Rape! Murder of a woman's dignity.
In India, the number of rape cases are rising every year and all that we are doing is marching in large numbers with candles in our hands and banners saying “Stop Rape!” Does it change anything? Does it protect the woman who is walking alone on a road at night? Does it stop the men who are chasing that woman? Well, I don’t think so. Then why the hell are we doing it?  Because we’ve been doing this from eternity and want to do it every single time that happens. All we do is either blame the victim for provoking the men by dressing up in the wrong fashion or just curse the rapist. It’s been in our habit from ancient times that whenever we face a problem in our life we always trying to run away from it instead of facing it courageously. I don’t know why people don’t understand that by asking a criminal to not commit a crime is similar to provoking him for doing it. Do you think that you would ask a man to not assault any woman in his life and he would obey it? Hell no. I’ll tell you why, because he doesn’t know how it feels when someone tries to steal your dignity from you. Nobody taught him that.
That is the root cause of all this. In our society a woman is treated like an object or more like a robot, when she’s not married she does everything for her family and after she gets married she’s entirely the property of her husband and his family and she has to do whatever they ask her to do. We never tell our boys, that girls are also equal to them and they are to be treated with respect too. We never teach them that if they misbehave with a woman what could be the consequences. They grow up with this mentality and when they try to do something wrong it never crosses their mind that whatever they are going to do that woman could also happen with their own sister or mother or wife. Because even then, they all would be accusing the women herself that she might be wearing a short dress or she was out there late night and all that.
This conservative approach of people towards this thing is the reason why these people have no fear of assaulting women. Every time something bad happens it has to be the lady who provoked the man otherwise he wouldn’t have done that. If we want to stop the crimes against women then a “Candle March” isn’t going to do anything. We need to change the mentality of those people who think that a woman is nothing more than an object for having sexual intercourse. We need to start teaching our kids moral values right from the start like it was done in early Indian culture. The purpose of education is not to make a human capable of earning money but it is to tell them how to behave in a society like a human even after already being a human because if we don’t know how to be sensible, smart and kind in this world then there’s no difference between us and the animals.
I’ll share an incident with you which happened when I was in the High school. So one of my friends was telling us that once in their housing colony a family from a different community came to live there as tenants but since they were from a different community they weren’t getting so much respect in because they were the only family from that particular community. That family had a beautiful girl who was a crush of many boys. But since they were like isolated from that society not many could get to talk to her. One day a group of punks decided to take their avidity of getting near to that girl to the next level and invaded their house.
Now I don’t need to elaborate on what happened next because you probably would’ve guessed that already. Now a question arises that why these boys decided to do that? How they dared to do such a crime. I’ll tell you why, because the leader of those punks was the son of that village’s Sarpanch (A Mayor like personnel who is in charge of everything in a village in India) plus they did this to a girl who was from a family no one would support if anything happens to them and that’s what happened indeed! Can you believe that? A girl’s dignity was attacked brutally and no would stand up for her just because she was from a different community or race? Is that the humanity we talk about? Is that even in human nature? I don’t think so. Even the police didn’t help them because that guy’s father had a little dominance over anything that happens in that society. So eventually they had to leave the town because they had no choice.
Now all of this happened because of the reasons I explained at the start. They had no respect for a woman. They thought they could do anything in that village and no one would stand against them and that’s what happened too. Now the friend who was telling us that story was kind of laughing about it so I asked him what’s so funny about it. A girl was sexually assaulted and you find it funny? He said so what? I should cry about that? What I could’ve done if no one wanted to stand up against those bastards. Then I asked him- if that girl would’ve have been your sister or mother would you still find that funny huh? Then he suddenly got furious and said watch your mouth bro otherwise I’ll crack it. I said I’ve said nothing wrong and if you care about your sister or mother so much that even having a thought of something bad happening with them made you so much furious then just think about the family of that girl who actually had to bear that pain. They didn’t even get justice for what has been done to them and somewhere in her mind that girl will still be having the nightmares about that incident and bearing the pain and agony that society provided her as a gift
After that, my friend didn’t talk to me for days because somehow my words did pierce his armor of conservative thinking. After a few days, he came to me and he said he was sorry about that and I was right. They had to stand up for justice but they didn’t. He also said that he shouldn’t be laughing about that and he’ll never do that again. Now that is what needed to be done, we need to teach the moral values to our kids right from the start rather than worrying about which public is school is best in town for their education. Because schools don’t teach your children how to be a sensible person, it’s their parents who are responsible for raising a child who will be a good human being to this society rather than being a punk.
With this, I rest my case, My Lord!
