HelpThroughLove

In recent years, many researchers and content creators have attempted to nail down neurodiversity. On the surface, we know exactly what it is, a kaleidoscope of different neurotypes, culminating in unique strengths, challenges, and perspectives. We understand that different people have different needs, and we reassure neurodiverse and disabled individuals that of course they will be accommodated (until they start becoming a burden). We have many specialised psychologists who have taken courses and are therefore qualified to provide advice – neurotypical advice – on how to care for ourselves. It feels like the advice given perpetually ignores the neurodiverse brain and perspective, hoping to mold us into beautifully conforming neurotypicals.

The epitome of this is summarised in the use of CBT – Cognitive Behavioural Therapy – for neurodiverse people. To summarise, CBT seeks to change faulty cognitions and thus change behaviour. But we are neurodiverse, we are not to be changed, we are not faulty. The first port of call to help a neurodiverse individual improve their wellbeing is already failing them because it reiterates the same message we have received all our lives – You. Must. Change.

Let's get it straight: Autism is a neurotype; ADHD is a neurotype. Neurotypes are simply different brains. This means we receive, process, and relay information differently to other people, not worse. Yes, having these neurotypes can be incredibly disabling, because society was not built to accommodate our neurotypes, meaning we have to find our own ways to survive. But we aren't taught how survive, and thrive, we are taught to conform and repress.

Anyway, this is my little drabble of frustration. I'm just tired of the system and want to see changes, and I commit to being a force that helps to make them. I want to start content creation on this, but, in all honesty, I don't want to be looped in with the people who trivialise neurodiversity and seem to only focus on the late diagnosed presentations. I hope I can be more than basic and I hope I can make change, true change.