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transmasc is not a synonym for a trans person who was afab

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he told multiple of us that we were like sisters and real sisters trust each other and experiment, all with fake scenarios he passed off as real of Sexy Lesbian Experimenting with his Sexy Lesbian Sister. he described himself as a lolicon and loved sharing art of little girls having sex with each other or being raped by adults on his accounts, directly with me, and directly with others. he said talking to us like this was just a natural part of what an older sister or mentor would do.

it took me finally being too uncomfortable with everything to speak up and get this man removed from a community that had plenty of children for him to groom. the number of kids he did this to was in the double digits. even if my statistically insignifcant thing that never happens never truly does happen with anyone other than that one man that is one man who was so desperate to sexually abuse children that he put on a black woman's digital skin knowing that multiple children, mostly children of colour, would think him more trustworthy.

when I talk about these people trying to make pedophilia and pedophilic fantasies normal and acceptable this is what I remember. when I talk about this website's massive grooming and CSEM problem that led to the Apple taking Tumblr off the app store and resulted in the pornography ban, I think of this. when I see someone with a username like cunnyenjoyerxv acting like her right to free speech on a website that doesn't have to obey free speech laws is being violated when she is deleted for mass reblogging pedophilic art from pixiv on her fifteenth remake, I think about the man who would send me higurashi loli art and ask if I'd ever done stuff like that with my friends and would say it's normal why don't you like it when I said it was weird.

Why does my safety not matter? If you want to protect women from assault, or you want to defend your trans sisters, why does that always seem to exclude me? And if you can’t support transfems like me who have been sexually assaulted, can you please at least shut up instead of reminding me of my trauma and portraying girls like me as somehow the dangerous ones in such a messed up way?!

"You don't want to ruin the pastor's reputation over a MISTAKE, do you?"

"You don't want to ruin the lead quarterback's reputation over a MISTAKE, do you?"

"You don't want to ruin your coworker' reputation over a MISTAKE, do you?"

"You don't want to ruin your step parent's reputation over a MISTAKE, do you?"

"You don't want to ruin your teacher's reputation over a MISTAKE, do you?"

"You don't want to ruin this poor, vulnerable trans woman's reputation over a MISTAKE, do you?"

It's the same shit, repackaged, and every single one of us who has been the target of sexual violence has heard it at least once. "You can't punish people forever! It was an accident! It was a mistaaaaake, they didn't meeeean too, you're just eeeeevilllll!"

The punishment, in this case, isn't even jail, it's literally just not having a popular trans voice beg for birthday money on a rapist's behalf. Like, hello? THAT'S worse than death, huh? THAT'S "social lynching," a white woman not having her birthday fundraiser shared? Fuck's sake.

i have a few comments of my own regarding this, though i will largely leave this and let you all be a judge.

what i will say is: look at isff continuing to put the abuser's feelings first while not having the slightest consideration for the mental state or feelings of the victims in question.

what i will say is: look at the phrasing at the beginning. minimizing the actions by refering to abuse as simply "something bad". painting it as just some inconsequential thing.

and yes, sexually assaulting someone is a crime. putting out cigarettes on someone's arm is an act of abuse.

"as long as you lie and call sophie a liar" here she is, outright implying that sophie's victims are lying.

part of me wonders if the "you want her to be removed from her job?" is a memorized formula for her. though i would like to remind you all, this situation began with isff reblogging sophie's fundraiser for a birthday vacation trip and someone informing isff that sophie has sexually assaulted other trans women.

Similar to how she's gone from "not all pedophiles are sex offenders and people use the idea of pedophiles as a bludgeon against minorities" to "no pedophile has ever actually harmed a child and if you say otherwise you're A Transmisogynist ™" to "What's the *actual* harm in raping a child?"

I feel like there are three possibilities here:

This is what she's always believed. She's just gone mask-off now. Maybe she's trying to groom young trans girls and pre-emptively cover for her own behavior.

She's been radicalized. She used to be just a regular obnoxious aspiring leftist, but with every successive bad take she's alienated more people who might have given her a reality check and now she's surrounded by trans women who are rapists and pedophiles she feels obligated to defend because at this point they're her only friends.

i just want you to know that you don't have to live like this. i know, it fucking sucks being surrounded by people who literally want you dead just for existing, doesn't it? it's easy to just target the people who don't hide it instead, isn't it? i mean, nobody suspects a thing from you when you're so vocal about it. nobody suspected anything from me.

but now? god, i'm beyond sickened that i allowed someone like you, who's literally an active kiwifarms user and was hiding it, to influence my mind so much that i joined your transmisogynist bandwagon. i thought maybe if i hated people who are open with their paraphiles enough, i would finally hate myself enough to indoctrinate myself out of having these attractions through therapyspeak and chemical lobotomies and all the other things you demand us paraphiles do in order to participate in society.

i was wrong. just like you are.

thank god i've decided to stop hating myself and thus taking my hate out on others. i'm so much happier now, radically accepting myself for who i am. i have been a paraphile my whole life, and there's nothing wrong with that. attraction does not equal action, thought crimes are not real, nobody can arrest me for jerking off to whatever fantasies i want in my brain because it's not real.

do you hear me? it's not real. you don't have to feel guilty about it.

just accept yourself. get away from the chuds on kiwifarms, stop spending all your time trying to get trans women banned for existing as their authentic selves, take your head out of your ass and accept yourself.

please.

SHE IS the dangerous community leader who relies on social amnesia to allow cycles of abuse to continue!!! because protecting lolishota porn & serial rapists is more important to her than other transfem victims of abuse!!! these are not false accusations!!! you can't just call anyone who disagrees with you or hates you a kiwifarmer!!! these are the consequences of her fucking actions!!!

i have a few comments of my own regarding this, though i will largely leave this and let you all be a judge.

what i will say is: look at isff continuing to put the abuser's feelings first while not having the slightest consideration for the mental state or feelings of the victims in question.

what i will say is: look at the phrasing at the beginning. minimizing the actions by refering to abuse as simply "something bad". painting it as just some inconsequential thing.

and yes, sexually assaulting someone is a crime. putting out cigarettes on someone's arm is an act of abuse.

"as long as you lie and call sophie a liar" here she is, outright implying that sophie's victims are lying.

part of me wonders if the "you want her to be removed from her job?" is a memorized formula for her. though i would like to remind you all, this situation began with isff reblogging sophie's fundraiser for a birthday vacation trip and someone informing isff that sophie has sexually assaulted other trans women.

THE HARM TO TRANS WOMEN WAS THE RAPE, ACTUALLY!

Hmm now what does this line remind me of..

Are they disposable because they MIGHT hurt someone? Why is it when some transmascs are abusive she shuns the entire group because "That's not what a brother does!" But when it comes to Sophie's documented cases of abuse, suddenly it's about "caring deeply for [sophie] as a sister"?

And not only that, but flat-out telling transfems speaking up about their experiences that THEY'RE the dangerous ones and they're "not her sisters". But nobody is disposable, right ISFF? You should have that transfem's back no matter what, right? Or does that only apply when your rapist buddy wants to take a fun little birthday trip to New Zealand? With sisters like ISFF, who needs enemies???

No yeah I was literally thinking about it earlier, when it comes to the subject of trans women being raped, abused, or otherwise mistreated by a partner, she’s so quick to jump on it as long as the perpetrator is a trans man or otherwise TME. But when it comes to multiple trans women claiming to have been raped and abused by another trans woman, she won’t even hear them out and basically just says they need to shut up about it or they’re a danger to their sisters.

THE HARM TO TRANS WOMEN WAS THE RAPE, ACTUALLY!

Hmm now what does this line remind me of..

I dont have the words anymore. She deserves all the community, all the friends and all the support she has lost and continue to lose. This is her purely acting in self interest, because she is a pedophile and wants to be allowed into communities and given support. She wants access to people she and people like her can hurt.

I need everyone here to get their shit together and stop saying isff is a troll, or a fed, or a psyop. Trans people are capable of being horrible people as well, we're still people and have the same capacity for harm as any other fucking person.

She talks about chosing sides? I have chosen the side that keeps victims and vulnerable people safe from perpetrators. She has chosen the side of perpetrators and abusers. Despite all the horrific harassment, the transphobia, the rape and death threats, I will continue to hold this position.

Oh I see you little racist chunky Dutch deer.