Autumn Lavis, the ex-girlfriend of Jake Mcelfresh (Front Porch Step), has shared a detailed Tumblr post recalling her relationship with Jake. Her story includes insight into Jake’s manipulative personality, 19 girls that he cheated on her with, how she spoke with Kevin Lyman and informed him that Jake was not sticking to his treatment, how he had intentions to meet up with minors, and much more. You can read her story here.

Autumn also shared a phone conversation that she recorded between herself and Jake where Mcelfresh admits to sleeping with prostitutes, cheating, and talking to minors. You can listen to that here.

On a personal note, we at Pup Fresh see Autumn as being extremely courageous through all of this–for not only being so open in detailing her past, but for sticking up for herself and walking away from a manipulative relationship. Thank you, Autumn.

by Zack Zarrillo

Jenée Desmond-Harris, writing for Vox on societies’ addressing non-groups of guys by “guys”:

“Whatever Webster’s dictionary says about the plural ‘guys’ ['used in plural to refer to the members of a group regardless of sex’] and despite the fact that I sometimes catch myself saying 'you guys’ to people of all genders, 'guy’ is a gendered word.” (Says Jeane Anastas)

That very fact — that it’s gendered —is true whether or not we’re thinking about reinforcing male privilege or alienating women or promoting sexism when we say it.