him. Tyler too. He’s gonna be mad we aren’t bringing the kids this time, is he?

Yeah, she definitely does. We’re probably going to be heading there soon so I’m excited! How is your movie going?

Let me know! We should do dinner before the after party on Thursday if you’re around New York already. My movie’s doing okay. We just wrapped and now I’m finally on vacation after mother’s day. What about you? What’s going on in your neck of the woods?

I always say you have to go through a bunch of bad ones to find the right one. 

Sometimes you have to go through more than a bunch of bad ones, don’t worry. In a bunch of sour grapes, there’s always that sweet one that makes it all the better.

And you look incredible in lowkey, so keep it up, Dani girl! I’ve seen you in red carpets and such, and you really look great in them. I’ll give Max your number and if you’re ever in a pinch, I’m sure he’d love to work with you! Vancouver again?! You guys are in such a rush with Flash… Ha, no pun intended! How’s the little family coming along? Mat, Ali and the doggies?