just tryna get my head in the game

do people on tumblr like. realize that friendships arent therapy

this is how yall end up going around calling every ex-friend your abuser. its nice for your friends to be able to drop everything for you when youre having a bad time, but its literally NOT mandatory. your friends should not have to ignore their own problems to fix yours. get some therapy.

as a friend, you are allowed to say “i would really love to help you right now, but i cant push back my own issues to help you. im going through my own problems right now, and thats what i need to focus on”. it is NOT selfish. you arent going to be of any help to the people you care about if youre in bad shape and not taking care of yourself. its only going to make you worse for wear.

you've gotta be the first person I've seen studying quantum physics on my dash! that's what I spend all my time doing these days so it's cool to see someone else uhhhh not-suffering too hahah

“not-suffering” is definitely an untrue statement 😂 it’s interesting but god it’s hard!

you’ve got that right hahah 😅

WELL THEN

We learned about this in Child Development. And we learned to reward hard work and not good job. Like don’t say to a child, “oh you are so smart.” Say “Oh did worked so hard.” Be proud of the child, not the achievement.

Be proud of the child, not the achievement.

This is why “you’re so smart” means absolutely nothing to me any more. It’s used as punishment as often as it’s used as praise. 

I, this explains so much. Like. When I got to eighth grade, I just, stopped turning things in if they weren’t done or if I didn’t think I did good enough

put “top 5” anything in my ask and i will answer ok go

to everyone who has already sent something to my inbox… and to everyone who wants to send me something: i’ll be answering a ton of questions tonight and maybe even tomorrow, so please send me questions, i’m bored!