let's escape by standing still!

"Oh are we doing this right now?!"

The Team knocks out a security guard and steals their radio. The team mimic can perfectly replicate the knocked out guard’s voice. They get caught because they pronounced the name of the company correctly.

The Team disables an alarm. The only way to do this is to rip it out of the wall and disassemble it until it physically can’t make noise anymore. This very loud process is clearly heard by the posted security guard nearby, who rolls their eyes and text their supervisor that the logistics contractors are fooling with the alarms again.

The Team breaks into the facility at night. There they meet a single security guard who is chanting potential names for NPCs in their DnD campaign out loud while they do their patrols. They encounter a fire extinguisher. They pause in their chanting to check that it is properly charged and to apply a sticker that reads, “Anal use only”. This guy is disgustingly good at their job. There’s no way around it, they’re going to catch you. And you’re going to have to deal with the fact that you’ve been had by someone who has a supply of stickers that say “Anal use only” and who unironically wanted to name their NPC shopkeep Mammogrammus.

The Team attempts to bribe a security guard. This is its own post but know there’s no way in hell that would work.

The Team breaks into the high security room and disables all the alarms. Security control sends several guards to investigate why there are no alarms going off.

The Team attempts to break into the high security room but can’t because it’s randomly decided not to let anyone at all in today.

The Team steals a keycard with “””””unlimited””””” access to the facility and gets caught because the computer system that manages keycards randomly revokes access for no reason.

Twice in my youth (once in high school and once in college) I was in situations where I was asking someone out and I could tell they were calculating in their heads the risks of rejecting me, and both times I said, out loud, "you can say no, I wouldn't have asked if I wasn't prepared for either answer." And then they said no. This wasn't some spark of special wisdom I had - I knew to do it because feminist conversations among my age group brought it up regularly. This isn't happening nearly enough anymore.

More recently, I was really glad when we got to "rejection sensitive dysphoria" in my IOP program and it was one of those symptoms where the therapists really emphasized how it affects others. Because it does.

you can't avoid consequences or accountability by using therapy speak or saying your disorder made you do it so i can’t be upset and i need to do what you say. fuck that.

"i have rejection sensitive dysphoria so you need to say ‘yes’ or else you're an abuser and an ableist."

i have rejection sensitive dysphoria too. do you know what i do? i don't abuse people. i journal about feeling hurt, and then i reflect and remind myself of stuff like "this person setting a boundary doesn't mean they hate me” and "the fact that they felt safe enough to tell me they were uncomfortable shows that they still care”. if your rsd causes you to manipulate and force people into shit, WORK ON THAT.

"i'm autistic so social cues and boundaries are hard for me so it's not my fault if i violate you" (this one especially pisses me off since i experienced this firsthand from one of my abusers and his defenders)

guess what? i'm autistic too. i struggle to tell when people are uncomfortable and what made them uncomfortable. and i know social cues are really hard for us, but there is NOTHING more direct than the word “no”. there is nothing more direct than someone outright stating they don’t want something. and sometimes a lack of consent can be subtle, i'll admit, but that’s why you should ask "hey can i do this" or "did it make you uncomfortable when i did that”. it is important for everyone to respect consent, and a disability does not exempt you from that. if your autism causes you to violate people, WORK ON THAT.

i can only speak on how people use rsd and asd as a shield because i don't have the other disorders that people try to justify abusive behaviour with, but if your disorder "makes you" abuse people, WORK ON THAT. it is not impossible to change or improve. it is not ableist to ask you not to hurt others. in fact, claiming you cannot change because of your disorder enforces the stereotype that mentally ill people are inherently dangerous and abusive. i would argue that using a stereotype that has been used to imprison and involuntarily commit people with mental health issues for centuries to justify your actions is at least a bit on the ableist side.

"you're manipulative toxic and abusive for not letting me do this / you saying no triggered me and you made me have a panic attack it’s your fault / etc..."

stop misusing terms meant for trauma survivors and people with mental health issues. guilting people into sex and romantic relationships is still bad even if you coat it in therapy speak.

it's so frustrating watching people use my disabilities to ”get away” with the same terrible actions that were inflicted on me. respect consent or fuck off. no ifs, ands, or buts.

🎶 and that makes me frownnnnn 🎶

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