Day by Day

Repeat after me

FOREPLAY IS YOUR FRIEND!

Hold up … why are y'all afraid of a little lube????

Condoms are your friends.

Oh and your energy is everything.

Omg please stop expecting people who have no to little experience with sex to be doing magic tricks with you.

Regarding that last one. I’ve had one too many straight men listen to me say that most of my sexual experience is with women and still get disappointed that I find blowjobs difficult. Like, dude, this is not the kind of oral I’m used to, give me a minute before you start jabbing my gag reflex. Also that they just expect it and don’t even ask what I want.

Porn ain’t real life. I say this especially to the women that are becoming sexually active. You will not be able to do a split on the dick the first time. You will not be able to deep throat dick without practice.

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Re-reblogging to add from (painfully) personal experience: vaginismus is a thing. It’s not your fault, if you have some form of it. It doesn’t mean you’re hopelessly broken. It doesn’t mean you suck at fucking. It just means you’re going to struggle with some stuff more than other people with vaginas, and so many people with vaginas have this problem and don’t address it properly because they don’t know they can. Same shit above applies, except more. Go slow and demand patience. Learn your own muscles. Learn what works for you. Use TONS of lube. Advocate for yourself. Possibly talk to a doctor if it’s real bad. You deserve to have sex that doesn’t hurt.

I will probably die before I understand why most men hate foreplay so much, I mean… It is life! If you both like or even love each other, shouldn’t you enjoy and appreciate the connection between you before you have penetration? Like wtf, sex isn’t only penetration itself, is the whole fucking process, and if you can’t keep your fucking dick out of a vg just cause caressing one’s body is too overwhelming and tedious, then bro, it’s time for you to leave.

Thank you for the person who brought up Vagininsmus! For whatever reasons that you have it…remind yourself daily that you aren’t less of a woman just because you’re struggling with that. Luuuuuube will always be your friend! Always always. Don’t be scared to spend some coints on great lube and even on a great dildo. Extend that foreplay by pulling out the dildo and allowing your partner to use it on you. It allows your muscles to relax, you to get more comfortable with your partner and ends up being a fun time for both of you!

@jehovahhthiccness

Nah bruh you can just subtract yourself @platinumnib from the conversation since you have nothing relevant to add

Love this. I’m not very experienced at all. I get ridiculed and the guy got butthurt because i didn’t want it anymore. You literally think i still want to bone you after you blatantly insult me?! I’M A VIRGIN AND YOU EXPECT ME TO RIDE YOU LIKE A MOTHERFUCKN MOTORCYCLE. I LITERALLY HAVE NO IDEA WHAT I’M DOING.

If your compassion does not include yourself, it is incomplete.