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Set aside 6 months for you. Let me tell ya, focusing and working on yourself is so addictinggg! Cooking yourself nourishing meals, doing things outside of your comfort zone, learning, spending time alone, doing the hobbies you enjoy, finding new hobbies you enjoy, meditating, celebrating your body by moving it in some way daily, taking yourself out on dates, self care, re-parenting yourself, allll of it! 

Ever since I embarked on this journey I have grown so much and am so proud of myself! All of my friends are telling me I’m glowing, I’m 1000x more confident, I’m 10x hotter - mentally and physically, I’m setting boundaries and not taking any sh*t, immediately leaving when my needs aren’t being met, let me tell you this journey overall feels so good!! 

There are of course times where it doesn’t feel so good because when you elevate, whoo chile let me tell you, the mess comes out. People you thought would be in your life forever leave because you’re vibrating on different frequencies, it gets lonely because you’re setting boundaries and not settling for less, you meet people who bring out darker sides of you in order to heal but trust when I say it is always for your higher good and it is so worth it. 

Ladies, the best thing we can do for ourselves is embark on a journey of self care and self love. It will be the best decision you’ve ever made. Set aside at least 6 months for just YOU. Where all you do is focus on yourself and your journey. Whatever that means for you!

Love and being in a relationship is great but if you don’t have a solid foundation within yourself, any connection you try to build will eventually fall because half of the foundation isn’t stable. But don’t do this just for love, do this for you. 

(in other words, how to put yourself 1st)

1. Before making a decision, ask yourself, “Is this beneficial for me?”

2. Second ask yourself, “Do I want to do this? If so why?” Make sure that whatever you do is serving your best interests.

3. Always take care of your needs. Treat yourself like you would your child. Maintain your basic hygiene. Make sure you've eaten and drank water. Keep up with your skin care. Give yourself compliments and support your dreams. Be financially stable and provide security for yourself. Give yourself everything you desire.

4. Don’t rush or let others push you into doing something you don’t want to.

5. Put your standards on the pedestal. Form your own judgement about things and don’t be persuaded easily.

6. Do what you set your mind to regardless of opposition.

7. Always be in tune with what you desire and never compromise your standards.

8. Fill your own cup first. Invest in yourself.

9. Set clear boundaries and start saying no when you mean it.

10. Release all shame surrounding your self prioritization. Understand, people won’t care about your wellbeing. You have to be the one looking out for you.

11. Gate-keep yourself from those undeserving of your love and energy.

12. Don't tell all your business. Move in silence and cherish your privacy.

13. Stay self-sufficient.

14. Do the things YOU enjoy. Have your favorite cup of coffee. Eat your favorite snack. Watch your favorite show. Do tarot readings. Read occult books. Wear makeup. Dress up. Don't shrink your beliefs, lifestyle or presence just because someone else disagrees with it.

15. Ignore unsolicited advice.