Steamed Up Teapot

A few confused anons of RU have mentioned they don’t know who Kaida is, and since I’m still fairly bitter I’m explaining it all here.

I’ve tried to only cover what has evidence or is public record, and since her blogs are blocked by me I haven’t gone on to them to search for anything. 

If you have any more receipts then please feel free to PM them to me, I won’t release your information, and I’ll update this.

Who is she?

Kaida (previously Taiga) is the mod of Petite Ponies and has an unknown position of power in Camp Agere (previously Agere League). She previously modded Kidhearts, previously modded Teenietots is a member of The Ailing System, and would be best known by her store Precious Heart Pacifiers.

What is the problem with her? 

Put simply she has been accused of bullying and abusive behaviour on multiple occasions by multiple people. Most of these accusations come down to the fact she is needlessly rude, aggressive, and controlling, as well as using her illnesses to manipulate sympathy. Kaida is not only largely disliked, but also feared. x x x x x x x x x

There are also accusations of her system and illnesses being faked or exagerrated though there isn’t much proof regarding that. x x x x

Issues started back when she was modding kidhearts, but there aren’t many public claims. x

The initial public claims start when I disbanded the Agere Council and left tumblr, as I told Evie about it and she made a public statement when Kaida leaked some of my private information on a discord chat. Since then she has broken tumblr guidelines by viewing my blog despite me blocking her, and tried to discredit me almost as soon as I returned to tumblr. x x | x

Kaida then began targeting Evie specifically, because of anons messaging her blog about Kaida and Evie being a prominent member in Agere Society. Evie was made to delete a majority of these and continually attacked and mistreated after. She tried to paint Evie as uncaring, abelist, and say that she was bullying her and not the other way around. It resulted in Kaida pressuring the Society into removing Evie. x x x x x | x | x x x | x

More recently some issues have come up about her business practice, and mistreatment of customers. x x x x x x x 

She also seemed to have made a fake account, or had a friend do so, to join RU’s discord to try and collect receipts. Considering it is a public discord anyone can join this was honestly just silly. Additionally she broke tumblr guidelines by using this fake blog to access RU. x x

Returning to her mistreatment of Evie, Kaida literally blamed Evie for her suicide attempt and when called out for it tried to claim it was a misunderstanding. It was a blatant statement. Peoples reactions to her suicide note, while harsh, are indicative of her character. x | x x x x x x x |x

And finally, she claims to be leaving tumblr but many people leaving the league have claimed she in fact changed names and is now running it. We wait for some kind of proof. x x x x

I’ve just been sent these screenshots, and I feel like I have to defend myself considering how exaggerated the truth of all this is. 

First of all,

Kaida is violating tumblr guidelines by having these screenshots. She is blocked on my blog, and circumventing the block is not allowed.

This was apparently posted on the 17th, the day after my post re-introducing myself. Since she is blocked on all accounts, and not mentioned on my blog until the 19th, it honestly concerns me that she was apparently stalking my blog or had a friend doing so to tell her when I came back. And she can’t have found me through my post to regressionuncensored, since that was the 18th.

Now, on to the content of the message.

1.       My name is Teale, please spell it right my mum went to a lot of trouble fighting my Dad to add the ‘e’ so don’t drop it.

2.       I didn’t ‘up and leave’ kidhearts, I wasn’t comfortable being in a community that allowed dual labels and was feeling pressured to allow teenietot interaction. I talked to Raven about it and stepped down as a mod and a member. I explained I was leaving, and said goodbye to people.

3.       The reason I originally went under Alpha was to avoid assumed bias as an ex-kidheart mod, but I didn’t lie about my identity. Linked here is an explanation about my identity issues, which while public now were part of the private mental health information Kaida originally told people when we disbanded. I identify as Alpha, and originally used female pronouns on the blog before switching to male because of gender-identity issues. In fact Kaida specifically was the person I spoke to about all of these identity issues. I don’t appreciate her using them against me like this to paint me as a liar.

4.       I didn’t start a network, the network didn’t form for a few months in actual fact, I started and ran an information blog.

5.       The only reason a network formed in the first place was because I created a discord to speak to mods, as a lot of their official decisions came through us to be posted, and the formation of a network came about as a group as the next logical step. Kaida was part of the group who decided to form the network. My part in this was organisation, not creation. My mods and I were only there to act as a neutral party to organise and mediate. 

6.       We had to continually stress “we don’t make decisions” and “we aren’t an authority” because we were regularly attacked and harassed on our blog for telling people decisions made by the actual authority. It was stressful running the blog, and even worse trying to keep the council calm and under control. The only reason a voting system was even implemented was because no one could have a calm discussion and there was constant infighting. We had to have timeouts during every discussion and create a list of turns so people would stop yelling over each other. And then we were blamed regularly for things other people decided and it was an awful experience. 

7.       I have literally no idea what she’s talking about with the other network thing. I actually haven’t got the slightest clue I am so confused by that. It didn’t happen at all? If anyone has an explanation as to what the fuck is being referred to please tell me. I’m so confused.

8.       Kaida wasn’t kicked, she left because it was stressful. She still had Raven telling her things, as well as one of her system mates in the server. My memory might be wrong though, I can’t be certain she wasn’t kicked at some point.

9.       I don’t know what screenshots she’s referring to as I can’t view kaida-keeps-on, so I assume I’m blocked. Can’t make any commentary on this.

10.   Kaida made a nasty comment about my friend. I was under a lot of stress, emotionally drained, recovering from a suicide attempt, and fucking tired. I said I was done, and left a group chat we were in. Screenshots following explain the whole ‘sib’ mess she keeps bringing up. I was not the politest in the situation, but I was upset and hurt. 

11.   Everything was deleted because all three mediators were breaking down from stress, practically begging to stop running the original information blog and being told we had to, being attacked and harassed, and I said “fuck this”. I offered the server to three people I trusted who all refused it, didn’t trust anyone else to take it, allowed Vullby to respond to the person who was attacking them with as much aggression as was deserved as this same person had been badmouthing them for a while and was now publicly harassing them, and deleted. It had nothing to do with whatever the hell Kaida is trying to refer to (still confused).  And as for not considering how the members would react to deleting, I tried but no one would take it.

Considering this is a blockpost about me I don’t understand why Vullby was brought up so often, that was just unnecessary and further proves Kaida is still holding a grudge for no reason.

I’m actually fairly uncomfortable with the continued use of she and Gupi when all of this is in reference to Alpha, but that’s a separate issue.

Finally,

So.

Evie speaks out against Kaida for abusing her, and then defends herself when Kaida blames her in a possible suicide note (something widely viewed as abusive), then defends herself again as the blog is flooded with people being unfairly personal and calling her character into question for defending herself.

But no one has taken issue with the other people saying Kaida abused them.

No one took any issue when I submitted my post about how Kaida mistreated me, in fact several people came to me to either apologise for listening to her and mistreating me, or to talk about how they were also mistreated.

All this blame is on Evie, for defending herself from things brought to her blog or against her name. Something everyone else in agere is allowed and encouraged to do. Has she been the most polite about it all? No, but that's perfectly justified considering the personal nature of most of these attacks.

I don't think half of the people messaging actually care for Kaida, I think they're just trying to find an excuse to attack Evie again.

AgeRe tumblr needs someone to vilify, and they tend to choose people who really don't deserve it. I've been that person, I've been friends with many people who were that person, Evie has been that person twice, and do you want to know something? Almost every time it's happened Kaida's the one who forced someone into that position.

Evie and I don't agree about everything, and she has some very controversial opinions, but she's not this demon you've all created out of her. She's someone who's made mistakes and was never given a chance to recover from those mistakes, instead being treated like a monster and badmouthed whenever she tried to fix things.

And through all of this she's remained very kind. Yeah, she's a bitch. She admits to it and I've seen it, but she's also always trying to help. She signal boosts suicide notes, and offers advice when she can. She helped me get myself out of agere when it had reached a point I couldn't cope, and she's done the same for others. She helps, and is kind, despite this community continuing to mistreat her.

I won't say Evie hasn't done things wrong in the past, I don't know everything about her and I was absent from tumblr for a long time. But right now? She is doing nothing but defending herself.

Alignments aside, anyone can answer because I'm curious. Feel free to send an ask if you wish to be anonymous.

What do you want out of a community?

What do you think causes communities to fail?

Is there a reason you do/don't align yourself with a community?

What's your favourite thing about communities?

Your least?