Last point: this is true 100%
First point: I'm guessing 'bigger' was a typo, given key proximity, and she sounds racist. I'm sure there are other women who don't & shouldn't trust her either. I honestly think the 'man' bit was just an excuse, and I am sorry you had to deal with that.
Second point: This is so sad and toxic. :( I have known women who do this to their children who look too much like their dads, and it Is fucked up and costly in therapy bills. (I've seen it happen to the varied genders of kids and it's awful all around)
Third point: This attitude of theirs is weird and lazy. They could try to raise better men instead, but calling it hopeless before they even try? Oof. It's like they don't keep up with feminist theory or good parenting techniques. I'm raising my boys the best I can using those so *shrugs*
I do finally get how approaching things from a "man-hating" perspective can be seen as women kind shooting themselves in the foot, countering the goals and progress we all should want.
Maybe it could be called toxic femininity?
Thinking that men are incapable of being better IS misandrist but is also antifeminist.
Feel free to use any of the above thoughts to call the people out in your life behaving badly like this.
You're a pretty cool dude (I like your posts) so I hope you're having a cool time. Don't let the bastards get you down.