Sad Girls Club

- An adjunct professor

- A lawyer

- A real estate agent

- A state legislator

- A CEO of a company

A LOT of these people, thorough their occupations, family connections, what-have-you, all had varying degrees of institutional power to inflict their menacing politics on people and harm them. Do you think a MAGA real estate agent is gonna help a black family looking for a good home at a fair price without regards to whatever the neighborhood is? Do you think that MAGA teacher or that MAGA university adjunct professor is treating his non-white students fairly? Are you sure that MAGA CEO gives a single fuck about creating a safe working environment or not discriminating against employees that aren't white? We all know the power of a racist legislator, but even a single racist, with the backing of the white supremacy system, can ruin a life pretty effortlessly.

White supremacy is a cancer. It infests and infects every aspect of a person's life. It is truly insidious.

I don't know how to wrap this up conclusively but maybe this tweet thread will sum it up better

for example, no you don’t owe anyone anything in that if some creep is trying to get with you, you can block him without feeling bad. you don’t owe kindness to people who are transphobic or racist or bigoted.

but, you can’t use this as an excuse to fuck over people who have helped you. “you don’t owe anyone anything” isn’t an excuse to allow yourself to forget compassion and basic empathy, it isn’t an excuse for you to be an asshole just because you find it easier to be one

relationships aren’t transactional in that if your partner does something nice for you, you are indebted to them. they do these things because they love you; it is their choice to express love through these gestures

but they are transactional in that you both actively need to be putting time and care into the relationship. ignoring the dynamic of one person caring too much (and putting in excessive (emotional an literal) work and labor) while the other does nothing isn’t healthy. one person can’t solely take and the other person can’t solely give- that’s dangerous, and you can’t put the bandaid of “this isn’t transactional” over a relationship that is draining you in all capacities