i'm proud of you.

You survived. 

You lived. 

Charlotte Eriksson

(via

alunit

)

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Validation: it’s ok that I hurt and want to feel better

Reassurance: I can handle this pain even though it hurts 

Just show up.

I used to skip class because the whole thing was so overwhelming: I had to get dressed in something clean even though I never had the energy to do laundry, walk to school, sit in class for up to three hours, plus pay attention, take notes, and participate in discussion. In reality, I was being a perfectionist, and life would have been a lot easier for me if I had Just Shown Up. By staying home because of my depression and anxiety, I wasn’t giving myself the chance to do any of that. I was such a perfectionist that being a “bad” or average student was unthinkable, so I stopped being a student at all.

I appreciate your apology.

Please make sure it doesn’t happen again.

I am working on forgiving you.

Apology accepted.

Thank you, but I am still having trouble accepting your apology.

Please do better next time.

I can see that.